My neighbors - a personal diary rant thread

caramel

caramel

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I've lived next to my horrible back neighbors for over 20 years. A lot has changed in that time. Other neighbors have come and gone. Some were burned by my horrible neighbor.

I've found myself writing about the bad neighbor escapades a lot lately. I've decided to start a thread on it, so the people who are tired of hearing about them can ignore this thread.

I've got some new neighbors who have moved in this week. Considering that the last neighbors who lived there were evil, I'm feeling quite triggered, waiting to see what the new neighbors do. If they join forces with the back neighbor, things could go really badly for me. If they turn out to be respectful, decent people, that would be a boon to my quality of life in ways that most people wouldn't imagine.

Seeing as it's Memorial Day weekend, this will be a long weekend for me, waiting to see what happens.
 

There you go, a place to let it all out. Who knows, the new neighbors might help quiet and control the problem neighbors. I am very lucky to have good neighbors for 30 years. When we first moved here they thought I was the older sister of my 5 year old. I was 33 at the time. I guess it was unusual for a Mom to skate with her little son down the sidewalk wearing capes.

Our older neighbors embraced us and were happy to watch our son grow up! These last few years have been sad as I have watched as illness and age have taken many off them away. We do have one new family with young children across the street. Three beautiful little boys with white hair and big blue eyes. All of the boys have albinism, which is a genetic condition. They are very sensitive to sunlight and bright light. Their vision is affected by this as well. They don't get to come out in daytime hours unless it is really cloud covered but they do come out in the summer after the sun goes down. I am blessed to be able to watch these little boys do what little boys do.

Those boys are my new cookie boys, when I make homemade cookies, they get a plate!!
 
OMGoodness! So you mean you had two very bad neighbors, not just the one?!! I feel for you Caramel. Hopefully your new neighbors will turn out to be nice. Many areas are in for stormy, even treacherous weather this holiday weekend so if your area is included, perhaps you won't have to put up with rowdy outdoors behavior.
 
OneEyedDiva said:
So you mean you had two very bad neighbors, not just the one?!!
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Actually, I have 3 bad neighbors. Besides the other two, I have one that lets their kids play like monkeys in a zoo, all over the place. They're fairly new.

That house had a really good neighbor for a long time. She got married and moved away. She was pretty disgusted with some of the other neighbors when she left. She had put a lot of effort into getting along with the neighbors, buying kids gifts for the holidays, etc. The bad neighbor still treated her badly. So glad that bad neighbor is gone now.

The now gone good neighbor told me a story of how the bad neighbor was yelling at her in the middle of the street in the middle of the night for having one party in 4 years when he had a party every year. I lived closer to her and didn't hear a thing.

It's apparent that it's Memorial Day weekend. Rowdiness is happening in other parts of the community that I haven't heard before. My back neighbors are always so loud that it covers over everything else. Besides my back neighbor, it's usually a pretty quiet community.
 
Pepper said:
I've lived in apartments all my life. If you really want to hate someone, share a wall with them!
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While I agree with you since if you think something sounds like it's in the next room, it literally is, there are some things you can only do if someone is in a house, all of which my back neighbor has done.

My back neighbor has hit golf balls from his yard at my house full speed. If I was standing out in my yard, and it hit me in the head, I'd be dead.

My back neighbor plants trees with falling leaves right up against the fence, so all the trash lands in my yard. (The law says that if you cut a tree that overhangs your property, and the tree dies, it's your liability, and you owe them for a tree, which can be expensive)

My back neighbor uses a pressure hose to spray against the fence so water streams on my property.

My back neighbor plays with illegal fireworks in his yard which could catch fire to everything. (It would be hard to do this in an apartment without setting yourself on fire or getting caught.)

My back neighbor plays a stadium speaker in his yard. (If someone did that in an apartment, the whole building would hear it.)

I'm sure there's more I'm forgetting at the moment.
 
I feel for you having bad neighbors. I hope the new ones turn out to be easy to live with. If noise is involved, I would definitely use ear plugs for your sanity.
 
Rae said:
Can you call the police when the noise is so loud or the people causing upset with other problems you have with them?
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I've called the police on my back neighbor for noise ordinance violations that they are clearly violating where I have audio and decibel meter proof 16 times in the last 2 years. I didn't keep track in the years before that, but many times before that.
 
PeppermintPatty said:
You’ve never lived in a house?
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I've shared parts of houses. Like in Oxford I had the whole bottom floor of a house. I had the yard but it was overgrown so I never used it. In Woodstock, a house split off a tiny part of it for my apt. I had use of all the yards. There was a lovely stream out back. The guy in the actual house was friends with rock people as he was a sound engineer.

In Long Island, I had a garden apt, the first floor, had a front yard, back patio and was able to have a garden.

But an actual house to myself? Never.
 
I did have a young man next door. He bought the home for him and his disabled brother but was not up to caring for him. The brother was out and roommates for rent were brought in. We were accosted with fireworks and even gun shots (he was in the army reserves) and one of his tenants thought it was okay to shoot in the air.

We did call the police in both circumstances and it all stopped. Woke up on morning to a yard filled with furniture and personal property. He lost the house due to back taxes. The crazy thing was all he had to do is pay the taxes, the mortgage was clear. There have been two people since in the home, both wonderful older couples. (I will say this second couple, he wants to be in everyone's business but is a nice guy overall)
 
caramel said:
I've called the police on my back neighbor for noise ordinance violations that they are clearly violating where I have audio and decibel meter proof 16 times in the last 2 years. I didn't keep track in the years before that, but many times before that.
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Did you ever call police about the illegal fireworks? Those are extremely dangerous.
 
Sorry to hear you're going through all this. We've had much of the same happen, but it doesn't bother me and never has. About ten years ago, there was an elderly Filipino couple right behind us. His golf balls always hit the house and we have a few dings in the siding. He also came to the door once and apologized for backing into one of our bushes and ruining it. His sweet wife made spring rolls for us to again say they're sorry. ❣️ It just never bothered me to the point of making a stink about it.

Actually you may BE my neighbor 🤭 because we have the same leaf problem from neighborhood trees (we just rake them up... nothing else to do) and the fireworks go off basically all summer from another neighbor. And another dude has the loudest car I've ever heard that startles me badly when it starts up, but...I just get back to doing what I was doing. 🤷‍♀️

Earlier this year, a neighbor's trampoline blew into our yard and ruined a tree... he didn't get it for a week, but again, he didn't throw the thing there and he can't control the wind, so... c'est la vie.

Oh, I also get the loud speakers / partying a few times a month here and about four houses down, there's a rock band that practices the songs they'll be performing... over and over, the same songs. Loud. I dance to the music. 💃🕺🩰
 
CallMeKate said:
We've had much of the same happen, but it doesn't bother me and never has
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The problems I'm having are not remotely similar. They're not in the same ballpark. . . by miles and miles.

It does help explain why this has gone on for over 20 years. So many people I talk to imply I'm the "too sensitive" "Karen". They think they know what I'm going through. They're not even close. When I explain more, some get to the point where they're horrified but then blame me for not moving.

As I go through this, I've often thought of all the women who have confided in other people that their husband is raping them and how often they've had to listen to other women tell them, 'don't worry, honey, your husband is just being amorous. That happens to me too. Just relax." When the woman comes away with a fractured skull, she gets blamed for not leaving earlier.

It's why I report some of this to the police. If something happens to me, I don't want them to be able to say to me that they would have done something if I had only reported it. I've been screaming for help. They have shrugged me off, for the most part.

It's also why I don't generally answer questions on the forum when people ask about my neighbors. It's a complicated issue that has gone on for a really long time. It can't be explained in a paragraph.
 
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caramel said:
The problems I'm having are not remotely similar. They're not in the same ballpark. . . by miles and miles.

It does help explain why this has gone on for over 20 years. So many people I talk to imply I'm the "too sensitive" "Karen". They think they know what I'm going through. They're not even close. When I explain more, some get to the point where they're horrified but then blame me for not moving.

As I go through this, I've often through of all the women who have confided in other people that their husband is raping them and how often they've had to listen to other women tell them, 'don't worry, honey, your husband is just being amorous. That happens to me too. Just relax." When the woman comes away with a fractured skull, she gets blamed for not leaving earlier.

It's why I report some of this to the police. If something happens to me, I don't want them to be able to say to me that they would have done something if I had only reported it. I've been screaming for help. They have shrugged me off, for the most part.

It's also why I don't generally answer questions on the forum when people ask about my neighbors. It's a complicated issue that has gone on for a really long time. It can't be explained in a paragraph.
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well you have all the time in the world to write here what's happening... It's terrible to live with horrible neighbours..
 
hollydolly said:
well you have all the time in the world to write here what's happening... It's terrible to live with horrible neighbours..
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Thanks, we'll see what comes up. I get a little exhausted trying to justify myself, so I don't. But if something happens that touches on something else, that could bring up the past history.

The reason I started this thread was because all I had to say in the daily thread for a while now was, another day lost to the neighbors. Must have been tiring to hear. It is definitely tiring to live through.
 
I went outside to turn on my sprinklers. The monkey kids neighbors were playing nicely in their garage. That was nice. Later though, when I went back to turn off the sprinklers, I heard a man yelling something in anger, then the f- word super loudly, loud enough to hear across the street. I couldn't see them though. My guess it was the monkey kids father. He got in the car and was ready to drive away while the kids were yelling, "Dad!"

My back neighbors are now blasting music somewhere but it's farther away from me because it's farther away from the new neighbor. They're screaming singing. Since they definitely sound stoned, I'll have to see if it gets much louder. If history is a guide, it will be blasting in a few hours.

My old side neighbor's realtor must have hired someone to mow my side lawn. I leave it long so the kids don't play there. They ripped the cable cover to shreds with the lawnmower.
 
Jules said:
Caramel, do you have a cell phone or tablet or laptop so you could video the noise and bad behavior. It would give the police some proof and maybe they’d finally do something.
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I have audio, video and decibel meter proof for almost all of the 16 times I've called the police. I told that to the police. He told me that there's nothing they would do with that. I keep it so that they can't accuse me of reporting for nothing.

I did talk to a nice lady at non-emergency dispatch a year ago who told me to call every time because "nothing is more killjoy to a party than the police showing up." That's if they decide to show up. but she didn't say that part.

I talked to a police officer a couple years ago who told me that a narcotics addict was reporting someone on that street, so he didn't take their calls. Since my neighbors sound like narcotics addicts to me, not sure why he believed one over the other. Probably because my back neighbor is charming, and the police bought it.

At the moment, music is getting ramped up as they get more stoned and the howling that they seem to think is singing gets worse. Now starts the weird noises they make like animal noises or just weird howling, grunting, moaning. The noises are so weird that I can't replicate them.

I heard some sirens very close by. The music got turned down in response momentarily. It will probably go back up when the police pass by.
 
caramel said:
The problems I'm having are not remotely similar. They're not in the same ballpark. . . by miles and miles.
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I was responding to your post #9 where you mentioned golf balls, leaves, fireworks, and loud speakers. That's all I know about your neighbors and mentioned that I have those same four things happening. Those four things are all I know about what's happening to you... so yeah, kinda "remotely similar", no? (I don't read every post here, so maybe you've shared more than I know.) In any case, sorry you're going through it. :(
 
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Another day destroyed by the neighbors. The pulsing beat of the music played all night from the neighbor's house. Often they go for 72 hours at a time which is why I think they're on drugs. Most people have to sleep at some point.

1:30 PM - neighbor was howling like a banshee. The music in the yard started shortly after. That got turned off, but the talking and yelling was so LOUD. Then the music went back on. Just as it was loud enough to report to the police, they turned it off and went back to the loud yelling, and noises until 9:30 PM.

This was tame compared to past parties. It was still obnoxious. Tomorrow will be worse if it's like last year.
 
Boy I don't like to play tit for tat but maybe they need some of thier own medicine. I assume they are playing loud bass driven rock n roll.

Do you have a stereo and speakers? Maybe an afternoon of Opera or Country music might get their attention. Cook some things on the grill that don's smell so good, burnt cabbage and chicken livers. Now I normally like those things but they can smell really bad if you burn them. Maybe invite all the church ladies to come and sit by the fence and hurl insults, your mother would be so ashamed" " your grandmother is turning in her grave" your Dad would switch your bottom raw for this behavior"

Yes, I know you can't or won't do it but maybe give you some giggles to help you get to sleep. Dream of the possibilities!!
 

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