Married two, three, four times??? Why?

jujube said:
I wish. She WAS married to the son of someone fairly famous, though, at least famous to Americans.
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was that conrad hilton..her first husand ?

I've always thought she's a horror.. she stole Debbie reynolds husband and father of her kid.. who happened to be her best friend at the time...

She was kmown to be everybody's doorknob ( evryone got a turn) in Hollywood and beyond.. she was a Banshee who would pretend to have a soft gentle voice when talking in public... and she was always drunk or drugged up.. ..not surprising she made a big pal out of Michael Jackson..

If ''the love of her life'' the British star Richard Burton hadn't have been a drunk as well I would have felt sorry for him... but in truth being together stopped them spoiling another cople...
 
feywon said:
I can relate, but i do fine picking male friends, its 'romantic' relationships i had trouble with. But after #3 divorce (in December of 1999 when i was 54) i decided to keep away from that till i figured some things out. By the time i did i also realized i'd lost interest in participating in romance.
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Yep, same.
 
hollydolly said:
was that conrad hilton..her first husand ?

I've always thought she's a horror.. she stole Debbie reynolds husband and father of her kid.. who happened to be her best friend at the time...

She was kmown to be everybody's doorknob ( evryone got a turn) in Hollywood and beyond.. she was a Banshee who would pretend to have a soft gentle voice when talking in public... and she was always drunk or drugged up.. ..not surprising she made a big pal out of Michael Jackson..

If ''the love of her life'' the British star Richard Burton hadn't have been a drunk as well I would have felt sorry for him... but in truth being together stopped them spoiling another cople...
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No, it was my great-aunt who was married to the son of someone famous...or rather...notorious.
 
My x step sister has been married about 4 or 5 times. I think she thought she has to always be married or thinks being single is failing. I don't think that way though. I'm proud to be single. All of her marriages didn't work out except one and he passed away not long ago.
 
It only took both myself and Cindy one "Legal" marriage to learn it's a good way to waste money get hurt in the process. We both had marriages that would make a dead man cringe. So when we got together and it started to become something far beyond what most people have, when hikes on the beach turn into romantic moonlight strolls, when dinner changed from a bag of cheeseburgers and fries in Wendy's parking lot to several course meals by candle light, the subject of marriage came up. It took us all of about 10 seconds to say "No Way!"

Now just to be clear, I'm talking about a run of the mill, licensed by the county, paying taxes to be a couple type of marriage. Neither of us wanted anything to do with that. So we went to her Church and talked to the Pastor. He was willing to do an old fashioned wedding, circa Jesus's day. He said we could have a small ceremony and a "No license, no taxes, no divorce later if things don't go as planned" wedding. Which we did on Clam Beach, September 6th, 1999, where we met. I went to the beach and reserved the two campsites we had stayed in 1998.

It was quite a day. Then the Pastor and his wife minded the kids for a few days while we went on a little honeymoon. We drove up the coast and found a nice hotel in Medford, Oregon, and went up to Crater Lake National Park the next day. It was the one national park west of Interstate 25* that neither of us had been to. And it was just 250 from our house.

*I have always considered Interstate 25 to be the border of the United States and America (America is on the west side, the US is on the east side, where all the crowded states are...

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Axel Slingerland said:
It only took both myself and Cindy one "Legal" marriage to learn it's a good way to waste money get hurt in the process. We both had marriages that would make a dead man cringe. So when we got together and it started to become something far beyond what most people have, when hikes on the beach turn into romantic moonlight strolls, when dinner changed from a bag of cheeseburgers and fries in Wendy's parking lot to several course meals by candle light, the subject of marriage came up. It took us all of about 10 seconds to say "No Way!"

Now just to be clear, I'm talking about a run of the mill, licensed by the county, paying taxes to be a couple type of marriage. Neither of us wanted anything to do with that. So we went to her Church and talked to the Pastor. He was willing to do an old fashioned wedding, circa Jesus's day. He said we could have a small ceremony and a "No license, no taxes, no divorce later if things don't go as planned" wedding. Which we did on Clam Beach, September 6th, 1999, where we met. I went to the beach and reserved the two campsites we had stayed in 1998.

It was quite a day. Then the Pastor and his wife minded the kids for a few days while we went on a little honeymoon. We drove up the coast and found a nice hotel in Medford, Oregon, and went up to Crater Lake National Park the next day. It was the one national park west of Interstate 25* that neither of us had been to. And it was just 250 from our house.

*I have always considered Interstate 25 to be the border of the United States and America (America is on the west side, the US is on the east side, where all the crowded states are...

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That's such a sweet story! You guys are truly blessed!
 
hollydolly said:
was that conrad hilton..her first husand ?

I've always thought she's a horror.. she stole Debbie reynolds husband and father of her kid.. who happened to be her best friend at the time...

She was known to be everybody's doorknob ( everyone got a turn) in Hollywood and beyond.. she was a Banshee who would pretend to have a soft gentle voice when talking in public... and she was always drunk or drugged up.. ..not surprising she made a big pal out of Michael Jackson..

If ''the love of her life'' the British star Richard Burton hadn't have been a drunk as well I would have felt sorry for him... but in truth being together stopped them spoiling another cople...
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Have not heard that in so long, made me LOL!

Been guilty of picking those for "partners" too. I wish people like them had it written on their forehead, so we can see what we're getting into.
 
Sometimes you make a mistake with love.
You think you know a person, but things happen.

Got married in the 70's and it didn't last due to my 1-year remote assignment.
When you are stationed on a remote site, you get one month leave after 6 months.
Being separated by thousands of miles, with just phone calls, wasn't the best way to strengthen a marriage.
Found out after I returned that she was not the waiting type and 'enjoyed' her time we were apart.
Saw the same thing during my years in the military and found it to be a common theme.

We ended it and I told myself I'd never get in that situation again.

Things changed for me in the 80's and I met my now wife.
She is one of the strongest ladies I've ever met and handled my absences, raising our sons,
keeping our family tight.
She understood why I continued to serve and be deployed.

She is also my best friend.
 
One of my cousins is on her third marriage. Her last marriage broke up several years ago when she discovered her husband was a bigamist and had another family living in another part of town. They got divorced and she raised the kids. She got married for a third time in 2020.

Her mom says she loves being married and needs a husband to be happy, I guess so. 🤩
 
PeppermintPatty said:
I’ve never been married. Not from the lack of being asked. I’m in a common law marriage of 35 years. I consider my significant other my common law husband . I dont regret not having an expensive wedding that costs thousands of dollars. Not that they all are.
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Your post reminded me of a co-worker, who mortgaged her paid off home to pay for her daughter's wedding. We're talking about a huge overblown affair in the $30,000 (1980s) price range. A month later, there was an annulment, because hubby wasn't all that into women. My co-worker had to work for 20 more years to pay off the loan.
 
fuzzybuddy said:
Your post reminded me of a co-worker, who mortgaged her paid off home to pay for her daughter's wedding. We're talking about a huge overblown affair in the $30,000 (1980s) price range. A month later, there was an annulment, because hubby wasn't all that into women. My co-worker had to work for 20 more years to pay off the loan.
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I think big ceremonial weddings are a complete waste of money. Lists are made of people the family barely knows. Weddings become like a competition. They become something to satisfy the ego, not the spirit.
 
PeppermintPatty said:
I think big ceremonial weddings are a complete waste of money. Lists are made of people the family barely knows. Weddings become like a competition. They become something to satisfy the ego, not the spirit.
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My co-worker was 49, with her home paid off. She wanted to retire at 50, but now, she had to work till she was 69 to pay off the mortgage.
My idea of a fancy wedding is a whole keg of beer instead of a "half" keg.
 
PeppermintPatty said:
I think big ceremonial weddings are a complete waste of money. Lists are made of people the family barely knows. Weddings become like a competition. They become something to satisfy the ego, not the spirit.
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When DH son got married , he was in his middle 30’s ..he lives 6 hours drive from us in Victoria ..when we arranged to travel up to meet his wife to be , one of the first things she mentioned about the wedding was she expected us to
give them $2.500 for a wedding gift to pay for their plane trips after the wedding ….We didn’t have that sort of money to give so declined the invite.
It appears to be a modern trend that you don’t give gifts at functions now days , it’s a bit of of competition who’s gives the most $$$

We've been invited to a 4 year olds birthday in May just because we are friends with the grandparents of the child
and they only want $$$ no toys …the hinted amount is $50.00
We won’t be attending as we will be in Queensland in May ..( that’s winter 🥶) here
 
We married in 1968, teenagers that we were. Her father refused her permission for us to live together, so we married. Many have predicted our relationship wouldn't last, others have accused us of selfishness for being without children. Most of our detractors have divorced. We are still married, still the loving couple that were love struck teenagers. We want for no other, we have found love. Elizabeth Browning could have written her famous poem with us in mind.

How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight
For the ends of Being and ideal Grace.

I love thee to the level of every day's
Most quiet need, by sun and candlelight.
I love thee freely, as men strive for Right;
I love thee purely, as they turn from Praise.

I love with a passion put to use
In my old griefs, and with my childhood's faith.
I love thee with a love I seemed to lose
With my lost saints, - I love thee with the breath,
Smiles, tears, of all my life! - and, if God choose,
I shall but love thee better after death.

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The moment she accepted my proposal.
 

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