Let’s talk about hair

Ronni

Ronni

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Until shortly before I left my then-husband in 2004 my hair was waist length because I was forbidden to cut it. Part of my liberation from the man included cutting my hair into a short shaggy cut, much like it is today! It was hugely freeing!!

I started going gray in my 40’s. Just the random strands. For a few years I made my various children pluck out those strands every so often. 🤣 After it became obvious I was going to be bald if I continued that, I started dying my hair various shades of red. Kept that up till my early 60’s.

At that point I decided I just wanted to be a more authentic version of myself, so I grew out the color and ended up with a salt and pepper look that I really disliked. So I helped that along with some gray streaks, artfully applied by my hairdresser, and I’ve been doing that ever since, maintaining the same short shaggy cut.

Sometimes l’ll add other temporary colors to my hair. Turquoise is my fave, but it’s also been pink, purple, blue and green. Not all over color just streaks here and there.

It’s always been very thick and thankfully I haven’t lost any of that thickness as I’ve aged. Used to be very greasy too, when I was young, would sometimes wash it twice a day!

These days I only need to wash it a couple times a week. Don’t blow dry it, just add some product and scrunch it and let it air dry. It used to be very straight but with the advent of menopause it developed waves which I love!!

Ron started shaving/buzzing his head 15 or so years ago after he started going bald. I love his buzzed pate and gray, neatly trimmed beard! 😍
 

Mine.. taken after I had it cut last month...

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People presume because my hair is long that I've never had it cut short.. but that's not the case, in fact as recent as the year of covid I had my hair at neck length.. it just grows fast.. I've had it short /long/mid length... all sorts over the years, but I never had it cut first until I was 22 ... and before than never used any hot appliances including hair-dryers or colour in it...

Co-incidentally I am sitting here now with a towel wrapped around my newly washed hair.. after my shower... I will just comb it out with a wide tooth comb and leave it to dry...
 
A painful subject. I used to have thick, wavy hair. I hated it because it looked messy. All I ever wanted was tidy hair.

I wanted longish hair. You were supposed to go to the hairdresser for a trim and to control split ends. But most hairdressers would give me an extremely short haircut instead of a trim. I began trimming my own hair to avoid this problem.

I used a pick instead of a comb, because my hair was wavy and fragile. 20 years ago my hair was past shoulder length. One day I wanted to look nice for a job interview, and I used a brush. Big mistake! 50% of my hairs broke off and stuck out all over. Of course I had to cut it off.

I've been trying to grow it ever since. Mostly I kept it in a (very short) ponytail, or covered with a baseball cap.

Just in the past month or so, it's finally reached shoulder length. Yay!
 

Both my parents had just a few grey hairs around the periphery of their heads. Mine has done the same....mostly still the brown I've always had but with a small amount of grey.
A few months ago, I caught Covid. I don't know if it was coincidence, but all the grey hair fell out and hasn't grown back. Not as good as it sounds as I now have bald patches where the grey was! I'd be interested in knowing if this has happened to anyone else.
 
Hair not a big deal for me except when it's cold & my bald head feels it. Thanked my wife for wanting me to go completely bald the day after I retired. I admit even I didn't like the way my forehead increased in length until it stretched back to meet the pattern bald in the back.
 
win231 said:
Women are always telling me, "I'd die for hair like yours."

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The photo you posted reminds me of how I looked at a birthday party I once went to many years ago.

Now admittedly it was a fancy dress party, & I was dressed as a Royalist Cavalier from the English Civil War, and I was wearing a long wig. But honestly! the amount of attention I got from woman there. With many of them coming up to me asking if that’s my real hair, and wanting to touch it...

Image below of a Cavalier.

I didn’t stand like this by the way, at the party, just in case you were wondering. Thought it best to point that out. Don't want to give the wrong impression of my life style.

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I used to have very very thick hair, but it is getting thinner. Most people say they can't see my hair loss, but every time I comb it I know. When it gets longer a kind of bald spot appears on top, but not that I can see without mirrors.

My hair used to be brown, now I like to think of it as getting sun-bleached.

In the arid west its pretty straight, but in the humid south it takes on a bit of a waviness, even some curls if I let it get long enough.

Never done anything to it but comb, wash, and cut. Except once when I was about 12 years old and experimented with hydrogen peroxide, that got me in trouble, and a very short hair cut!
 
I was a snowball as a child with fine, straight, fragile white hair that darkened to golden blonde as a teen. I am once again a snowball with white hair, still fragile, so it is kept short. I no longer bother with perms or any colouring. It is strictly wash and wear.

This photo of Hubby and myself was taken about 5 years ago at the wedding of one of our grand daughters.

 
Hair is not my favorite subject right now. Have had three bouts of hair loss over the past year and a half (autoimmune). It was very thick and curly to start with so the loss hasn't been noticeable, but the regrowth after each bout of thinning is noticeable ...since my hair is curly, the three stages of new growth stick out like I've been electrocuted and there's not enough of each stage to cut into layers. Styling involves curl cream to plaster it in place and pinning it into a loose updo.

Through all this, I have learned that using cedarwood, lavander and rosemary essential oils topically in a carrier oil or base such as witch hazel stops thinning. Several studies using the oils showed results as good as minoxidil. Since I've been mixing the oils into my conditioner and leaving it on my scalp for 10 minutes several times a week, I'm losing much less hair in the shower. @Alligatorob ...might want to give this a try!
 
Ronni said:
Until shortly before I left my then-husband in 2004 my hair was waist length because I was forbidden to cut it.
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You cut it? You actually cut it? How very dare you? Much as I like a lady wearing her hair long it has to be her choice. The word forbidden in your text said everything. My lady has never had the inclination or reason to leave me, there again she is her own self. My love of long hair on a lady means zilch, she is her own woman, long hair, short hair, her choice, her decision. For my part that means, deal with it.

Whispers quietly, I do so love her "red" hair appearance. Interpret that as being that grey is not yet on the horizon, even though nature might disagree. How so? You might well ask?
 
I have a full head of white hair it was a brown/sandy color when I was young. I like to color my hair using the coffee/tobacco mixture that I brew in a pot to drink. My hair dyed looks like the color of light coffee/tobacco. I like coffee made from plain coffee grounds and I add about a teaspoon of plain tobacco into the pot before brewing it. I like the effect; the caffeine stimulates me, and the nicotine calms my mind and makes me feel more mellow. Also, a pinch of salt helps it to taste better, and a couple of aspirins helps my pains go away.
 
Mine is completely white, fine and curly. I have it long enough that I can put it up. I have had a problem with it breaking over the last two or three years and am not sure why. The new hair coming in sticks out. I am trying to take better care of it, conditioner, etc.

It is not too bad. A granddaughter recently told me she hopes hers is the same color as mine when she is my age.
 

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