Does anyone ever feel like dying?

OMG, no. I never felt like I wanted to die. I keep hoping I make it to 100 and still able to get around and have my faculties. It's really up to each of us to find reasons to want to live. I want to see my grandchildren grow up and see how their lives turn out. I want to see what technology is going to achieve in the coming years. I want to see how our country survives this rough period we are going through right now with so many changes being attempted, it almost makes my head spin. There are too many reasons to want to live.

Maybe you just need a reason to want to live and not a reason to want to die.

What agency are you referring to? I am sorry, but I am unfamiliar with your situation.
 
My memory is of mostly being a happy kid, and could be quite happy in general.
However, when I was about 10 years of age, I thought of ending my life, and knew how to do it.
This was due to an abusive dad who caused me to have a miserable existence whenever he was around.

There was at least one occasion that I came very close, but there were two thoughts that stopped me.
One was that if I could think of even just one reason to keep living, that I should keep living for that reason.
The other was that if I didn't do it today, that I could still do it tomorrow; thus there was no need to be in a rush.
Fortunately I've always been able to have at least one reason in mind, or at least of something that I want to do first.
 

John cycling said:
My memory is of mostly being a happy kid, and could be quite happy in general.
However, when I was about 10 years of age, I thought of ending my life, and knew how to do it.
This was due to an abusive dad who caused me to have a miserable existence whenever he was around.

There was at least one occasion that I came very close, but there were two thoughts that stopped me.
One was that if I could think of even just one reason to keep living, that I should keep living for that reason.
The other was that if I didn't do it today, that I could still do it tomorrow; thus there was no need to be in a rush.
Fortunately I've always been able to have at least one reason in mind, or at least of something that I want to do first.
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I'm so sorry you endured that. I hope you had some support and resliency. I know what abuse does.

I don't know what age it was, but I started running in front of cars. I was just a kid. I don't know why, it had to be some kind of acting out from the abuse. I got yelled at and horns honked at me. One sweet elderly couple stopped and spoke kindly to me. My mother never knew. She's the one who caused me to do that.
 
I like to think that we are all in this together and when one of us chooses suicide it upsets the stability of all of us. Even if we don't know each other. Maybe the common good can be a reason to go on during difficult times. Just a thought.
 
At this stage of my life, I do think about it probably once a
week....nothing wrong in my opinion....just today I finished u
a rework of my end of life requests for whoever finds my
body, or the police, hosp whatever...printed out copies to
be put up on calendar on wall...another to go to my health
agency, and so on....also called the crematorium to check
that they are still there LOL...Since i am alone they will
take care of sending death cert's to appropiate folks that
will need it....I told them my bank is changing hands the first

of september so will let them know all about that....so at
least I am ahead for today....also still hard breathing today!!!!
 
Well, I would have said no, thinking "do I want to die?"
But I upon rethinking I guess I do think about it even though I don't want to die at this point.
I think about starting to get things in order for when my time comes. So yes, I do think about dying.
 
COMPARING YOUR MENTAL HEALTH JOURNEY IS NOT GOING TO MAKE YOU ANY BETTER

Nearly 1 in 4 people deal with depression in their life. That’s 25% of all people experience depression at some point in their lives.

One of the most common things you will probably deal with , if you are struggling with your mental health, is people in your life having something to say about it. Even more so, they will probably say something like “I’ve had depression , launching into a story about themselves and their issue”

While this might be well intentioned it’s not the best thing to say. Plugging into the conversation so others don’t feel so alone is helpful . Getting support from others is key to any recovery but everyone’s journey is different. No two journeys are the same. Our brains, bodies and lifestyles are all completely different and are as unique and individual as our fingerprints.

One person might get over their depression quicker and easier than someone else but that doesn’t automatically make them a stronger person or that you will get over yours with the same results. Trying to copy a ‘cure’ from someone else might end up making things worse.

One thing that all mental health issues have in common is the general feeling that everyone else around you is having a better time than you. And when we feel like the world is doing better than we are, it is a natural reaction to compare ourselves to others.

Theodore Roosevelt said the following about comparison, “Comparison Is the Thief of Joy.” When we compare ourselves to others, we rob ourselves of our own happiness. Through comparison, we either feel a sense of inferiority or superiority, and either route you take does not create lasting happiness.

These days, it feels almost impossible to avoid comparison with social media, the internet, and the constant access into people’s lives. At any moment of any day, we can pick up our phones and see a small moment of someone else’s life, and wonder why we aren’t doing as well as they are. Doing this only harms us.

First, every person experiences and handles depression differently.
Second, there are many levels of depression. That’s why treatment has to be individualized. A suicidal person at this level might not wait till hitting rock bottom to act on their thoughts.
Third, depression does not mean you are lazy, don’t want to work or have a job, not want to take care of your kids, or that you don’t understand the importance of money in this world.

“You should be grateful it isn’t worse.”
“You’re not the worst off.”
“There are people out there who feel worse/are experiencing worse/going through worse than you.”
“You don’t have anything to be down about
“At least you’re not alone.”

You are entitled to feel the way you do (depressed, frustrated, ill, etc.), and you are entitled to feel down about it.
If we all went along with this idea of “there are people who have it worse than you,” then logic suggests there is only one person on this whole planet who is entitled to feel rubbish about their situation. There is only one person who doesn’t have anyone else stealing the “worse off” crown from them. What sense does that make?

That one person is not the only one who is allowed to be unhappy with their lot in life. We need to stop comparing each others’ “crap times,” feeling the need to tell people they shouldn’t feel upset, frustrated or annoyed with their current situation.

If things are bad for you right now, they are bad for you, whether other people agree or not. There is no hierarchy to feeling depressed, no hierarchy to trauma, no hierarchy to feeling fed up with things or when you’re going through a rough patch.

There is no ranking for everyone’s individual situations and circumstances, or for which are “better” or “worse.” Why do people feel the need to tell someone whether they’re entitled to feel a certain way, or to compare their own or another person’s situation to it?

All cases of depression, difficult situations, trauma, illnesses, etc. are all valid, and they all can be difficult for that individual. They are ALL relevant.

Please Stop 🛑
comparing.

Nobody needs that.
 
I think I speak more freely of death than many, death doesn't scare me and I also see it as an option to end suffering.

One thing that always bothers me is how many think of death after a prolonged physical health issue as a blessing, "they're at peace now". But if you look forward to death because of suffering from mental health issues you're cheating yourself out of life, that's frowned upon. In my book suffering is suffering.

Yes I think you should seek help for mental health issues, just like you should seek help for the pain in your chest. But I will never ever pass judgment on someone who looks at death as an end to their suffering, regardless of the cause of that suffering.

To answer the original question, yes there are days I think about death.
 
No! Not me. Both me and my brother want to live for some years and see how much more crazy this country is going to get! Sometimes it looks like the patients are out of the asylum and running the whole country.
 
I won't be sorry for my life to end. I think going to the next world will be interesting. But I'm not going to take the quick exit, even though I don't really enjoy much of anything.....I'm useful to the community in a few minor ways and I do steadily improve the logistical management of my day to day living arrangements and I'm comfortable in material terms. A bit of fun would be nice though.
 
Remy said:
I'm so sorry you endured that. I hope you had some support and resliency. I know what abuse does.

I don't know what age it was, but I started running in front of cars. I was just a kid. I don't know why, it had to be some kind of acting out from the abuse. I got yelled at and horns honked at me. One sweet elderly couple stopped and spoke kindly to me. My mother never knew. She's the one who caused me to do that.
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Remy, this makes me want to cry :cry:
 
It’s very difficult to give specific advice to anyone talking about death. We are all different and approach things differently.

Personally, I have never felt like dying. None of us can escape this part of our life. The only time I feared death was when our children were young...although I knew they would be in excellent hands should I kick the bucket, I did not want them to grow up missing out on having a mother.

Years later and they are grown up and have children of their own, I am no longer fearful. I look upon death as an adventure…like my other travels…not being facetious here...but sometimes we embark on a trip not knowing what the outcome will be…death to me presents the same air of mystery.

I believe in a supreme and divine Creator whom I refer to as God…although I do not fear this eventuality…I will not deliberately hasten it.
 
Jamala said:
It’s very difficult to give specific advice to anyone talking about death. We are all different and approach things differently.

Personally, I have never felt like dying. None of us can escape this part of our life. The only time I feared death was when our children were young...although I knew they would be in excellent hands should I kick the bucket, I did not want them to grow up missing out on having a mother.

Years later and they are grown up and have children of their own, I am no longer fearful. I look upon death as an adventure…like my other travels…not being facetious here...but sometimes we embark on a trip not knowing what the outcome will be…death to me presents the same air of mystery.

I believe in a supreme and divine Creator whom I refer to as God…although I do not fear this eventuality…I will not deliberately hasten it.
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Nice post. I very much look forward to the next part of my life with all my heart and pray I don’t get reincarnated back to earth.
 
I remember my grandmother being tired of living. She was in physical pain from a bad fall many years earlier and had some other physical woes. She died without regret at "shuffling off this mortal coil." I still miss her.

With my own advancing age I increasingly understand her perspective.

While not eager to die, neither do I want to long-term inhabit a painful, decrepit body or have an unhappy existence where I felt people suffered my presence.
 
Ruthanne, Everybody, EVERYBODY has within them a reserve of energy, happiness and intelligence!
Under all circumstances, BE HAPPY!!!
This is so important! More than anything, BE HAPPY!

I'm racing toward and can hardly wait until my next real life because it will be even more wonderful!
But, while I'm here, I'm going to enjoy every moment! Eternity isn't way down the road.
THIS is part of eternity! Make yourself the happiest you can be!

Last night I met the most enchanting woman. She's 90. (old people can't seem to have a conversation
with telling their age.) But anyway, She loved life. Her face just BEAMED with enthusiasm for life.
When she talked, I didn't even see her old lady wrinkles. She was SO ALIVE! So active. So interesting.
and she was alone. Hope I can be like her when I'm that age.
 
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