DD wants to mess with tradition

Georgiagranny

Georgiagranny

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Thanksgiving Dinner is one of those inviolable things, at least to me. She wants to try a bunch of new recipes this year. What? Serving a new recipe for the first time for Thanksgiving. Nope.

She wants to skip some of the sides that we've always had and that have been looked forward to and usually don't even have leftovers. Nope.

Next thing I know, she'll want to serve duck or capon or something else rather than turkey. Nope.

Maybe I'll just stay in The Hovel and pout.

I should add JFTR, that DD has never liked to cook.
 

I grew up as a kid with a Sunday roast dinner every week. My poor mother had to deal with that.

Today I've not had a roast for damn, decades.
 

Georgiagranny said:
Thanksgiving Dinner is one of those inviolable things, at least to me. She wants to try a bunch of new recipes this year. What? Serving a new recipe for the first time for Thanksgiving. Nope.

She wants to skip some of the sides that we've always had and that have been looked forward to and usually don't even have leftovers. Nope.

Next thing I know, she'll want to serve duck or capon or something else rather than turkey. Nope.

Maybe I'll just stay in The Hovel and pout.

I should add JFTR, that DD has never liked to cook.
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The question is can she cook despite not liking to?
My DD and i live together and she and i always discuss changes in traditions. Contrary to stereotypes i tend to suggest them more often than she does.
 
PeppermintPatty said:
Sounds like youā€™re pouting already.
If she doesnā€™t normally cook and now sheā€™s wanting to, why the resistance?

Good Relationships are about negotiating fairly.
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She doesn't usually cook. She doesn't like to cook. She's not a very good cook. And yes, I am pouting already.

Negotiating for a good relationship, my eye. It's one meal, once a year, and has been the same once-a-year meal that everybody has always enjoyed immensely.

When it ain't broke, don't fix it.
 
My daughter and her husband will be hosting Thanksgiving this year for the first time, and will be serving ham (sigh), no Turkey, and I like Turkey. So I thought I will just make a small Turkey to take over, but then reconsidered.

I decided to let the kids do things how they want, last thing in the world I want to do is hurt their feelings or impose my will onto them.

So this Thanksgiving I will hug my daughter, tell her I love her, and tell her how wonderful the ham dinner is!šŸ„°
 
Big ag has eliminated the flavor of turkey from turkey.......sometimes you have to move on.šŸ˜ 

But for the rest of the meal I prefer the basic standard food that we've eaten for decades. And actually I thought of it as a honor to prepare holiday dinners for extended family the way our mothers and grandmothers made it (w just an occasional tweak here and there.)
 
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For Thanksgiving we've had Cape Cod Turkey which is whole roast striped bass stuffed w regular turkey dressing made w Bell's Seasoning.

Wiki says- "The striped bass (Morone saxatilis), also called the Atlantic striped bass, striper, linesider, rock, or rockfish, is an anadromous perciform fish of the family Moronidae found primarily along the Atlantic coast of North America."
 
Georgiagranny said:
What the AF? It's time for me to employ the ignore feature.
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I donā€™t know what AF means but do understand others having no tolerance for differences of opinion. Thereā€™s an entire clan of them here. Old hens! More like sheep. They follow the pack and agree with everything. Sorry to not be one of them
 
PeppermintPatty said:
I donā€™t know what AF means but do understand others having no tolerance for differences of opinion. Thereā€™s an entire clan of them here. Old hens! More like sheep. They follow the pack and agree with everything. Sorry to not be one of them
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Your comments struck me as rather personal criticism so perhaps that drew the ire of GG. She, in this case, simply wanting to uphold the traditions of their families meal.
 
Tradition is nice but enjoying family together no matter what is on the menu makes more sense to my wife & me. The idea that we should host the get together last year went away when I explained to our sons that the effort to prepare everything was just to much for their mother. They took over & we are fine with whatever there is.
 
Knight said:
Tradition is nice but enjoying family together no matter what is on the menu makes more sense to my wife & me. The idea that we should host the get together last year went away when I explained to our sons that the effort to prepare everything was just to much for their mother. They took over & we are fine with whatever there is.
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They can choose all, some, or none of the old traditions since you've turned the whole thing over to them. Perfectly fair. Not that she would be unhappy w a random menu, but how happy would your wife be if they incorporated recipes from her in the holiday meals?
 
Georgiagranny said:
Thanksgiving Dinner is one of those inviolable things, at least to me. She wants to try a bunch of new recipes this year. What? Serving a new recipe for the first time for Thanksgiving. Nope.

She wants to skip some of the sides that we've always had and that have been looked forward to and usually don't even have leftovers. Nope.

Next thing I know, she'll want to serve duck or capon or something else rather than turkey. Nope.

Maybe I'll just stay in The Hovel and pout.

I should add JFTR, that DD has never liked to cook.
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You gotta get mean ... plumb mad-dog mean. --Josey Wales
 
We used to make a great duck recipe for Thanksgiving. We slit the skin with a Xacto blade. and baked it for hours, turning every hour.
The skin was crispy, and the rendered fat was great for cooking.
We NEVER served that green bean casserole.
 
againstthegrain said:
Your comments struck me as rather personal criticism so perhaps that drew the ire of GG. She, in this case, simply wanting to uphold the traditions of their families meal.
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Precisely. I didn't much like her comments in her previous iteration before she was banned and don't like them any better this time around.
 
againstthegrain said:
Your comments struck me as rather personal criticism so perhaps that drew the ire of GG. She, in this case, simply wanting to uphold the traditions of their families meal.
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GG stated she was going to pout because her daughter, who doesnā€™t normally cook asked if she could cook something different. I said it sounds like sheā€™s pouting already. It wasnā€™t criticism. It was honesty.
Thatā€™s ok. Iā€™ve been put on ignore for less.

Maybe I should have said something like ā€˜Of all the nerve. Who does she think she is? Volunteering to cook for everyone? What a horrible thing to do? Does she not know itā€™s a traditional holiday?. ā€˜

If GG wants to uphold family traditions, she can just tell her daughter that instead of criticizing her. It sounds like the daughter is damned if she does, damned if she doesnā€™t.

Anyway, I shall keep opinions to myself, even if asked.
 

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