My next door neighbor's little girl died. What would you do?

[Colleen]

I just learned that my next door neighbor's 4 year old daughter died on Friday (March 15th). He and his ex shared custody. We're not close neighbor's but he's always been polite and my late husband talked with him a little. He always kept to himself and his fiancee lives there, too. I use to see him bring the little girl to the house. According to her obituary, the funeral will be private. I planted a tree in her memory but is there something else I should do? So sad

 

[Della]

I think the tree is a lovely idea, Colleen. Did you tell him you did it? I would let him know in a sympathy card if he doesn't know already. It might give him a warm feeling to see it grow.

 

[Knight]

This part makes it possible for you to express your condolences when you get the chance.
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"We're not close neighbor's but he's always been polite and my late husband talked with him a little."

After that you can tell him this & let him know where the tree is.
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"I planted a tree in her memory"

 

[Colleen]

I think the tree is a lovely idea, Colleen. Did you tell him you did it? I would let him know in a sympathy card if he doesn't know already. It might give him a warm feeling to see it grow.

I did it through the funeral home and I think they let him know. That's how I was notified when my hubby died. I can't imagine what they're going through Breaks my heart.

 

[SeaBreeze]

I just learned that my next door neighbor's 4 year old daughter died on Friday (March 15th). He and his ex shared custody. We're not close neighbor's but he's always been polite and my late husband talked with him a little. He always kept to himself and his fiancee lives there, too. I use to see him bring the little girl to the house. According to her obituary, the funeral will be private. I planted a tree in her memory but is there something else I should do? So sad

If I saw him I would express my sympathy, or send a card in the mail.

 

[CallMeKate]

I just learned that my next door neighbor's 4 year old daughter died on Friday (March 15th). He and his ex shared custody. We're not close neighbor's but he's always been polite and my late husband talked with him a little. He always kept to himself and his fiancee lives there, too. I use to see him bring the little girl to the house. According to her obituary, the funeral will be private. I planted a tree in her memory but is there something else I should do? So sad

Trying to think of what I'd do in the situation... and I think I'd send flowers to be delivered with a note something like "I'm so very sorry for your loss. Your neighbor, Colleen."

 

[Colleen]

This part makes it possible for you to express your condolences when you get the chance.
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"We're not close neighbor's but he's always been polite and my late husband talked with him a little."

After that you can tell him this & let him know where the tree is.
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"I planted a tree in her memory"

I'm pretty sure the funeral home (the same one I had for my husband) will send him a notification and the location when it's planted. The company sent the coordinates where my husband's tree has been planted.

 

[Colleen]

If I saw him I would express my sympathy, or send a card in the mail.

I was thinking that, too

 

[PeppermintPatty]

I did it through the funeral home and I think they let him know. That's how I was notified when my hubby died. I can't imagine what they're going through Breaks my heart.

That’s how my dad’s obituary was. You can buy a tree in honour of the person or make a donation to …… suggested charity etc: the SPCA.

Your neighbour will know you’ve done that due to how it’s set up but you could buy a card and a bouquet of flowers as well. The card and the flowers will be a consistent reminder that you care about them. This is bound to warm their broken hearts some.

 

[Remy]

Yes, say something directly if you are comfortable. Or mail a card. How sad. Very sorry to hear of that.

 

[Lara]

What you already did is perfect Colleen. So thoughtful of you. They probably just want family around for now but if you don't see anyone visiting them you might send them a note offering any help they need or would they like you to bring them soup or a dinner dish. Some people are funny about other people's cooking if they don't know them well though.

 

[Colleen]

What you already did is perfect Colleen. So thoughtful of you. They probably just want family around for now but if you don't see anyone visiting them you might send them a note offering any help they need or would they like you to bring them soup or a dinner dish. Some people are funny about other people's cooking if they don't know them well though.

I just took some chicken out of the freezer and I'm going to make soup tomorrow and take it over. I know I appreciated it when one of my neighbors brought me soup every Friday after my hubby died. Paying it forward

 

[chic]

I'd ask if there was anything I could do to help. You never know. Neighbors do sometimes think of things.