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Sorry that you have to go through the same thing everyday but I don't think either of us could do without our pets, so the work if well worth the extra work, right!!
 

Currently the pavements here look clear but the little slip road that runs along the side looks very icy and there is still some snow on the roofs and grass. Cold too. Heating is on. I'd like to go out for a walk but, as I don't need to go out, I will likely stay home in the warm and maybe use my spin bike later. Hope you all keep warm and safe today (y)
 
We are off to Sugar Push this afternoon. It's a tea dance, but instead of old time waltzes it's music from The Swing Era. What does sugar push mean? The sugar push is one of the basic moves of Lindy Hop and all swing dances. The lead and follow stay where they are for 6 counts. The sugar push is very stylized, bringing both partners close together and then returning them to where they started, just like in the swingout. The dance runs from 2:00 until 6:00.

Our lovely friends and ourselves will then head on towards Lyndhurst in the heart of The New Forest where we shall enjoy our Christmas get together at The Forage. When we were much younger I remember how there were always so many lonely old people, now having officially reached that old age status, we feel it a privilege to have such an amazing number of good friends, all of whom enjoy the music and dance of the period that is a favourite of ourselves.
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Today…….I’ll shovel the snow away from my garage doors, ready to have the drive cleared tomorrow…..makes sense to do this, because they can only get so close to the doors with the huff bucket.
That may be the only shovelling I do today, being it’s to be the high of -20c.

Had to get out my Bissell Little Green steam cleaner this morning……my wee girl, Shaalee, had a pee accident, took her out, but by the time I carried her out and put her down, she was too cold to pee…..first time ever, that she did this since she was trained as a puppy.
Can’t scold her…..and will not scold her……she’s over 16.
Have a 3ft x 3ft training pad down…..and got a little chunk of pee from outside, and put on it to maybe get her to go there…..she’s unsure of it, never have used these before…..she’s been on it, sniffing…..we’ll see how she does.
 
Have been doing some extra thinking since Thursday…..I know……scary..…can get myself in trouble by doing that.

My foster daughter messaged me on Tuesday, with her usual 4 words……how are you doing ?
First I heard from her since Chelsea’s birthday on the 29th of November.
She only lives 10 or 11 blocks away.
I guess I said the wrong thing again…..why is it been 2 weeks since I’ve heard from you…..I asked this same question in the middle of November, for the same reason…..and many, many times in the past.
Expressed I was feeling somewhat hurt from very little contact / communication…..why is it like this.

Well she turned the table around, and her feelings were hurt because of my question.
Her excuses……
She doesn’t use messenger much…..
Says her phone doesn’t send notices…..you have to set them to do that, right.
She doesn’t have good communication skills…..
Her history with phones……she’s on her 5th or 6th phone in 5 years.
Has a habit of dropping them……cracks the screen……breaks them……kids uses it, very rough on phones.
She hasn’t any minutes for calls or texting……has to buy them……has to go a hour away to buy them.

Probably having no vehicle must be getting to her……..but……when you spend more than you make……life can be tough.

I have been used, hurt and dumped on from many, through my years, but I didn’t expect this from her.

I give them money for their Christmas tree every year…..and again I had to ask if they got it yet…..she said yes…..sent me a pic…..her phone worked great for that.

I have been so generous with them for so many years…....I’m a slow learner…..I’ll get it someday.🙃.

She as of yet, not mentioned anything about the happenings for Christmas Day.

So……I will quit doing so much thinking about this and wait to hear from her……certainly don’t want to hurt her feelings anymore than apparently I already have.

Ok……done thinking for today…..I’ll go find something else to do.
 
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Got the slow cooker out and will make some chicken tortilla soup. It’s quite cold here but lots of sun. Trying to decide if I should put off doing my laundry until tomorrow and go to grocery store today as it is to be raining all day tomorrow. I’m sure whenever I go the place will be packed.
 
The rain has started here , it been raining now for over an hour but unbelievably the snow is so hard and thick, it's not making any impression on it...

I took delivery of my Christmas presents to myself, new Slipper boots.. and a thick hardback book..

I made Steak Chianti Ragu for lunch, and had that in front of the tv watching my favourite show..

It's 4.20pm.. it's dark.. so I've just put the lighted Christmas Candelabra in the Window...
 
MickaC said:
My foster daughter messaged me on Tuesday, with her usual 4 words……how are you doing ?
First I heard from her since Chelsea’s birthday on the 29th of November.
She only lives 10 or 11 blocks away.
I guess I said the wrong thing again…..why is it been 2 weeks since I’ve heard from you…..I asked this same question in the middle of November, for the same reason…..and many, many times in the past.
Expressed I was feeling somewhat hurt from very little contact / communication…..why is it like this.

Well she turned the table around, and her feelings were hurt because of my question.
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Never ask why, don't ask the question. Just be glad, and let her know it, that you enjoy when you do speak, when you do see each other. Some people you just can't express your honest feelings with, they feel attacked. She can't deal with your honesty. Be honest here, with us.
 
The type of relationship with the foster daughter started in this type of pattern many years ago.
When still on the farm…..she lived in a small town about 11 miles from us.
She moved back to this small town, finished her grade 12, by this time she had her first little guy.
She was on welfare…..didn’t hold a job for any length of time…..so it was welfare.
She came to the farm on several occasions in need of money, groceries, etc.
Once she came, because her little guy had to have glasses badly…..we paid for the first pair and the second pair down the road….all she needed to do was to register him with Cree Nation……to obtain benefits for him……she failed to do so for a very long time.
We bought her grad dress.
She managed to have a vehicle sometimes…..was very hard on them.

Spouse and I divorced and sold the farm…..I moved to town…..and her needs continued.

Sadly this type of relationship continued as such……no job…..no interest in a job…..had two more kids…..still continued with the needs.
 
MickaC said:
The type of relationship with the foster daughter started in this type of pattern many years ago.
When still on the farm…..she lived in a small town about 11 miles from us.
She moved back to this small town, finished her grade 12, by this time she had her first little guy.
She was on welfare…..didn’t hold a job for any length of time…..so it was welfare.
She came to the farm on several occasions in need of money, groceries, etc.
Once she came, because her little guy had to have glasses badly…..we paid for the first pair and the second pair down the road….all she needed to do was to register him with Cree Nation……to obtain benefits for him……she failed to do so for a very long time.
We bought her grad dress.
She managed to have a vehicle sometimes…..was very hard on them.

Spouse and I divorced and sold the farm…..I moved to town…..and her needs continued.
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@MickaC
It sounds as though she is still immature. You are to be commended for continuing to keep in touch.
I hope her son is being taken care of properly.
 
horseless carriage said:
We are off to Sugar Push this afternoon. It's a tea dance, but instead of old time waltzes it's music from The Swing Era. What does sugar push mean? The sugar push is one of the basic moves of Lindy Hop and all swing dances. The lead and follow stay where they are for 6 counts. The sugar push is very stylized, bringing both partners close together and then returning them to where they started, just like in the swingout. The dance runs from 2:00 until 6:00.

Our lovely friends and ourselves will then head on towards Lyndhurst in the heart of The New Forest where we shall enjoy our Christmas get together at The Forage. When we were much younger I remember how there were always so many lonely old people, now having officially reached that old age status, we feel it a privilege to have such an amazing number of good friends, all of whom enjoy the music and dance of the period that is a favourite of ourselves.
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I bet there's lots of dancing in your dreams.....🕺🕺🕺 :)
 
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