Do I have legitimate reason to be concerned about my adult children?

S

sunshine412

New Member
My 56 yo daughter fell on the ice and hit her head. When I learned of this I sorta panicked. She kept making light of it but in following days she’s had a sore neck, sore collar bone and sore ab’s. she got a pretty good egg on her head. She is agoraphobic, no health insurance, no money, so basically can’t see a Dr.

This was 4 days ago, and is doing better today. My husband showed no concern nor compassion. (He is her step-dad) I feel so all alone in dealing with his nonchalance. He’s made me feel like I’m worrying for nothing. I don’t know how to get him to understand the potential seriousness of this event.

I need him to be my sounding board but he is not. He has issues with my worrying too much. (I have 4 adult children and the 2 oldest have their share of issues. He has 1 adult child in Canada and has issues with him too) And I do not have anyone in my family to talk to.

I guess I’m just looking for someone to hear me - to talk things through with me . If I can find some good listeners, I have other things on my mind too. Thank you for hearing me out. I’ve never reached out like this before.
 

Does she or you have Web MD? You can at least look up symptoms and it will tell you if she needs to be seen immediately. It should walk you through how to recognize concussion. There's a good chance she just has an egg on her head.
You may want to get her a good home health book.
Can she get Medicaid?
 
sunshine412 said:
She kept making light of it but in following days she’s had a sore neck, sore collar bone and sore ab’s. she got a pretty good egg on her head.
Click to expand...
That's what happens when one bumps their head.
I've done it hundreds of times

No bleeding from the nose or ears?
No dizzy spells?
Not passing out?
No headaches?
No blurred vision?
No vomiting?

Apply a cold pack (bag of frozen veggies)
Move on
 
sunshine412 said:
My 56 yo daughter fell on the ice and hit her head. When I learned of this I sorta panicked. She kept making light of it but in following days she’s had a sore neck, sore collar bone and sore ab’s. she got a pretty good egg on her head. She is agoraphobic, no health insurance, no money, so basically can’t see a Dr. This was 4 days ago, and is doing better today. My husband showed no concern nor compassion. (He is her step-dad) I feel so all alone in dealing with his nonchalance. He’s made me feel like I’m worrying for nothing. I don’t know how to get him to understand the potential seriousness of this event. I need him to be my sounding board but he is not. He has issues with my worrying too much. (I have 4 adult children and the 2 oldest have their share of issues. He has 1 adult child in Canada and has issues with him too) And I do not have anyone in my family to talk to. I guess I’m just looking for someone to hear me - to talk things through with me . If I can find some good listeners, I have other things on my mind too. Thank you for hearing me out. I’ve never reached out like this before.
Click to expand...
I don't know where you guys live. But here in Canada, we can have a phone or a zoom appointment with a doctor if your daughter is unable to leave the home.
 
I hard knock on the head can be dangerous. My husband passed out from a blod clot, his head hit the tile floor. He was transported to the hospital they ran tests on everything as he was a cancer patient on chemo. They did a cat scan everyday he was there of his head.

On the fifth day, he was supposed to be released. I got to the hospital and he was acting very strange. The behavior became worse as time passed. I informed the nurses something is not right. By the afternoon, when the doctor came to see him before release. He asked my husband all kinds of questions, which he could answer.
I told the doctor, we have been together since we were 15 years old. There is something wrong. Well he listened, sent my husband down for another cat scan, yes there was a brain bleed. Not seen earlier on the scans. Doc said he must have had a small tear and it had been building up all weak and then the bleeding got bad.

He was sent up to ICU, He was transfered to a larger hospital during the night where they had a nuerosurgeon. My point things can go bad even days later. @Gary O' gave a good of things to watch for. You also need to pay attention to anything she does or says that is out of character for her, That is the way I knew.

I also want to speak to her agoriaphobia. She needs treatment, I have been thru it but with exposure therapy, group therapy and medication a whole new world could open for her.
She could even start/do this online with a therapist, one step will lead to the next. There is no reason for her to suffer.
 
Of course it's OK to be concerned about your adult children and your daughter had an accident. Can she qualify for medical? Any catholic hospitals in your area? I don't know if they have changed but years ago, they didn't turn people into collection agencies who could not pay.
 
It doesn't sound like she qualifies for emergency care after 4 days, but if her condition "goes south" she is entitled (in United States) to go to the emergency room whether she can pay or not.
"In 1986, Congress enacted the Emergency Medical Treatment & Labor Act (EMTALA) to ensure public access to emergency services regardless of ability to pay. Section 1867 of the Social Security Act imposes specific obligations on Medicare-participating hospitals that offer emergency services to provide a medical screening examination (MSE) when a request is made for examination or treatment for an emergency medical condition (EMC), including active labor, regardless of an individual's ability to pay. Hospitals are then required to provide stabilizing treatment for patients with EMCs. If a hospital is unable to stabilize a patient within its capability, or if the patient requests, an appropriate transfer should be implemented."
 
She'd qualify for state aid, just a few applications and she'd be insured. The agoraphobia might be an issue in an ER. I'm no medical expert, but maybe sounded deadened earphones and sight limiting glasses might help as she can't see/hear a lot of people at one time.
 
Muskrat said:
You would be a poor mama indeed who did not worry about your children. They may get older…but you are still their parent. And a fall where you hit your head can be lethal….so your concern was justified.
Click to expand...
My feelings exactly. Thank you for justifying that for me. Nice to have someone on your side.
 
Disgustedman said:
She'd qualify for state aid, just a few applications and she'd be insured. The agoraphobia might be an issue in an ER. I'm no medical expert, but maybe sounded deadened earphones and sight limiting glasses might help as she can't see/hear a lot of people at one time.
Click to expand...
She has som small coverage. Will see her tomorrow and maybe get some answers. In the 26 years she’s had agoraphobia, she has gradually gone beyond her home to about a 3 block distance. Very slow progress. Thank you.
 
caroln said:
It doesn't sound like she qualifies for emergency care after 4 days, but if her condition "goes south" she is entitled (in United States) to go to the emergency room whether she can pay or not.
"In 1986, Congress enacted the Emergency Medical Treatment & Labor Act (EMTALA) to ensure public access to emergency services regardless of ability to pay. Section 1867 of the Social Security Act imposes specific obligations on Medicare-participating hospitals that offer emergency services to provide a medical screening examination (MSE) when a request is made for examination or treatment for an emergency medical condition (EMC), including active labor, regardless of an individual's ability to pay. Hospitals are then required to provide stabilizing treatment for patients with EMCs. If a hospital is unable to stabilize a patient within its capability, or if the patient requests, an appropriate transfer should be implemented."
Click to expand...
I will certainly keep this for reference. Thank you.
 
My real name is Patrick. (hence my profile picture) My 87 year old mother still calls me Patty-Pooh. You are always your parent's baby, age be damned.
 
My Daughter's name begins with a D... however everyone thinks her name is Babs... because that's what I call her.. shortened version of Babby..which I've called her all her life.. She's almost 47...:ROFLMAO:
 
sunshine412 said:
She has som small coverage. Will see her tomorrow and maybe get some answers. In the 26 years she’s had agoraphobia, she has gradually gone beyond her home to about a 3 block distance. Very slow progress. Thank you.
Click to expand...
I learned she has some coverage but she’s concerned about her portion to pay, which she says she can’t afford. Would you,or anyone, consider, as a parent helping your child with the bills? I have 4 other children 2 of them are equally as bad off as she is. I wouldn’t be able to help them all. Such a conundrum.
 
Blessed said:
I hard knock on the head can be dangerous. My husband passed out from a blod clot, his head hit the tile floor. He was transported to the hospital they ran tests on everything as he was a cancer patient on chemo. They did a cat scan everyday he was there of his head.

On the fifth day, he was supposed to be released. I got to the hospital and he was acting very strange. The behavior became worse as time passed. I informed the nurses something is not right. By the afternoon, when the doctor came to see him before release. He asked my husband all kinds of questions, which he could answer.
I told the doctor, we have been together since we were 15 years old. There is something wrong. Well he listened, sent my husband down for another cat scan, yes there was a brain bleed. Not seen earlier on the scans. Doc said he must have had a small tear and it had been building up all weak and then the bleeding got bad.

He was sent up to ICU, He was transfered to a larger hospital during the night where they had a nuerosurgeon. My point things can go bad even days later. @Gary O' gave a good of things to watch for. You also need to pay attention to anything she does or says that is out of character for her, That is the way I knew.

I also want to speak to her agoriaphobia. She needs treatment, I have been thru it but with exposure therapy, group therapy and medication a whole new world could open for her.
She could even start/do this online with a therapist, one step will lead to the next. There is no reason for her to suffer.
Click to expand...
I too am concerned about after effects . So far all is ok.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.

Back
Top