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Nothing wrong with sharing good news or letting others know you have a nice lifestyle. BUT - I have a low tolerance level when it comes to phonies and people who spend their lives trying to impress others. There are different levels, and each situation is unique.
1) Back in the 80s I worked for a few years at a non-profit organization which administered a program helping lower-income residents. A coworker found it necessary to frequently say she was “middle-class”. She carried a badly worn paper bag from Tiffany’s as a tote. To me, this was just sad and screamed of insecurity. When she went on one of her diatribes I noticed eyerolls and some people would suddenly remember a call they needed to make.
2) A former acquaintance (neighbor) always, without fail, would toss some arrogant, braggy comment into every single conversation.
Her late father was a successful doctor.
She attended an expensive ivy-league college.
She only shops at (expensive gourmet store).
Her mother raised the kids to wear white gloves when going out.
(These are just some examples…..it was unending.)
With her I always gave a blank stare and didn’t bother to respond….
(crickets).
If possible I try to ignore this type of bs. Usually when the person doesn’t get the attention and adulation they crave, they will stop the nonsense or move on to someone else. But there’s a technique known as “beandipping” that can be effective.
3) I have a cousin who has worked hard and been extremely successful in his profession. (He’s now retired and does some consulting.) I communicate with him maybe once a year. I’m happy for him, however, his arrogance can be annoying. (“I only have a minute…I’m waiting for a call to see if my new Porsche has been delivered.”) Ugh.
Once he actually told me “People often just want to associate with me because I’m rich”. I responded “Wow, that must make your life very difficult and stressful.” Pause. “So, have you heard that Uncle Bob had surgery? He’s doing well.” <~~~~beandip.
Do you know any pretentious people?
1) Back in the 80s I worked for a few years at a non-profit organization which administered a program helping lower-income residents. A coworker found it necessary to frequently say she was “middle-class”. She carried a badly worn paper bag from Tiffany’s as a tote. To me, this was just sad and screamed of insecurity. When she went on one of her diatribes I noticed eyerolls and some people would suddenly remember a call they needed to make.
2) A former acquaintance (neighbor) always, without fail, would toss some arrogant, braggy comment into every single conversation.
Her late father was a successful doctor.
She attended an expensive ivy-league college.
She only shops at (expensive gourmet store).
Her mother raised the kids to wear white gloves when going out.
(These are just some examples…..it was unending.)
With her I always gave a blank stare and didn’t bother to respond….
(crickets).
If possible I try to ignore this type of bs. Usually when the person doesn’t get the attention and adulation they crave, they will stop the nonsense or move on to someone else. But there’s a technique known as “beandipping” that can be effective.
3) I have a cousin who has worked hard and been extremely successful in his profession. (He’s now retired and does some consulting.) I communicate with him maybe once a year. I’m happy for him, however, his arrogance can be annoying. (“I only have a minute…I’m waiting for a call to see if my new Porsche has been delivered.”) Ugh.
Once he actually told me “People often just want to associate with me because I’m rich”. I responded “Wow, that must make your life very difficult and stressful.” Pause. “So, have you heard that Uncle Bob had surgery? He’s doing well.” <~~~~beandip.
Do you know any pretentious people?
