Gaslighters Are Real, You're Not Crazy

dilettante said:
I think the term narcissism is often misused because people have an incorrect notion of the mental health condition it describes.

And there is also the slightly different covert narcissist:

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I think I might be a covert narcissist
I watched this and I definitely have some of the traits. My dad was definitely narcissistic
My mom, borderline
 
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PeppermintPatty said:
I think I might be a covert narcissist
I watched this and I definitely have some of the traits. My dad was definitely narcissistic
My mom, borderline
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Damn, I didn't know your mother was a borderline also. I'm so sorry.

We all carry traits of the personality disorders. It's part of being human. Being full blown in any of them is another thing all together. I know darn good and well I'm not a personality disorder. I am a number of other things 😕 but not one of those.
 
Remy said:
Damn, I didn't know your mother was a borderline also. I'm so sorry.

We all carry traits of the personality disorders. It's part of being human. Being full blown in any of them is another thing all together. I know darn good and well I'm not a personality disorder. I am a number of other things 😕 but not one of those.
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My mom wasn’t borderline personality. I meant she was close to being a narcissist. I’m basically guessing. My moms was thev only one who went to a psychiatrist. She went after my brother died.

I was guessing about the covert personality. I’ve never been diagnosed with any such thing either.

You’re right. We all carry different traits. There are traits of every personality disorder I sometimes exhibit but there’s no way I have them all. My husband often jokes with me calling me Dr. ___________ ! 😂
 
Sciguy said:
There was a film in the 50s called the Three Faces of Eve, but that was about multiple personality disorder.
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Yes. But the woman in question was atypical of MPD/DD from everything i've read about the case. Her childhood trauma was not abuse as it is for most. It was determined to have been her seeing a body in a ditch that was in 3 pieces when she was very young.

Over the years she rarely if ever had more (many have half dozen or more) than 3 distinct personalities, she was sometimes re-integrated and seemed whole/singular for a time but then would 'fracture' again.

At the time the original case study was written up the APA did not recognize the diagnosis officially. We've come a long way in our understanding of it since then. Not everyone with DD has full blocks between personalities, and they are generally intelligent, creative people and often they are functioning for years till something triggers or dredges up the trauma. And often they are functioning for years

The creation of alternative personalities to hold horrific memories from early childhood is a creative way to deal with things no child should have to experience much less remember. But the solution that helps a child can be problematic for an adult if something calls out a personality (especially a strident or combative one who's function was to protect the original personality).

Probably more than you wanted to know about it, since had sisters who had it, tho it expressed differently in each of them. I have a tendency to want to inform people it is real but not as cut and dry as some of the books and movies about it portray.
 

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