Who in your life hates you?

I dont really think anyone hates me but I am sure there are those that dont think well of me. I focus on those that love me and show me love. I can name quite a few. I have heard when you hate someone you give them power over you. If you love someone you experience good feelings about them and yourself. Working in a small elem. school most of my life, love was all around. From children to staff that also experienced the love of those kids. It is probably why I have permanent rose colored glasses about people. I see lots of love and kindness in my small world. Just try not to watch the news. ;)
 
Some here are lucky enough to have never experienced hate, I guess. But unfortunately, as some of us know too well, hate is alive and well, not just on the news, but in work, social and family settings. (The family hatred hurts the most of all I think even when it's not directed at you. I observed both siblings behaving toward their children in a manner that could only have been caused by hate.) Maybe, as a guy I used to work with put it, "Humans just have a fatal flaw."
 
I honestly believe that no one hates me, and frankly, I don't hate anyone. But "hate" is a very strong and extreme word to me. That said, I'm sure some may dislike me, or avoid me, and I of course feel that way of some folks too.

I liken "hate" to the word "jealousy". Jealousy (to me) is a form of hate. In example, "why does Johnny have that great car, and I don't". "I deserve it and he does not". "I hate him for that".

To me, the word "envy" is to "Jealousy" as "dislike" is to "hate". I.E. "I envy Johnny's great car, I sure wish I had one".

But then there is my ex-wife, the one who came from white trash, with whom we had 4 children, spent 21 years together, built a very good life, and yet had two boyfriends, and one day let me come home to an empty house and bank accounts. Believe me, I have so many reasons to hate her, but I don't. But the fact I've never gotten "closure" after 38 years still eats at me.

Man, I would love an hour or two to just unload on her, with her mouth shut (obviously). Of course that will never happen, and I guess I do hate that.
 
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officerripley said:
One sibling; it ruined their whole world the day I was born, it really did (and part of that can be laid at my parents' feet). And as @TheOtherRick says above, indifference can really hurt too; that old--familiar in my case--feeling of, "This person forgets I exist if I'm not standing right in front of them."
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My first child, a son, was 11 months old when his baby sister was born. Immediately it was his mission in life to protect her from any incoming trouble. He was a dear little boy. How I miss my babies!
 
StarSong said:
Are you able to see them often, GL?
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Two are deceased (I talk to them all the time) the other two I see often. My daughter-in-law is like a daughter to me.
When my children were little, I was never 'in the moment' with them, I was always thinking, 'I'll be so glad when they're out of diapers!', or 'I'll be so glad when the toddler doesn't have to be watched every second!' I never seemed to enjoy them just as they were. My tragedy. (tears)
 
Keep in mind some "people" hate you because they don't like the way you look. My brother's wife hates me. She would like me gone from this Earth. I hate having to have her around. Now that my mother is gone there is no reason for her to be around. I hope there's never a reason to have to have her around ever again. I am tired of people hating others for things they can't help. I can't help I'm related to her husband. I'd rather not be but it wasn't my decision. Right now I live in a town of nit picky individuals. I hate that kind of behavior too.
 
gruntlabor said:
Two are deceased (I talk to them all the time) the other two I see often. My daughter-in-law is like a daughter to me.
When my children were little, I was never 'in the moment' with them, I was always thinking, 'I'll be so glad when they're out of diapers!', or 'I'll be so glad when the toddler doesn't have to be watched every second!' I never seemed to enjoy them just as they were. My tragedy. (tears)
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One of the great joys of being a grandparent is knowing how to savor every moment. Some may think I'm being taken advantage of by taking our toddler grandson so often and keeping him for overnights. Truth is, we offer to have him and rarely turn down any opportunity to spend time with any of our grands. If it means shifting other plans, we do that.

Our friends are likewise enamored of their children and grandchildren so we all understand if a date is changed when "XYZ child is in a bind and needs me to pick up her kids from school, supervise homework and feed them dinner."
 
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