Do you believe that people show up in your life when they are needed

I think people cross our paths many times throughout our lives. Sometimes we connect with someone and become friends. But there will be many that we do not. Why is it that you can meet a group of people and only become close to one or two? That is just the way it is. I live in an apartment building with many potential friends but only became close to certain ones. It had mostly to do with our conversations and activities we took part in.

I did feel that one person came into my life while I was praying for more than 4 years for help. He became my friend online and assisted me in the answer to what I needed.
 

I have a friend who says to me, "Every girlfriend I ever had stole my boyfriend from me."
"He really wasn't yours to keep!" ..... [ TWIDS (thats what I didn't say) ] ..... (y) .....
 
I wonder how many of us who are good ''friends'' on this forum would be the same if we knew each other in real life.

I have a lot of friends here after 10 years of being here... and some are very close friends as far as an internet forum allows, who have been more supportive to me during very difficult times than even my own family or friends.. and those lovely people I believe would be my real life buddies if we met..

..but aside from those.. the vast majority of this forum are ''my friends'.. but who would be in real terms if we were to meet... ?
 
hollydolly said:
..but aside from those.. the vast majority of this forum are ''my friends'.. but who would be in real terms if we were to meet... ?
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That feels potentially explosive. Not sure I want to post either my first or my second thought in reply. But my third thought is that I hope I would be understanding of even those who might prove "difficult" in real life.

I'm not perfect though, I don't give infinite chances.
 
dilettante said:
That feels potentially explosive. Not sure I want to post either my first or my second thought in reply. But my third thought is that I hope I would be understanding of even those who might prove "difficult" in real life.

I'm not perfect though, I don't give infinite chances.
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I don't understand your thoughts...

I was talking about friendship... not understanding people who are difficult.. or nasty..or downright horrible.... they are not people I regard as friends...
 
hollydolly said:
I don't understand your thoughts...

I was talking about friendship... not understanding people who are difficult.. or nasty..or downright horrible.... they are not people I regard as friends...
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My first thought was a bland "Of course, everyone" the second thought had me backpedaling and equivocating. My third thought is that I come with my own baggage, so I need to make allowances for others to give them a chance.

So I guess I'm just confused at the thought you raised for some reason. I just hadn't considered it before and it sent my mind racing. I.e. I don't have an answer but I can't be critical of others reflexively. Everyone has something to offer.

But you're right, that wasn't where you were going at all.
 
Paco Dennis said:
There has been a great migration of people to the internet. Now, with smartphones, and mass media powered by sophisticated AI we are able to share our lives quickly with people we connect with online. We have friends from all over the world, and can share photos, and short videos of our experiences. It can be quite personal.
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As lovely as it is to connect with people online, I find I miss in-person friendships.
 
oldaunt said:
If you are waiting for someone who's beliefs and lifestyle align completely with yours, you will be without friends forever. Life revolves round its differences. Embrace them and learn from them.
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Oh for sure. But some people you have to admit, you would not hang around with, not matter how lonely you are. The two ladies that I met at the Seniors Centre, who kept on dumping on men, I wasn't going to hang around with. Ok, so they hated their husbands and think all men are scum, well, I just could not be friends with them. But yes, I agree with you, of course, there are going to be differences between friends and I think those differences actually improve the friendship. It's just what I'm willing to accept as a difference of opinion.
 
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hollydolly said:
I wonder how many of us who are good ''friends'' on this forum would be the same if we knew each other in real life.

I have a lot of friends here after 10 years of being here... and some are very close friends as far as an internet forum allows, who have been more supportive to me during very difficult times than even my own family or friends.. and those lovely people I believe would be my real life buddies if we met..

..but aside from those.. the vast majority of this forum are ''my friends'.. but who would be in real terms if we were to meet... ?
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I can easily trust that most of us don't need to be good friends in real life. We respect each other's thoughts on "This Forum."
Sure, it's just a thought of why we are here, come back and play. It's FUN to PLAY around "Mindlessly" A BIT. ..... haha .....
 
Nathan said:
I used to think that our paths crossed for a "reason", an 'ordered' universe used to be so appealing. Now, I see the universe as being still quite spectacular, but simply random nevertheless.
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We all pretty much the same just different. ....(y) .... Yep most of us can tell stories about stuff for hours if we put our thought to it. Most of us won't get bored or will come back later to re read all the B.S. ...... :ROFLMAO: .....
 
an the people they all - dress just the same, -- they drive - the same black suv's -- and they all go to the U-ni-versi-ty, they all live in Cookie Cutters and they all ----look- just --the same. Haha... from - - - "Weeds" .....:ROFLMAO:
 
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