I Know I'm Highly Oversensitive.

Remy

Remy

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One of the cat sanctuaries I watch on YouTube adopted a cat out yesterday, only to have it returned today. I do feel bad for the kitty. But the woman who started the sanctuary was just ripping the woman on her live broadcast. "shame on you!" People in the live saying the same thing.

Yes I'd be upset myself, but talking about this woman like that does no good. It makes me want to stop supporting the place and it always seems like something like this happens and I don't know how to stop it. I don't know if it bothers me because I was blamed so much as a kid for things I couldn't control. I just don't know.

And yes this woman didn't give the cat enough time and they said they told her a formerly feral cat will hid and adjust slowly. So I don't know what this adopters issue was but at least the cat is safe. But she just kept tearing her down over two lives.
 

Pinky said:
The people at the shelter should understand that sometimes these adoptions don't work out, for any number of reasons. Public shaming does nothing positive.
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Thank you. That is the way I felt. This is a large sanctuary, I'm sure they get overwhelmed. But their donors and followers are not the ones to vent to. They have support in others at the sanctuary. I can see mentioning the return and stating they were disappointed and concerned for the cat, but leave it at that.

Thanks for your reply Pinky, it helped.
 
Agree with above(s). The shelter woman is an Ahole. Period. I'd want nothing to do with her. I adopted Louie & Gidget as street ferals from such a shelter. Recently, foster mom told me a cat who was theirs who looked like Gidget and was adopted was found wandering a highway in The Bronx. Miracle not killed. Cat ID from shelter implant. Foster mom just glad to get her back, and the higher-uppers did nothing publicly, as I get their newsletters. Wandering a highway, imagine that!
 
Pepper said:
Agree with above(s). The shelter woman is an Ahole. Period. I'd want nothing to do with her. I adopted Louie & Gidget as street ferals from such a shelter. Recently, foster mom told me a cat who was theirs who looked like Gidget and was adopted was found wandering a highway in The Bronx. Miracle not killed. Cat ID from shelter implant. Foster mom just glad to get her back, and the higher-uppers did nothing publicly, as I get their newsletters. Wandering a highway, imagine that!
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OMG, that poor baby! They said they counseled this woman extensively and interviewed her on the reaction the cat might have. I was wondering if they were mad at themselves because she also said if someone "hesitates" they won't adopt out again to someone who does. So what was all that about?

I've greatly enjoyed this sanctuary. Maybe I need to let it go.
 
Sometimes, the reality of taking in a feral cat is overwhelming. Long ago, a friend of mine had a feral cat, and I know I wouldn't have been able to handle it (I also have cat allergies).

It is easy for others to criticize .. I can understand the disappointment of the shelter staff, but, they should be prepared for a possible negative outcome from time to time.
 
We have, and love, an older Tuxedo cat. A local pet shop puts older kittens up for adoption. We adopted one believing it would make a good companion for our older cat. Holy Hell ensued. When the cats met, our Tuxedo was furious and a non-stop hissing and screeching match began. That wasn‘t the worst. Our new kitten was a skilled jumper and set out to break everything it could get its paws on. We have a bathroom with three potted orchids on glass shelves. What a mess! And that was just the beginning. The feline destruction derby wound up in the county humane society, which we discovered had given him to the pet shop from whence he came.
 
Remy, I don’t blame you for being upset with the rescue agency. They did no favour to themselves or any other possible future adopters of being welcome. The woman realized she’d made a mistake and didn’t prolong it. I hope no real names were mentioned in their rant.
 
I used to adopt feral cats frequently when I was a kid. There were woodlands behind our house so there were lots of them. I never had any trouble getting them to feel comfortable in our home. They settled in like they owned the place in typical cat fashion. The best way to handle ferals is to feed them well and give them their space. When they feel secure, they will become loving pets. Patience.
 
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You describe yourself as over-sensitive. You get upset about things which don't seem to bother other people. I'm the same so I know how you feel, but don't try to change. The world needs people like us.
I think this woman was just disappointed that the potential adopter wasted her time. It would be better to allow people to take an animal for a trial first, to see how things work out.
 
Jules said:
Remy, I don’t blame you for being upset with the rescue agency. They did no favour to themselves or any other possible future adopters of being welcome. The woman realized she’d made a mistake and didn’t prolong it. I hope no real names were mentioned in their rant.
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No she didn't mention the name of the woman. Just tore her down about things she had said. This woman who runs the sanctuary further stated she would be giving her name to everyone she knew in the area involved in cat rescue.

I am going to return the t-shirts I ordered from them with a note. Her donators and viewers are not her close inner circle. Going on public like this was highly inappropriate. She has her sister who helps her, friends and the volunteers. That was her target if she needed to vent. I can't blame her for being upset, but know your audience. Also some of the people in the live chat were getting in on it with nasty words and I'll bet some of them never sent this organization a dime.
 
ElCastor said:
We have, and love, an older Tuxedo cat. A local pet shop puts older kittens up for adoption. We adopted one believing it would make a good companion for our older cat. Holy Hell ensued. When the cats met, our Tuxedo was furious and a non-stop hissing and screeching match began. That wasn‘t the worst. Our new kitten was a skilled jumper and set out to break everything it could get its paws on. We have a bathroom with three potted orchids on glass shelves. What a mess! And that was just the beginning. The feline destruction derby wound up in the county humane society, which we discovered had given him to the pet shop from whence he came.
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Yes these two I have are more rambunctious than my previous two. Especially my tabby. Perhaps this kitty would have been better outdoors though I do believe in keeping cats in.
 
Remy said:
Yes these two I have are more rambunctious than my previous two. Especially my tabby. Perhaps this kitty would have been better outdoors though I do believe in keeping cats in.
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We sometimes take our adult Tuxedo outdoors for a little sun time, but always in our company. We border a mountain known for coyotes, and a neighbor recently saw a Bobcat in her backyard. BTW, the parrot you see to the left has been with us more than 40 years, and so have several different cats. Those cats have never once messed with the parrot.
 
ElCastor said:
We have, and love, an older Tuxedo cat. A local pet shop puts older kittens up for adoption. We adopted one believing it would make a good companion for our older cat. Holy Hell ensued. When the cats met, our Tuxedo was furious and a non-stop hissing and screeching match began. That wasn‘t the worst. Our new kitten was a skilled jumper and set out to break everything it could get its paws on. We have a bathroom with three potted orchids on glass shelves. What a mess! And that was just the beginning. The feline destruction derby wound up in the county humane society, which we discovered had given him to the pet shop from whence he came.
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Maybe it would have been better to try adopting an older, more laid back cat than a kitten and then introduce them slowly. Like just letting them smell each other under a door for a week. Kittens are always going to be so curious and active.
 

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