Married two, three, four times??? Why?

No such thing as commitment and human relationship communication skills these days.

I totally GET why three of my kids don't want kids; I wouldn't want to try to raise kids these days, either!
The moral cesspool and degradation of the American family and society: all for selfish self centeredness.
 
Will be married 63 years very soon. Out of all on this list, religious differences was an issue early on but thankfully we got past that.

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Lack of commitment
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Irreconcilable differences
Lack of equality
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gilead said:
It's hard keeping up with his step children & Xmas is getting a lot more expensive.
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I just told the family I'm not made of money and while I have been told that I look like Santa Claus with my long white beard, I don't do Christmas anymore. This last Christmas though, I spent almost $1,200 on two new laptops and monitors for my son and I. Partially spread out across November and December, but that was our first Christmas in over 7 years. My daughter said "Don't I get one?" I said "Yeah, they're on sale at Costco. The laptops are $420 and the monitors are $130, and by the time you add tax, shipping, etc., it comes to just under $600 each. But you better hurry though, they both go off sale on December 31st."
 
CooCooforCoCoPuffs said:
No such thing as commitment and human relationship communication skills these days.

I totally GET why three of my kids don't want kids; I wouldn't want to try to raise kids these days, either!
The moral cesspool and degradation of the American family and society: all for selfish self centeredness.
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Not just American sadly... everywhere in the western world... my daughter is the same doesn't want children, nor do most of her friends .. and if I was her age she's now 48 I would have not had children either... this country in particular is a horror now compared to what it once was .. children don't ask to be born, so why bring them into a world you know is going to more than likely cause them grief.. I wouldn't...

of course the problem will manifest itself in having no-one to care for us as we age..or more so those of my daughters; age.. ..it's a rock and hard place situation, but we can't bring children into the world just to be future carers
 
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I’ve never been married. Not from the lack of being asked. I’m in a common law marriage of 35 years. I consider my significant other my common law husband . I dont regret not having an expensive wedding that costs thousands of dollars. Not that they all are.
 
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Axel Slingerland said:
I just told the family I'm not made of money and while I have been told that I look like Santa Claus with my long white beard, I don't do Christmas anymore. This last Christmas though, I spent almost $1,200 on two new laptops and monitors for my son and I. Partially spread out across November and December, but that was our first Christmas in over 7 years. My daughter said "Don't I get one?" I said "Yeah, they're on sale at Costco. The laptops are $420 and the monitors are $130, and by the time you add tax, shipping, etc., it comes to just under $600 each. But you better hurry though, they both go off sale on December 31st."
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You mention ‘son & I’ so I assume that’s a yes to being married.
 
PeppermintPatty said:
I’ve never been married. Not from the lack of being asked. I’m in a common law marriage of 35 years. I consider my significant other my common law husband . I dont regret having an expensive wedding that costs thousands of dollars. Not that they all are.
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Both of you are happy and all is well. What more can one ask for?
 
It was hard at first for my folks to consider SO part of the tribe. Father giving him the key to his beloved sailing beast sealed the deal. My in-laws tried to pay me to go back to where I came two years after they ghosted an all paid invitation. I can laugh with him. I can cry with him. And everything in between.
 
gilead said:
Our 54 YO son has been married & divorced 4 times, just married for the 5th time.
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My 51 yr old nephew is on his 5th wife. Seems very happy this time. The first was because they were too young, the second was likely he didn't know the real her, same for the third. The fourth was a high school friend revisited. They drifted..
The fifth is younger, not too young, and they do a lot together. I haven't seen him this happy in a long time.
 
I think some people just aren't happy alone. I once worked with a lady who had married 4 times and she said it was because she could never give up the hope that she'd find the right one. She was a nice lady and seemed happy with number 4 so, hopefully, she had finally found the right one.
 
DebraMae said:
To quote Debbie Reynolds, " My picker is broken when it comes to picking men"
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I can relate, but i do fine picking male friends, its 'romantic' relationships i had trouble with. But after #3 divorce (in December of 1999 when i was 54) i decided to keep away from that till i figured some things out. By the time i did i also realized i'd lost interest in participating in romance.
 
We are almost 39 years into both our second time round , I can tell you it’s has not necessarily been a bed of roses due to us both having teen children when we married

I jokingly mention from time to time how we were …still married after living/ travelling around Australia in a 16 foot caravan for 2 years after selling our home in Adelaide in 2004 ( it was a testing at times )

We had purchased this bock of land just big enough for our planned home ,just before setting off travelling..
We owned the land but to wait for it to be established with underground services / roads / sewage before we could sign up to get a house built. ( it was originally wheat farming land )
 
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