Do you think men "marry" their mothers?

[fuzzybuddy]

My mom had some emotional problems. She loved to cause dissention, and animosity. For instance, she allowed my 17 year old niece to meet in her upstairs bedroom with a 46 year old guy, who had a wife and 5 kids. In another thread, I got to thinking about my brother's ex wife. She caused a lot of dissention, just like my mom. So, I was wondering, do you think men seek out women, who are very similar to their mothers?

 

[Alligatorob]

do you think men seek out women, who are very similar to their mothers?

I don't think I did... but always hard to judge oneself on questions like this. Not in body type or appearance for sure, but that's not really what matters, just easier to evaluate.

I was lucky, my mother had many good qualities, things I would have liked to see in others.

 

[oldaunt]

Maybe not "their" mothers, but many marry hoping to get "a" mother to do for them.

 

[Chet]

Some men may never have gotten married because of an unhappy relationship with their mothers. Once bitten became twice shy with the opposite sex and caution prevailed, but still there were''benefits" to be had.

 

[Capt Lightning]

Absolutely not. If Mrs. L had been like my mother, I'd never have married her.

 

[bobcat]

I think if a person had a very good relationship with their mother, they might seek some of those qualities in a woman, much like a woman who had a great relationship with her dad, might seek some of those qualities in a man. If, however you had a bad relationship with either, then it wouldn't make much sense to even be attracted to someone that reminded you of them.

 

[Jules]

For the first marriage, no. For the second, probably start looking for that more stable person with those qualities you grew up, if they were good.

 

[hollydolly]

I am certainly not anything remotely like either of my ex-mothers' in law.... both were very middle class aka Hyacinth Bouquet types

 

[Alligatorob]

I am certainly not anything remotely like either of my ex-mothers' in law.... both were very middle class aka Hyacinth Bouquet types

What "type" are you? Other than not hyacinth...

 

[Lawrence]

I think men marry their mothers "mommas' boys", women marry their dads, "daddies' girls". But as pertaining to me I married my cousin, or someone like my girl cousin that is.

 

[Remy]

My stepfather sure didn't. His mother was a sweet lady and he said there was no yelling and screaming in the house he grew up in.

 

[Sassycakes]

My Husband was never his Mom's favorite kid. She had 7 children and he was the trouble maker and she punished him all the time, So I doubt he would have married someone like his Mom.

 

[Rose65]

My mom had some emotional problems. She loved to cause dissention, and animosity. For instance, she allowed my 17 year old niece to meet in her upstairs bedroom with a 46 year old guy, who had a wife and 5 kids. In another thread, I got to thinking about my brother's ex wife. She caused a lot of dissention, just like my mom. So, I was wondering, do you think men seek out women, who are very similar to their mothers?

Maybe. What I am certain about is men do want to be looked after, they choose to marry a woman who can cook and take care of them as mother did. If it doesn't work out, they often run back to mummy! Lol!

I ensured to make friends and be very respectful to my mother in law. Then we 'ganged up' against my husband and teased him. She knew he was well looked after and I would her seek advice about things. I wanted her to relax after doing her part of raising him and hand over to me.

 

[Rose65]

My Husband was never his Mom's favorite kid. She had 7 children and he was the trouble maker and she punished him all the time, So I doubt he would have married someone like his Mom.

How awful. I have heard so many similar stories where men had such unhappy relationships with their mothers.

 

[CallMeKate]

I think it would depend on the relationship with the mother. A really good, loving, nurturing Mama, sure a man would probably look for that in a wife. But if it was an awful or abusive relationship, I'd think he would look for someone who was the opposite.

 

[hollydolly]

What "type" are you? Other than not hyacinth...

compared to their mothers'..who stayed home.. ( one stayed home ).. the other was a cook... but they both did nothing other than home based things.. not going abroad or travelling further than England.... always having the same thing for dinner on the same days.. no adventurous at all.. old before their time really..

 

[Bella]

My husband certainly didn't marry a woman like his mother, not even close.

 

[JustDave]

I don't think I did, but who knows? Also, I got divorced after 19 years. I'm not sure what that has to do with it, but my mother was not the type of woman that most men would want to divorce.

 

[chic]

I think some do while others would look for the exact opposite.

 

[Marie5656]

Not sure if this is a yes, but Rick told me once that his mom (who died before we met} and I would have liked each other as we were a lot alike and had many similar interests

 

[Blessed]

If someone told me I was like my MIL I would take that as a compliment. I think both of my husbands parents loved me, told my husband that I was a keeper. I loved his large funny family and knew I wanted to be part of it.

 

[Feelslikefar]

I'm sure I wanted qualities that my mom had, in a wife.
First wife I married because of Looks, being young and dumb and she turned out not to be a very nice person.

Live and learn.

This reminds me of the old question, 'why do woman marry the 'bad boy', when the stable one might be right there...?'

A question for another thread.

 

[OldFeller]

Not if their fathers have anything to say about it.

 

[hollydolly]

My father certainly never married his mother when he married my mother. A more different person than my Gran would be very difficult to find..

 

[Jeni]

I do not think so in those i have witnessed ..... Most avoid it if possible.