My Wedding Band... When to Remove it, or Keep it On?

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Strange question, maybe, but I'm wondering. In a case of divorce, acquaintances told me, they remove their wedding band within 6 months. Some even on the day the finalisation comes through.

However, when should I stop wearing my wedding band since technically, as a widow, I'm no longer married?

Sorry to ask, I'm curious and confused as this particular situation. Thanks!
 

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I think divorce and being widowed are entirely two separate things. For me, when my ex-husband who I was with for 35 years at the time left me and I realized what the circumstances were that he did so my wedding band came right off. I was about to put it into the garbage disposal to be honest with you. As for being a widow, I think it is a much more personal choice and that has to be made when you are ready to do so.
 
In the way-back days, you'd replace your wedding ring with a mourner's ring. When one of my aunts became a widow, she had a jeweler replace the diamond on her wedding ring with a black stone. It might have also been a diamond...I didn't ask, and I don't know if black diamonds exist. Anyway, it's been about 10 years and she still wears it. It's very pretty, too.
 
A friend of mine that’s widowed wears it on her right hand because she is open to another relationship. I removed my wedding ring when I told my husband’s I was divorcing them. My mom and aunt never quit wearing them after their husbands died. It’s a personal decision.
 
Murrmurr said:
In the way-back days, you'd replace your wedding ring with a mourner's ring. When one of my aunts became a widow, she had a jeweler replace the diamond on her wedding ring with a black stone. It might have also been a diamond...I didn't ask, and I don't know if black diamonds exist. Anyway, it's been about 10 years and she still wears it. It's very pretty, too.
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Thanks @Murrmurr that's the custom I'd heard about but wasn't certain of. Replacing with a single diamond ring and stop wearing the band. I'll do that once it's been a year he's passed away. Cheers!

As my two ring fingers aren't exactly the same size, knuckles double jointed, right hand slightly bigger 🙃. On ring finger right hand currently wear our 30th wedding anniversary Russian three bands ring. On index finger right hand I wear the ring hubby gave me to commemorate the day I completed my first novel series. It represents the clock I invented. 12 (2 hours) in Roman Numerals.
 
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As said it depends on the situation.

The day 'the him' finally told me after 21 years of marriage, there was 'someone else' and he was unhappy but
he wanted to stay...yes ... duh!
I told him to pack, took off engagement and wedding rings, gave them to him and told him to leave.
There was no going back.
 
I've been married for 22 years...with Hon for over 3 decades and I've never worn my wedding ring. I just don't look very good in bling. Also I spent my whole working career using my hands so a ring would just get in the way.

To wear or not to wear? It's really up to your own discretion...whatever you feel more comfortable with.
 
I consider my wedding band the most important piece of jewellery I possess, although it might not be the most expensive.
If Heaven forbid, I became a widow, my band remains where it is (on my ring finger) until I die.

Divorce or separation from a partner is different...I can never understand why some women wear their wedding rings after their partners leave them.
Just my opinion.
 
I was widowed and kept my wedding ring on. It was openwork with small diamonds set in it, so it was unisex Some time later I met a wonderful lady, and gave that to her as sort of a "friendship" ring.
We were married on the Island of Santorini, and I bought us Greek key wedding bands. We have been married 15 years.
 
Fourteen months after losing my wife to cancer, as a widower, moved my wedding ring from 3d finger left hand to 3d finger right hand. For me it took a while to get past the trauma and realize I was suddenly single.

Researching on-line found 3d finger right hand a common custom for widowers. Made sense to me. Somewhere around five or six years after her passing, I took the ring off and stowed it among what few valuables I have. It just made for a lingering sadness seeing it on my finger.
 
I've been a widow since 2009. Haven't taken my wedding ring off. When I...ahem...assume room temperature, my DD has instructions to remove my ring, have me turned into a crispy critter and deposit my ashes and my wedding ring in the same urn as my DH's (his ring is in the urn, too).
 
Manatee said:
Neither my father nor I ever had wedding rings. They can be a hazard when working around machinery. My grandfather had one but he never worked around machines. I never knew my other grandfather.
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Hubby couldn't wear his at work due to the material which formed the draughts he did. He wasn't allowed. My Papa worked around car parts so he didn't. Grandpa wore a combination of wedding band with his initials. I was given this beautiful ring after he passed away.
 

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