I really screwed up last night…

[Muskrat]

Heard that a sort of friends husband passed away suddenly. This couple is well known on the tiny community where we still live part time. So I sent an email with my condolences last night before I dropped off to sleep. Woke up this morning and realized I called her husband by the wrong name….close but no banana….

 

[Balzac]

Heard that a sort of friends husband passed away suddenly. This couple is well known on the tiny community where we still live part time. So I sent an email with my condolences last night before I dropped off to sleep. Woke up this morning and realized I called her husband by the wrong name….close but no banana….

Any chance you could lay the blame on autocorrect? You know what email apps are like...

 

[PeppermintPatty]

The main thing here is that you wrote your condolences to make HER feel better. These were ‘sort of’ friends. People make mistakes and I’m sure she can forgive you. Don’t worry about it. Your ‘intention’ was right and that’s the main thing. That was nice of you to sent your condolences. Give yourself a break.

 

[JeeperDon]

Don't try to fix it with more emails. Just let her grieve.

 

[AprilSun]

The main thing here is that you wrote your condolences to make HER feel better. These were ‘sort of’ friends. People make mistakes and I’m sure she can forgive you. Don’t worry about it. Your ‘intention’ was right and that’s the main thing. That was nice of you to sent your condolences. Give yourself a break.

That's exactly what I thought when I read her post. At least she will know that Muskrat was thinking of her and it's the thought that counts.

 

[hearlady]

She's not thinking about that right now. Sometime in the future you can apologize in person.

 

[s76l42]

Heard that a sort of friends husband passed away suddenly. This couple is well known on the tiny community where we still live part time. So I sent an email with my condolences last night before I dropped off to sleep. Woke up this morning and realized I called her husband by the wrong name….close but no banana….

We have all had similar moments, I called a girl I work with by the wrong name just the other day. I called her a few minutes later to apologize. You can do the same, apologize and then don't beat yourself up over it. It happens.

 

[fuzzybuddy]

Don't try to fix it with more emails. Just let her grieve.

Right now, I don't think your name flub is the most pressing thing on the new widow's mind. Later, you can talk about it.

 

[Jules]

Through all the grief a bit of lightness is helpful. I doubt it would do any harm to send a brief email admitting to your faux pas.

 

[Remy]

It's alright. Anyone could make an error. I'm sure your thoughts were appreciated and that's the main thing. Reaching out was kind of you.

 

[seadoug]

Don't beat yourself up over it. She will probably not remember the faux pas but she will remember that you sent your condolences.

I've seen worse things that have happened. I once had a business colleague who asked a woman, "when is your baby due" and she said "I'm not pregnant". Now that is a faux pas.

 

[OneEyedDiva]

Through all the grief a bit of lightness is helpful. I doubt it would do any harm to send a brief email admitting to your faux pas.

That's what I was thinking Jules. And Muskrat, other's are right...don't beat yourself up about it. I'm sure she appreciates the condolence and will appreciate the update acknowledging that you realized you used the wrong name.