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hollydolly said:
Sorry guys while I'm on the pity pot.. please indulge me in just one more whine...

The thing about all this is, when it all rears it's ugly head like this..I can't sleep, I sit up all night, then get a very little nightmare filled sleep in the mornings.. and of course because of that I have real trouble having a clear head to deal with legal issues... ..

However if I can afford to pay for full representation from my lawyer.. hopefully I won't have to do anything after that...
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@hollydolly Although hurtful, it really doesn't matter what he says about the marriage and the reasons for the break-up because, as you mentioned earlier, it is a no fault divorce.

Your solicitor might have different advice but, if not, I would simply reply by stating that you do not intend to become embroiled in issues which are neither truthful or relevant and if he does not make a fair and realistic offer to settle the proceedings, you will be going to court for judgment and, of course, seeking a thorough investigation into his financial affairs and assets.

£7,000 seems a derisory sum! Surely neither him nor his solicitors seriously think that you would accept that! Take away the legal fees you have already paid, you'd walk away with £2,000!
 

Trish said:
@hollydolly Although hurtful, it really doesn't matter what he says about the marriage and the reasons for the break-up because, as you mentioned earlier, it is a no fault divorce.

Your solicitor might have different advice but, if not, I would simply reply by stating that you do not intend to become embroiled in issues which are neither truthful or relevant and if he does not make a fair and realistic offer to settle the proceedings, you will be going to court for judgment and, of course, seeking a thorough investigation into his financial affairs and assets.

£7,000 seems a derisory sum! Surely neither him nor his solicitors seriously think that you would accept that! Take away the legal fees you have already paid, you'd walk away with £2,000!
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yes if I accepted that I may not even walk away with a derisory 2k... but of course there's no question that I would accept that... he's desperate to hold onto his love nest and not have to sell which is what he will have to do if I take him to court... and as my lawyer said in not such colourful words ''tough titty''... he should have rented in the first place..

trouble is he was in such a hurry to get her moved in, and showing off what he had to this 22 year old.. he used my money to do it.. and now he's screaming that he'll have nowhere to live if I take it off him...well let HER buy him something...

..yes you're right... it is very hurtful the accusations.. but I will answer them in the manner to which you have advised which was my intention, thank you...
 
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Well just as I was thinking I should go to bed, I've just had a quote from my lawyer ( 6.30am believe it or not )... and the quote has me buckled at the knees... not even remotely possible for me to meet those costs.. so I am now wide awake again.. no chance of me sleeping now..
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dilettante said:
I know someone financially trapped trying to exit a marriage now too. There must be lots of this crap going around.
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I wouldn't mind nearly so much if I had been the one who created the end of this marriage... or the one who instigated the divorce, but here I am in this position.. worried how I'm going to afford someone who can protect my financial interests from a man who is determined I'm not getting any more than a pittance..
 
Good morning. Already dressed and coffeed and rarin' to go. Sort of.

We ran out of 🥐🥐 on Wednesday. There weren't any on Tuesday night's truck. Maybe on last night's truck? Could be. If not, I'll be done real early today. Suits me.

@hollydolly I don't even know what to say except that I'm glad you can come here and vent. 🤗 🤗 🤗 🤗
 
hollydolly said:
Well just as I was thinking I should go to bed, I've just had a quote from my lawyer ( 6.30am believe it or not )... and the quote has me buckled at the knees... not even remotely possible for me to meet those costs.. so I am now wide awake again.. no chance of me sleeping now..
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Push it to the wire. He has opened the financial negotiation with a p-take figure. There is more money in the pot, you need to shake him up a bit. He will likely need to be put through the wringer afterwards but, you probably always knew that would be the case, being as he has shown no honour or integrity throughout the proceedings.

Consider your response. I'd reiterate that if a fair and equitable offer is not forthcoming, you will, if necessary, go to court.

You might decide that court proceedings are out of your reach but, that is something only you can decide and, he doesn't need to know that. All he needs to know is that it is on the table and you are seriously considering it.

Don't be rushed. Whilst the situation is a stressful one for you, I imagine life atm in his penthouse is not the fairytale Miss Whoever imagined she would be getting.
 
hollydolly said:
I wouldn't mind nearly so much if I had been the one who created the end of this marriage... or the one who instigated the divorce, but here I am in this position.. worried how I'm going to afford someone who can protect my financial interests from a man who is determined I'm not getting any more than a pittance..
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If you can, try and view the financial negotiations as a game of nerve, or poker billiards if you like, he tipped his toe in the water with an unacceptable first shot, you knock it back, see what his response is and on it goes until, eventually, you reach a point where you will have to decide whether you bank it or take another shot. In the meantime, it's all smoke and mirrors.

Edited because I just saw your post on another thread. ;)
 
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Didn't watch grandson Wednesday as son was off work & did it himself. Today I do! He has a school fieldtrip today. I will be picking him up usual time at school. At four pm, he takes a Ninja class, and I will be escorting him to that.

Tomorrow, Saturday, son & grandson are coming to my home.

A son/grandson two day holiday, Yay.

I made my son a Father's Day Card. I had made my grandson a BD card for his bd in May. From now on, I will make my own cards, my own crafts project. BD cards, etc. cost a fortune, and I don't want to spend it. These cards I make are made from my heart & it's fun for me to do.
 
Morning I guess, woke several times last nite, due to storms,
and weather place making phone calls to me to warn of t/storms....pain, and dreams, all in all not a great sleep...today
got to clean up and get ready for social work supvr to come and inform me of detail of meals on wheels program and other
stuff too....got to put those trousers into the bag to mail back,
the company is sending me a prepaid label....and on it goes!!!
life, dont'ya just love it !!!:love::coffee:
 
hawkdon said:
Morning I guess, woke several times last nite, due to storms,
and weather place making phone calls to me to warn of t/storms....pain, and dreams, all in all not a great sleep...today
got to clean up and get ready for social work supvr to come and inform me of detail of meals on wheels program and other
stuff too....got to put those trousers into the bag to mail back,
the company is sending me a prepaid label....and on it goes!!!
life, dont'ya just love it !!!:love::coffee:
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I don't wish for your storms but I would love some of your rain. We are in the beginning of periods of dry spell. It's hot and no relief. However, I'm always careful what I wish for as we're in hurricane range and Mother Nature has a way to cure droughts.
 
I'm just sitting around....drinking my cuppa and watching Goober play on the porch. I'm so far behind on doing things around the house, like, well.....everything!

I guess my day will be spent busily catching up with a million
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Tomorrow, I'll be at the rink.
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Not been so well lately, but feel a bit better today. That means I had to dedicate a bit of time to cleaning and tidying, since things had gotten behind. From washing up, to vacuuming, to cleaning out the refrigerator, I've interspersed the day with cups of tea. Oh, and I had to go through a kitchen draw because it had become the "catch-all" for everything and was getting difficult to close.
 
Trish said:
Push it to the wire. He has opened the financial negotiation with a p-take figure. There is more money in the pot, you need to shake him up a bit. He will likely need to be put through the wringer afterwards but, you probably always knew that would be the case, being as he has shown no honour or integrity throughout the proceedings.

Consider your response. I'd reiterate that if a fair and equitable offer is not forthcoming, you will, if necessary, go to court.

You might decide that court proceedings are out of your reach but, that is something only you can decide and, he doesn't need to know that. All he needs to know is that it is on the table and you are seriously considering it.

Don't be rushed. Whilst the situation is a stressful one for you, I imagine life atm in his penthouse is not the fairytale Miss Whoever imagined she would be getting.
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We're at the court stage now Trish... we've been through the negotiations, and this is now where we're at. He was given a final date to agree after refusing to attend mediation ( MIAM)... before I would take him to court and allow a judge to decide. The final date was today, they kept us waiting until close of day yesterday to come back with that derisory and insulting offer.. so now we have to go to court... and it's the amount of money that it's going to cost me to have the lawyer represent me.. that has me shocked.. I just can't afford that... it's HUGE...
 
RadishRose said:
This is almost unbelievable! @jet, what is wrong?
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it's not unbelievable it's very common..has been for years now. Many heart attack victims have died waiting for the ambulance.. many, many people have waited ore than 24 hours... I'v spoken about this on here before. Not Unbelievable;... Shameful.....and even after the ambulance gets there.. they arrive at the hospital and there's no space for the patient.. and they're either kept in the ambulance for up to a day or taken and placed in a corridor for anything up to a week..because there are no beds available.. and in fact barely any hospitals.

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Ambulances are being forced to queue outside the majority of emergency departments before they can unload patients, a new survey suggests.
Under NHS guidance, ambulance handovers should be completed within 15 minutes.
But about two-thirds of A&Es polled by the Royal College of Emergency Medicine (RCEM) indicated they were struggling to meet the standard every day.
The Department of Health said extra funding is being provided to boost staff numbers in key areas. ( not true )
RCEM president Dr Katherine Henderson said: "We are facing a crisis in urgent care and a crisis of patient safety."

  • 94% of clinical directors said that ambulances had been held outside their buildings at some point before patients could be taken into the hospital
  • 61% said ambulances were being forced to queue every day
  • About half of emergency departments said care had been provided to patients in non-medical areas such as corridors every day
"These results show the serious state that our urgent and emergency care system is in," said Dr Henderson.
"None of us want to have patients held in ambulances, treated in corridors, or waiting very long times to go up to a ward bed."
A separate RCEM report, published earlier this month, estimated that 4,519 patients had died after waiting more than 12 hours in emergency departments in England in 2020-2021.
 

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