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So far since I woke up this morning I have been getting picked on by my husband and daughter. It seems like neither of them thinks I do anything but sit around all day. I admit I do sit down a lot. I have stage 4 kidney failure. My one leg is swollen and makes it hard to get around but I try. I know my daughter worries about me and the fact that I am getting older every minute. I just wish I would stop getting yelled at every day.
Stage 4 CKD ?.. so you spend a lot of time at the doctors and the hospital then ?.. I have stage 3 CKD.. I am dreading it ever turning into stage 4.. do tell me how you deal with it please and what to expect ?
 

Warm and sunny again today. Yippee. Now the weatherdudes are saying the cold front will come through tonight. Thursday's my day off. It's gonna rain.

Well. Our newbie finally got to start yesterday morning. She's a godsend. I told her that we were worried that she'd get another job because of the "job freeze" that wasn't and isn't.

Guess what! She did get another job at the supermarket across the street and was supposed to start yesterday. She accepted, then got a call from Kroger to start yesterday. The place across the street pays a bit more but doesn't offer tuition reimbursement and only offered 20/hours/week for the first couple of months. Like the rest of the working world, she needs a full-time job. Whew! We dodged that bullet by a hair.

Big but...she's only scheduled for 30 hours this week. Our sir said that's gonna change PDQ. She's scheduled off tomorrow but asked if she could come in for a couple of hours. Sir said yes.

She can already, after just two days, do almost everything that I can do and just as fast. Only have to tell her or show her once what's needed and it's like it's been tattooed into her brain. If the lord's willing and the creeks don't rise, as we used to say in Texas, she'll stay.

When we clocked out yesterday and again today, all the work was done. She said Kroger should have been paying me for two people for the past year. Can you believe that it took both of us working six hours the past two days to get the job done each day? As in done! Yay!

For a nice change I haven't had to work like a plow horse for two whole days.

@Sassycakes...tell 'em to walk a mile in your shoes...
 
So far since I woke up this morning I have been getting picked on by my husband and daughter. It seems like neither of them thinks I do anything but sit around all day. I admit I do sit down a lot. I have stage 4 kidney failure. My one leg is swollen and makes it hard to get around but I try. I know my daughter worries about me and the fact that I am getting older every minute. I just wish I would stop getting yelled at every day.
What are they yelling at you about? What do they expect you to do?

My husband, who spends all his time sitting in his room, also thinks I just sit around all day and that I do nothing. He works from home on the computer, 8 hours, then sleeps 10 to 12 hours a day, and watches tv the rest of the time, in his room, except for trips to the frig.

When I question his doing nothing he says I just sit around as well. I quiz him on who vacuums, who does the dishes, who mops the floor, who cleans the bathroom and on and on cause he does nothing. Literally nothing.

Make a list of what you do. Include even the smallest thing. Most of us do “invisible” stuff. Like picking up his dropped food wrapper off the floor, or liquids he’s spilled etc. next time they say you do nothing, hand them the list.

And when they yell at you, put your fingers in your ears, stick your tongue out, and wag your head in a no motion. They will get the point eventually.
 
So far since I woke up this morning I have been getting picked on by my husband and daughter. It seems like neither of them thinks I do anything but sit around all day. I admit I do sit down a lot. I have stage 4 kidney failure. My one leg is swollen and makes it hard to get around but I try. I know my daughter worries about me and the fact that I am getting older every minute. I just wish I would stop getting yelled at every day.
I can't imagine how you deal with this every day, being yelled at.
 
Stage 4 CKD ?.. so you spend a lot of time at the doctors and the hospital then ?.. I have stage 3 CKD.. I am dreading it ever turning into stage 4.. do tell me how you deal with it please and what to expect ?
Hollydolly, as I posted before, I too have stage 3 CKD. Annual testing didn't happen during Covid, but I had a check up recently (blood & urine).
Results were good. Urine OK, kidney function stable and no concern raised. Only advised to keep a check on BP. This I've been told is the main influence in CKD, so I'm keeping an eye on it.
It isn't possible to reverse CKD, but you can slow or stop it progressing.
 
Hollydolly, as I posted before, I too have stage 3 CKD. Annual testing didn't happen during Covid, but I had a check up recently (blood & urine).
Results were good. Urine OK, kidney function stable and no concern raised. Only advised to keep a check on BP. This I've been told is the main influence in CKD, so I'm keeping an eye on it.
It isn't possible to reverse CKD, but you can slow or stop it progressing.
yes I know all that Captain. thanks ...... and I'm not on any special diet, in fact my doc says they'll keep an eye on it, bt I've been diagnosed now for 3 or 4 years and never had any more specific 'eye on it'' tests.. but I also know stage 4 is much more serious,
 
Stage 4 CKD ?.. so you spend a lot of time at the doctors and the hospital then ?.. I have stage 3 CKD.. I am dreading it ever turning into stage 4.. do tell me how you deal with it please and what to expect ?
So far I just have visits with my kidney Doctor every few weeks to see if it has gotten more advanced. If it does then I will need dialysis.
 
Warm and sunny again today. Yippee. Now the weatherdudes are saying the cold front will come through tonight. Thursday's my day off. It's gonna rain.

Well. Our newbie finally got to start yesterday morning. She's a godsend. I told her that we were worried that she'd get another job because of the "job freeze" that wasn't and isn't.

Guess what! She did get another job at the supermarket across the street and was supposed to start yesterday. She accepted, then got a call from Kroger to start yesterday. The place across the street pays a bit more but doesn't offer tuition reimbursement and only offered 20/hours/week for the first couple of months. Like the rest of the working world, she needs a full-time job. Whew! We dodged that bullet by a hair.

Big but...she's only scheduled for 30 hours this week. Our sir said that's gonna change PDQ. She's scheduled off tomorrow but asked if she could come in for a couple of hours. Sir said yes.

She can already, after just two days, do almost everything that I can do and just as fast. Only have to tell her or show her once what's needed and it's like it's been tattooed into her brain. If the lord's willing and the creeks don't rise, as we used to say in Texas, she'll stay.

When we clocked out yesterday and again today, all the work was done. She said Kroger should have been paying me for two people for the past year. Can you believe that it took both of us working six hours the past two days to get the job done each day? As in done! Yay!

For a nice change I haven't had to work like a plow horse for two whole days.

@Sassycakes...tell 'em to walk a mile in your shoes...
So glad you got some decent help, @Georgiagranny !!
 
After a treacherous walk after the first real snow days of the year, I’m going to take off the boots I had for sale online. I hadn’t used them but the way things are going it’s expected to be a bad winter. And it’s cold and my feet and fingers are freezing.
 
I just was looking at a site telling you what some rich people like Henry Winkler paid for their homes. Millions and Millions of dollars. Maybe I am stupid but if I had that kind of money I would never spend it on a house I would share it with people that needed help. Just the other day One of the drawings was for billions of dollars. I was dividing it in my mind and I couldn't think of what anyone could do with all that money. What is so special about a home that costs millions of dollars when there are people that can't even afford food?
 
Nothing exciting, I was bored so I just made a batch of jewish bisscotti called mandlebread, It is more of shortbread type of cookie. I put rainsins and walnuts in mine. It has cinnammon sugar baked on top. I searched forever for the recipe. My husbands aunt always brought them to family reunions.

I was going to make english muffin bread next but am feeling a little tired, Maybe tommorrow. I also want to make chocolate chip cookies for the little boys across the street. They all have albinism so don't get out that much. They are precious and I like to take them a treat now and then.
 
Went to the doctor today, 5 weeks and 2 days post-op. Got mostly good news, but not all.

On the positive side he said I was progressing quite well, my range of motion and walking are about where they expect someone to be at 12 weeks. Good news I guess, but it makes me realize what a long slow process this is going to be.

I can walk, but my knees hurt and I am a lot less stable than I'd like to be. One real limitation is strength in my quads, they still really hurt and are weak. For example I cannot stand from a chair without having arms or something to push off of. And I can only do squats assisted, that's with my hands holding something overhead and pulling. The doctor said that was normal, and again I was doing better than expected.

So I asked him realistically how long until I can walk and get around anything like normal, and without pain. He said that takes about 6 to 12 months on average. And by having both knees done it impacts me more than most who do one knee at a time. As the doctor and physical therapist often remind me I don't have a good leg to stand on, LOL. I do not regret doing both knees, troublesome as this is I sure would not want to do it twice...

Anyway I got myself into this, and I'll get through it. Still optimistic my knees will be a lot better, someday...
 
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Went to the doctor today, 5 weeks and 2 days post-op. Got mostly good news, but not all.

On the positive side he said I was progressing quite well, my range of motion and walking are about where they expect someone to be at 12 weeks. Good news I guess, but it makes me realize what a long slow process this is going to be.

I can walk, but my knees hurt and I am a lot less stable than I'd like to be. One real limitation is strength in my quads, they still really hurt and are weak. For example I cannot stand from a chair without having arms or something to push off of. And I can only do squats assisted, that's with my hands holding something overhead and pulling. The doctor said that was normal, and again I was doing better than expected.

So I asked him realistically how long until I can walk and get around anything like normal, and without pain. He said that takes about 6 to 12 months on average. And by having both knees done it impacts me more than most who do one knee at a time. I do not regret doing both knees, troublesome as this is I sure would not want to do it twice...

Anyway I got myself into this, and I'll get through it. Still optimistic my knees will be a lot better, someday...
@Alligatorob
Patience, Rob. You are doing really well, as your doctor says. However, you may be expecting too much,
too soon. Knee implants take longer to recuperate from, and the discomfort is greater than hip implants. I commend you for your resolve. You are one strong fellow.
 
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I always thought that hip replacements were the worst. Now hearing your experience the knees must be worst. It makes since, the knees have so much weight to bear when you are walking and bending. The hip replacement was not a picnic in the park but what you are doing sounds so much harder in recovery. The only thing I can say is listen to your therapist and lean in to that. Do all the exercises they recommend and be as active as possible. Do not overdo it as that could set you back. I was lucky enough to recover well without set backs. Men are more likey to do more than than they should, you crazy guys, so just be patient with yourself!!
 
I always thought that hip replacements were the worst. Now hearing your experience the knees must be worst. It makes since, the knees have so much weight to bear when you are walking and bending. The hip replacement was not a picnic in the park but what you are doing sounds so much harder in recovery.
Following my hip replacement my surgeon told me to avoid impact exercise, meaning jogging or running. He recommended swimming and cycling which is what I do. You should see my cycling attire, not exactly a lycra-lout.
 
Following my hip replacement my surgeon told me to avoid impact exercise, meaning jogging or running. He recommended swimming and cycling which is what I do. You should see my cycling attire, not exactly a lycra-lout.
I just walk, I would love to swim but is not easy to do on the open pool time I have available. I am sure I would not attempt the the cycling, if anything I would prefer to swim or skate, either roller or ice skate as I did that in my younger years. Maybe, if I win the lottery I could have a pool in the yard.
 

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