Have you ever Experienced Unrequited Love?

I don't do the unrequited love thing. If someone wasn't interested, I quickly lost interest in them. What's the point of pining over someone who couldn't care less about you? Seriously. Adios. It's a waste of time and emotional energy that could be better applied elsewhere. I want a return on my investment. Next!
 

At the university. Three years with a fellow student. It ended during a train ride from Amsterdam back to Germany. Such is life.

But I had a male fellow student (handsome and witty) who fell in love with a young saleslady of a department store. She didn't even pay attention to him. On the other hand a female fellow student and former goldsmith fell in love with this man but he didn't requite it. She was not such good looking, but I noticed that she by the help of cosmetics and fashion was succesful to become more pretty. He didn't care. I liked her, but she was not the least interested in me.

Love is a very strange thing. We have a saying in German, which may sound rude, but it goes this way: "Wo die Liebe hinfällt ... Und wenn sie auf einen Misthaufen fällt". (Where love is falling ... and if it is falling on a dungheap).
 
I'm going to say no to love but I've certainly had some crushes that were unrequited.

I will also say I don't fall in love easily and don't toss the love word around lightly.
 
I think many, especially the young, think love is being physically attracted to someone. It is not! Especially when the other person does not feel the same.
What it is, is having a very special friendship with someone, coupled with both people being very physically attracted to each other...this combination has great possibilities for a long, loving, relationship!
 
All through junior & senior high school, I had a crush on a young man who didn't look twice at me. Once out of school, he invited me out, but I had a boyfriend - so, I had to turn him down. That relationship didn't last, and I always wondered what might have been if I'd gone out with the old crush.
 
I like your story for the subtle description of this girl and the very surprising ending with "her rotting, set of long and uneven, green-stained, bucktoothed teeth". Now THIS is literature.
Thanks! Good to know that the story is entertaining.
 
I don't do the unrequited love thing. If someone wasn't interested, I quickly lost interest in them. What's the point of pining over someone who couldn't care less about you? Seriously. Adios. It's a waste of time and emotional energy that could be better applied elsewhere. I want a return on my investment. Next!
There's "puppy love", crushes and then there is Limerence. Limerence - Wikipedia
True, Limerence can indeed be very damaging.
Limerence | Varietygalore
 
Yes… or maybe. What is love anyway? I’m really not sure to this day.
We know it when we feel it, but we are still not sure what it is because so many well meaning people will say, "Yeah, but that's not [real] love." They add qualities to the emotion, often because they were told by others how to differentiate real love from love.

I finally gave up trying to make sense out of the conditions society arbitrarily assigns to love. If someone takes your breath away, your knees get shaky, and you have that explosive heady experience of joy in the presence of someone, that's love. Sure, it may be for the wrong reasons. It may be fleeting. You may even be aware that it's a disaster waiting to happen, but I accept the feeling for what it is, an emotion that is a part of the human condition.

However, what you do with it makes a big difference. Proceed thoughtfully. It's an emotion, and while our emotions are important, they need to be tempered with reason. But by all means, enjoy the emotion.

Some might say I just haven't figured love out yet. Maybe they're right. Or maybe they're not right. How do you define "right?"

Thanks, for you candid thought. For most of my life, I've asked the same question, myself. I finally came up with an answer that makes sense to me.
 
We know it when we feel it, but we are still not sure what it is because so many well meaning people will say, "Yeah, but that's not [real] love." They add qualities to the emotion, often because they were told by others how to differentiate real love from love.

I finally gave up trying to make sense out of the conditions society arbitrarily assigns to love. If someone takes your breath away, your knees get shaky, and you have that explosive heady experience of joy in the presence of someone, that's love. Sure, it may be for the wrong reasons. It may be fleeting. You may even be aware that it's a disaster waiting to happen, but I accept the feeling for what it is, an emotion that is a part of the human condition.

However, what you do with it makes a big difference. Proceed thoughtfully. It's an emotion, and while our emotions are important, they need to be tempered with reason. But by all means, enjoy the emotion.

Some might say I just haven't figured love out yet. Maybe they're right. Or maybe they're not right. How do you define "right?"

Thanks, for you candid thought. For most of my life, I've asked the same question, myself. I finally came up with an answer that makes sense to me.

Interesting perspective! Here is how the Bible describes love.

1 Corinthians 13:
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
 
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Interesting perspective! Here is how the Bible describes love.

1 Corinthians 13:
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

So the kids in my story were truly in love? The Ledge | Varietygalore
https://varietygalore.boards.net/thread/4506/ledge
You and your Bible will have to answer that for yourself.
But it was a fun story. Congratulations on a interesting piece of writing.
 
Thanks for the positive feedback on the story. Much appreciated. :)

BTW:

My apologies for the annoying impression of asking a question and answering simultaneously. I distinctly remember having deleted the question and the link to the story, and only having posted the biblical quote because both together constitute a question and assertion, and would be understandably annoying. How both appeared anyway, is totally beyond me. Perhaps my aging brain is starting to betray me. Again my apologies.
 

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