Giving one another permission to pursue a new love after one of you pass?

hollydolly said:
just a thought... when people say they'll be reunited when they have both passed... what do you think happens if you meet someone else who is the love of your life.. don't you get to meet them in the afterlife ?
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I have to answer your question from two perspectives:

My wife, who was strong Christian, would answer "every Christian will be reunited in Heaven"
Sp I would be reunited with my new loved one only if we are both Christians. Which begs the question of whether I will get there ... at the time my wife died I was a "weak kneed" Christian so I guess I might have qualified.
CooCooforCoCoPuffs said:
Exactly. Us too. My best friend and her husband were married for 54 years. High school sweethearts, two kids together, all through thick and thin. Then she died of pancreatic cancer two years after they were able to retire.

I kept in touch with him for two years, to help him get through the time I knew it would take to adjust to life with her gone.

Then he found a new lady friend. They have been dating and traveling for a couple years now. He does not intent to marry as she isn't able to remarry at this juncture.
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Wonderful example proving love is about concern for your loved one rather than narcissistic concern about one self.

Since my wife's passing I have changed from believing in "only Christians being reunited" to "everyone's conscious contributes to making the cosmos self aware".
 
IKE said:
No one could ever come close to replacing mama so with permission or not I wouldn't even bother looking.
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My brother in law said that about my younger sister. They were married 25 years, she was 42 when she died suddenly of a femoral aneurysm (bled out) in about 3 minutes. After about six months, he called me one day, very upset and I said: "You will at some point find someone else...."

He said: "She was perfect for me...there will never be another Charlene">
She was a very special person, I agree...

It has been 16 years now, he never has remarried, he doesn't have any woman living with him. He does date, but off and on.

He is a lovely man and raised their two boys on his own for 10 years after she died. He is a farmer/rancher as are the sons now.
 

hollydolly said:
yes but that wouldn't be typical of a Scot necessarily ..I'm a Scot born and raised... I'm a good listener..in fact they say I rarely miss a trick...:sneaky:
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My DH is a great listener...he just doesn't listen to anything different than what he wants to. LOLOLOL He is so funny! If I try to show him a new way of doing something - he will insist his way works better. Even if that means he makes a hell of a mess of something. I just watch and giggle inside, Holly. He was 5th born of six kids. Those kids often say "I can do it!!!" because they are sick of being "helped" by olde siblings all their lives. That is what my youngest of four told me.
 
CooCooforCoCoPuffs said:
My DH is a great listener...he just doesn't listen to anything different than what he wants to. LOLOLOL He is so funny! If I try to show him a new way of doing something - he will insist his way works better. Even if that means he makes a hell of a mess of something. I just watch and giggle inside, Holly.
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he's just stubborn lol..is he a Taurean by any chance ?
 
hollydolly said:
just a thought... when people say they'll be reunited when they have both passed... what do you think happens if you meet someone else who is the love of your life.. don't you get to meet them in the afterlife ?
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It's commonly understood that, in the afterlife, worldly nonsense such as jealousy, vanity, and narcissism do not exist. Sexual desires and possessiveness do not exist. There are no conflicts, only love, grace, and forgiveness.
 
Murrmurr said:
It's commonly understood that, in the afterlife, worldly nonsense such as jealousy, vanity, and narcissism do not exist. Sexual desires and possessiveness do not exist. There are no conflicts, only love, grace, and forgiveness.
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I have a friend who is a pastor and we were talking about sexuality, desires, such. He told me: "There is no sex, or sexual desire in heaven".

I said: "Well, I need to think this over..!! Why not? Isn't sex part of love??".

Or is it just that LUST isn't there, or perverseness?
 
CooCooforCoCoPuffs said:
I have a friend who is a pastor and we were talking about sexuality, desires, such. He told me: "There is no sex, or sexual desire in heaven".

I said: "Well, I need to think this over..!! Why not? Isn't sex part of love??".

Or is it just that LUST isn't there, or perverseness?
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Eating isn't perverse, but there's supposedly no appetite for food in the afterlife, either.
 
My wife is quite a bit younger than me, so I talked to her about this when our relationship got serious, but only because I wanted to assure her that I'm not going to roll over in my grave, there won't be a disturbance in the force, or whatever, when she moves on after I die.

It wasn't a necessary discussion, but I wasn't sure of that at the time. (I'm an atheist, but she isn't)
 
Inept said:
Ooooh, from Scots to Danes. I can hardly wait for the next comment. I'll have to subscribe to this thread! :D
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It appears to me you are trying to say something rude or snarky about my comments re: Scots or Danes as being some sort of negative thing, rather than a rational observation?

So says you.
 
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