When you married did you marry for love or something else?

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I've lived a 'complicated' life. Was never married. But, did date. As a man I could never shake the feeling that my various girl friends became ever more manipulative as the relationship lenghtened. As a young man I was variously a premed student, medical student, and then doctor. And, dated throughout this time. Eventually, I stopped practicing medicine and worked in a different field. Then women seemed to lose interest in me.
 

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Wes said:
I've lived a 'complicated' life. Was never married. But, did date. As a man I could never shake the feeling that my various girl friends became ever more manipulative as the relationship lenghtened. As a young man I was variously a premed student, medical student, and then doctor. And, dated throughout this time. Eventually, I stopped practicing medicine and worked in a different field. Then women seemed to loose interest in me.
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or did they 'lose' interest in you.. Doctor ?:sneaky:
 
I never married but have been comfortably living with a man who helps keep me grounded for 35 years. Certain people help balance my energies and he certainly does. We have a mature relationship and understanding of each other.
Is it love? Yes.
 
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I am not sure what you mean. While dating individually or after I changed professions?
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You used the wrong word so she is pointing it out. The ā€˜looseā€™ word is used as such. ā€œIā€™ve got some loose change in my pocketā€

The word lose is used according.

These women seem to lose interest in me.

Itā€™s no biggie. We all make spelling and grammar errors.
 
PeppermintPatty said:
You used the wrong word so she is pointing it out. The ā€˜looseā€™ word is used as such. ā€œIā€™ve got some loose change in my pocketā€

The word lose is used according.

These women seem to lose interest in me.

Itā€™s no biggie. We all make spelling and grammar errors.
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I corrected it. Thank you. I've always had trouble with that word in written form.
 
Wes said:
I've lived a 'complicated' life. Was never married. But, did date. As a man I could never shake the feeling that my various girl friends became ever more manipulative as the relationship lenghtened. As a young man I was variously a premed student, medical student, and then doctor. And, dated throughout this time. Eventually, I stopped practicing medicine and worked in a different field. Then women seemed to lose interest in me.
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We married for love, been happily married for 47+ years, and lived together longer than that.
 
RadishRose said:
Love.
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Thank you. And, I don't believe it was for anything else. But, I don't suppose I will get any other answer from anyone since any other answer is not socially acceptable. I was just hoping that at this late date in everyone's life who participate here there would be some who would come forward and be honest about their own lives. I remember a frank conversation I had with several women in a bar once who said they would never want to date a doctor because his wealth and prestige would put them in the company of others who would be too strong, as they put it. I've often wondered how or what sorts of women relate to such men in certain professions as potential spouses, if not for love.
 
Wes said:
Thank you. And, I don't believe it was for anything else. But, I don't suppose I will get any other answer from anyone since any other answer is not socially acceptable. I was just hoping that at this late date in everyone's life who participate here there would be some who would come forward and be honest about their own lives.
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This is quite cynical, Wes. I am pretty sure that if any member here had married for "other things" like money or "getting away from parents" or "s/he was my booze supplier", it would be said. Assuming that no one marries for love makes me sad to hear. :cry:
Me? Absolutely for love. In 1979.
 
Marrying for love is important for me. To do that, though, there are so many barriers to overcome, including religion, age, looks, interests, location, and family. Once they all come together, like a jigsaw puzzle, marriage becomes the most beautiful experience, because we can share our love through so many aspects of our lives continually. I was fortunate to experience that love with my late husband, who was my friend, brother, husband, father, lover, etc. He was everything to me.
 
I had a friend who only dated doctors. ( She worked in the field) She finally married one. Was it love? I hope so. They have been together for many years. Some of them seemed quite vulnerable to preying women what with their busy schedules and isolation.
 
Married twice, while I thought I married for love at the time, The first one was to fill an emotional need. And the second one, well, trying to fill an emotional need. Both exes have said they couldn't have asked for a better friend, but not a good husband. I don't understand relationships, it won't happen again.
 
Never married either. Can't maintain a relationship. After that house I grew up in, if that was marriage and family, take it and shove it. I'm no prize in the looks department so it's not like people were after me.

Now my stepfather says he wishes he never married my mother and she pressured her to marry him. He was in his 30's and he's a short smaller man and he didn't have good confidence. So he married her. I've told him he should have left as soon as he found out what she was really like. He had family to stay with. She wasn't worth it.
 
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