Sometimes I cannot believe what I will say online as opposed to in person

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LoveTulips

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Do you ladies/guys/whomever say stuff online that you would not in person? I do. In fact, if I feel about something quite strongly, I can be kind of rude. But in person in this same situation, I may just decide to physically leave the conversation and not say anything. Or I can be rude in person too but not as much as I am online. Actually I have been thrown out of a few groups on FB. I am trying to be better here.:)
 

I only say the truth of my heart and soul. I grew up in the southern baptist community, hell fire and brimstone.

They were idiots then, I do not know if that has changed. I will say that I am more than happy to stand up to people that show hurtful feelings to others. It should be known by now that every person that walks this earth should be treated with respect and kindness.

I will not give that courtesy to those who hurt others or criminals that think they have the right to steal, abuse others in unspeakable ways.

If you are hungry, ask me, if you are cold, ask me, if you are tired, ask me. I will try to help!
 

Speaking only for myself to this thread I would say that often I am not even sure what some threads or comments here online even mean. In person, I usually try very hard to first learn what is being discussed before saying anything. Sometimes a person can be all in his/her head. And, other times he/she can be very deep and revealing in their feelings in the moment. It is easier to engage that way in person. Online, as I said, I have a hard time just understanding a thread or the comments. And, when guessing wrong, I am often misunderstood.
 
I'm foul-mouthed in-person so it took me a while to get used to using nice words on SF.

If I write about something I'm angry over, I still sometimes type it all out on a Word document and then proofread it before I post it.

If I feel like someone on SF has insulted me or whatever, if I respond at all, I don't respond in-kind...usually. And I use nice words.

Anyway, @LoveTulips; just try to live up to your name and everything should be ok.
 
If anything, I'm more restrained online. I think about what I want to say and edit a lot. In person, those words die in the air. Online, the words are still there sometimes decades later. That's not to say I'm always nice. I'm not a doormat. But when I do post something, I've generally thought about it before I post it.
 
When I have something to say, I'm straight up in person and online. Either way, I strive to make myself perfectly clear and also to be sensitive to others feelings and might soften it a bit so as not to upset those with delicate sensibilities. God only knows what could unintentionally offend some and set them off. It can be due to a lack of information or a miscommunication. People often misread and/or misunderstand what's been written, and then off they go.

When someone is nasty to me, I might choose to walk away and other times I might smack them in the chops. It depends on what's been said, how it's been said, and whether it's worth my time and energy to even respond.
 
jujube said:
Same thing here. Sometimes I'll type out a response, think about it and then delete it without posting.

In real life, I'll just blurt it out and regret it.

I wish life had a backspace function.....
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I’m worse than that. I’ll type out a post and then delete it. In real life I don’t share like I do here. A back space function in real life would be awesome.
 
oldaunt said:
Absolutely. But I won't be a fake, like so many....too hard to keep their lies straight....
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Those types use to really annoy me but now I view them as one person creating drama purposely and no longer bite.

I’ve seen posts from members who’ve forgotten what member they were trying to portray and messed up big time. It used to really annoy me big time but now I just laugh it off.
 
I am probably more honest online than in person. In person things have a tendency to come out of my mouth before they make it through my brain and what I am trying to say gets lost. Online I do have a minute to think about it and make sure I am conveying what I meant.
 
timoc said:
I don't like people being nasty to me, so I do try to be pleasant online or out in the world, but if I feel the anger and steam welling up in me..... I go and give the lawnmower a really good rollocking. 😊
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That's hilarious. I'm glad I say so little here. It may be saving me from more trouble down the road.
 

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