What is the measure of a man

Not exactly the answer to the question in the OP but before marriage a girl is advised to measure a future husband by the way he speaks to, and treats, his mother.

To me, the measure of a man is how he uses his strength to help, not hurt, other people. I am not impressed by men who spend hours in the gym perfecting the body beautiful. I measure them as narcissists, and pretty useless beings.
 
In my view, it is being responsible, and caring, and true to his word (Integrity). He is protective of those who need it, and not self-serving or selfish. He is kind and caring for the needs of the less fortunate. He respects others. His character and his honor need to be evident in all he does, and says.

No man is perfect, or probably even close, but knowing that and admitting that helps keep him humble. He does what needs to be done, whether it's changing a diaper, cooking dinner, or just being a shoulder to cry on. He is confident in his masculinity without being macho. He knows how to take care of a woman, but not dominate her. He needs to let go of any inflated ego, and yet still be able to lead when called upon.

Lastly, he needs to get in touch with his emotions, but not be controlled by them. He can shed tears without feeling he is less of a man.
 
Gaer said:
Uh, I wrote a thread called "The Measure of a Man" on this forum, a few years ago. This is very strange!
Are you copying me? haha!
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Yes you did, I just looked at it and found a lot of good posts, 90 in all. Here is a link https://www.seniorforums.com/threads/the-measure-of-a-man.50026/

What you wrote to kick that one off @Gaer was impressive.

I tried copying and pasting it here but that damned new paragraph limitation thing kept me from being able to. I get the "The paragraph in your post is too long, please split it into smaller ones for easier reading, no more 120 words per paragraph." message despite the fact that there are no paragraphs even close to 120 words... not the first time this has happened to me. @Matrix
 
A man doesn't fear mistakes and isn't afraid to learn from making them. He learns from doing and he does things that need to be done without hesitation.

He's someone that everyone tends to lean on and depend upon when trouble needs to be dealt with.

He sees things for what they really are and this is what makes him effective in dealing with realities.



And, as I've learned from being on this forum, he never types a single paragraph longer than 120 words. Lest he be stopped in his tracks from doing so.
 
My Dad was a great bloke. Integrity was an important part of him. He was a very fair man and cared about his family and friends before himself. When his daughters started dating, he used to say. "You can always tell a man by his shoes, if they were polished, he was a caring bloke but if they were unpolished then he couldn't care less" Needless to say my husband passed with flying colours because his shoes were always shiny, and he was a terrific bloke.
 
Alligatorob said:
Yes you did, I just looked at it and found a lot of good posts, 90 in all. Here is a link https://www.seniorforums.com/threads/the-measure-of-a-man.50026/

What you wrote to kick that one off @Gaer was impressive.

I tried copying and pasting it here but that damned new paragraph limitation thing kept me from being able to. I get the "The paragraph in your post is too long, please split it into smaller ones for easier reading, no more 120 words per paragraph." message despite the fact that there are no paragraphs even close to 120 words... not the first time this has happened to me. @Matrix
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Thanks Alligatorob! Remember I wrote that after watching two uniformed Police officers kneel on the sidewalk, (Portland, I believe) during the 2020 riots as they burned the American flag in front of them. That was hard to watch. Made me cry.
That may not have been the best year for too many people.
 
OldFeller said:
A man doesn't fear mistakes and isn't afraid to learn from making them. He learns from doing and he does things that need to be done without hesitation.

He's someone that everyone tends to lean on and depend upon when trouble needs to be dealt with.

He sees things for what they really are and this is what makes him effective in dealing with realities.



And, as I've learned from being on this forum, he never types a single paragraph longer than 120 words. Lest he be stopped in his tracks from doing so.
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I was torn between giving your post a ā¤ļø or a :ROFLMAO: so I decided to give it both! ā¤ļø:ROFLMAO:
 
I began to think along the lines of "integrity" as the measure of a man. But he could be a mob hit man who had lots of integrity. I decided it's not what we see in a man, but how he sees himself. We are all different, with different values. What a Roman Centurian values is different than that of an Iowa farmer. Each man has to be a man in his own way.
BTW, "man' refers to mankind, not only males.
 
Personally i would say someone with the integrity to live as much as possible by his own definition of being a 'good' human being, rather than trying to fit himself into anyone else's definition of a 'good' or 'real man'.

Same for women---strive to live your definition of being the best human you can be, not anyone else's definition of a 'good woman'.
 

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