Are Diamonds Suitable for a New Friend?

Beezer said:
I wouldn't go with jewelry this far into the relationship.

Get her a gift card for a day at the Spa or something along those lines.
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IMHO, that's a gift for old married farts such as myself that have bought and given every gift under the sun, some more than once. The lady probably wants something personal, not a card w a $$ value printed on it. ("Does he think I need help w my appearance?")

Dinner out - that's a given. Flowers, of course, perhaps a live orchid plant, if she had other houseplants.

As far a giving jewelry to a person that obviously is into jewelry probably bringing in some risk that it might disturb the current vibe, or not be to her taste. Perhaps there is an opportunity to find a gift for another one of her hobbies or interests; tickets to a special event, concert, theatre?
 

Are you nuts Been There? You must be, diamonds at the three month mark is just crazy!

You got to start off small and inexpensive, here's why. The longer you date her the more gifts you will need to buy, birthdays, Christmas, anniverseries, Tuesdays, etc. Starting off with diamonds sets a very high bar that every future present needs to exceed, you will gift yourself right into the poor house.

My advice is to set the bar very low in the beginning, also be clueless with your gifts, that way she will always have low expectations. I'm thinking a nice shiney toaster, start with a two slice model, save the four banger for later, no sense spoiling her this soon.
 
I like the bracelet and since she likes jewelry it’s a good choice.
 

againstthegrain said:
The lady probably wants something personal, not a card w a $$ value printed on it. ("Does he think I need help w my appearance?")
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A gift of a spa day is not "does he think I need help with my appearance?" It's saying she deserves to pamper herself... not about appearance... about relaxing and knowing that someone cared enough to want that for her.
 
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Been There said:
I have been dating a woman 2 years younger than me for just over 3 months. I really like her a lot, but can’t say that I am in love with her yet. I think a lot of her, which means I respect her and appreciate her kindness towards me. She has introduced me to her 2 daughters and a few friends. I think she is as I am. We really like each other a lot, but we haven’t said the words, “I love you” yet.

In 2 weeks is her birthday. I went to the mall nearby and looked through the different stores trying to get an idea for a gift. I saw a really nice necklace in the window of a jewelry store, but it had diamonds in it. Do you think it’s too early in our relationship to buy a gift for this lady that has diamonds? I asked the clerk and she was being very honest with me, which surprised me because I think they sell on commission.

I explained my situation to her and she thought it may be a bit too early to give a gift with diamonds. She suggested a nice gold bracelet, which I also liked. It wasn’t a thin piece of metal that looked cheap. What do you guys think? BTW, I know she likes jewelry like necklaces, bracelets, earrings and finger rings. I assume this because she wears a moderate amount of it.

She looks like a model when we go out, except a month ago when I took her to a rodeo that was in southern Virginia and she wore jeans for the first time, along with 1 necklace, 1 bracelet, 1 finger ring and a pair of gold hoop earrings. She took it easy on the makeup, but still looked like a million bucks. This is as close as I could come to the bracelet. I should have asked the clerk, but this is for a female, isn’t it?


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October Birthstones | Opal, Tourmaline, Agate + more October birthstones — birthstone.guide

Tourmaline and Opal are beautiful birthstone for October.
Opal is the birthstone for October. So, any jewellery with opals would be appreciated and appropriate
 
Been There said:
I have been dating a woman 2 years younger than me for just over 3 months. I really like her a lot, but can’t say that I am in love with her yet. I think a lot of her, which means I respect her and appreciate her kindness towards me. She has introduced me to her 2 daughters and a few friends. I think she is as I am. We really like each other a lot, but we haven’t said the words, “I love you” yet.

In 2 weeks is her birthday. I went to the mall nearby and looked through the different stores trying to get an idea for a gift. I saw a really nice necklace in the window of a jewelry store, but it had diamonds in it. Do you think it’s too early in our relationship to buy a gift for this lady that has diamonds? I asked the clerk and she was being very honest with me, which surprised me because I think they sell on commission.

I explained my situation to her and she thought it may be a bit too early to give a gift with diamonds. She suggested a nice gold bracelet, which I also liked. It wasn’t a thin piece of metal that looked cheap. What do you guys think? BTW, I know she likes jewelry like necklaces, bracelets, earrings and finger rings. I assume this because she wears a moderate amount of it.

She looks like a model when we go out, except a month ago when I took her to a rodeo that was in southern Virginia and she wore jeans for the first time, along with 1 necklace, 1 bracelet, 1 finger ring and a pair of gold hoop earrings. She took it easy on the makeup, but still looked like a million bucks. This is as close as I could come to the bracelet. I should have asked the clerk, but this is for a female, isn’t it?


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She sounds like an elegant lady and one who would appreciate diamonds. I'd go for it. :giggle:
 
PeppermintPatty said:
Yes. Too soon for diamonds. Almost creepy too soon. Perfume, too personal. Absolutely no.

What did you get her? Inquiring minds want to know
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I went with the bracelet. The jeweler only had the one and it was placed on hold until today. The jeweler found he could get one from a store in West Virginia. It should be in his store on Monday. I need it by next Friday for Saturday night. I need extra time for wrapping, which is not my forte.

I thought diamonds (small) would have been a little special. At times, she will wear like 4 or 5 studs in each ear. What the significance of that is, I don’t know, but I thought since she likes diamonds so much, buying small stones would be acceptable.

Tonight we are going to a concert by the local symphony after dinner. After that, maybe a stop at the club I belong to for a drink or two.
 
Wow! You’ve fallen hard but I reread your opening post and she has already introduced you to her daughters. That’s special and I think would imply that she’s as serious about you as you are about her.

Clearly you take note of things and was aware she has more than one piercing in her ears and that she seems to like diamonds.

That’s a very generous gift which I think she will really like but you have set the bar for yourself but it’s super sweet. It really shows that you are not only serious about her, but also very attentive and sincere about your feelings for her.

It’s a BOLD statement. How could she not love that? Smart move if you are THAT interested and clearly you are.

Prove us wrong! Love is the most powerful energy there is. It can move mountains.
Oh, to be in love. Go for it!!! ♥️🫶♥️
Will you tell us how she responds?
I mean , in general, of course.
 
Don't forget to tell us how this story unfolds... but seriously, if some dude would start giving me diamonds after knowing him for just *ninety days* I'm going to start batting my eyelashes at everyone I meet. 👀👁️😻💍💎
 
Do you think diamonds are too late after 43 years of marriage? I'm still waiting for mine.

I'm getting vicarious pleasure out of Been There's desire to please her. She's a lucky woman!
 
Della said:
Do you think diamonds are too late after 43 years of marriage? I'm still waiting for mine.

I'm getting vicarious pleasure out of Been There's desire to please her. She's a lucky woman!
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I waited for my diamonds too. My ex-husband didn't get me a diamond engagement ring until our 1st anniversary. He said, and I quote, "I wanted to make sure the marriage would last before buying one". How romantic, right?
 

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