Wontactmyage
Daisy Hill Studio
- Location
- A fly over State, USA
I have been struggling with two friends I have been with for ten years and more in the past year but it has been since we have known each other. I seem to be the only communicator. I always have to be the one to check in on them.
The first one; we set up to get together once a month, we live in towns nearby. Because she is in the medical swim as well as her life partner, I leave it up to her when, where and time. She has yet to contact me for the monthly meeting OR even to cancel.
The second one; still works so, I also set it up that she makes the decisions as she works. I set up for myself to shoot her a text each week to see how she is doing because this last few years she has had a lot of trauma (son murdered, a divorce, mother passing etc.) she always says she wants to get together but unless I set it up she is incommunicado.
Third (I know I said two but..); my own family. There are only three sisters (including me) remaining in our family. My eldest sister has MS and is now in a motorized cart. She is in an adjacent state and we can get there in about an hour. I understand the winters are not possible or easy to do then but I try to contact her about every other week. Catch it, that “I” make the attempt. I have tested to see if she would contact me but she lets months go by so I resolved to keep in touch. More times than not if I text or call she does not reply. Remember she is confined to her home and in a motorized chair.
My twin sister lives in Florida so we don’t see each other nor does she contact me even though we are on speaking terms. I don’t expect mush from her
WE all share similar ideology so not about social differences. Covid was to part of the equation.
After all these years I am getting tired of being “the friend or sister” that keeps our relationships going.
Just FYI I am not an outgoing person and do not need a lot of friends. As an artist, I have to step out of my creative world to interact. I guess I just find it frustrating and question if they are really friends. Does anybody else have this now that we are getting older?
The first one; we set up to get together once a month, we live in towns nearby. Because she is in the medical swim as well as her life partner, I leave it up to her when, where and time. She has yet to contact me for the monthly meeting OR even to cancel.
The second one; still works so, I also set it up that she makes the decisions as she works. I set up for myself to shoot her a text each week to see how she is doing because this last few years she has had a lot of trauma (son murdered, a divorce, mother passing etc.) she always says she wants to get together but unless I set it up she is incommunicado.
Third (I know I said two but..); my own family. There are only three sisters (including me) remaining in our family. My eldest sister has MS and is now in a motorized cart. She is in an adjacent state and we can get there in about an hour. I understand the winters are not possible or easy to do then but I try to contact her about every other week. Catch it, that “I” make the attempt. I have tested to see if she would contact me but she lets months go by so I resolved to keep in touch. More times than not if I text or call she does not reply. Remember she is confined to her home and in a motorized chair.
My twin sister lives in Florida so we don’t see each other nor does she contact me even though we are on speaking terms. I don’t expect mush from her
WE all share similar ideology so not about social differences. Covid was to part of the equation.
After all these years I am getting tired of being “the friend or sister” that keeps our relationships going.
Just FYI I am not an outgoing person and do not need a lot of friends. As an artist, I have to step out of my creative world to interact. I guess I just find it frustrating and question if they are really friends. Does anybody else have this now that we are getting older?
