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Here I was, just having my coffee, reading online, when Goober came to the door demanding to go for a walk, about a half hour earlier that I usually go. Since he has me so well trained....off we went. He is such a joy! I got my "morning dose of Goober" early today!!!

My plans for the day is normal Thursday: gym, errands, pick up dinner, home. I was given a gift card for TocoBell. I haven't been to one of those in over 30 years. So dinner today should be.....um.....interesting. 😉
 
Coffee, more coffee. Izzi is taking a nap guarding the birds making a ruckus in the yard. All bird houses have residents. There will be a bunch of struggles in no time.

Planting vegetables will have to wait until Tuesday. A cold spell, high wind's up to 75 mph and hail in the forecast. I have to deal with the floor in the dining area and the rug. It is a hand knotted monster. Tile guys will help get it back in place tomorrow.

Beer fridge iced up. So empty it and wait and wait.

A dear friend wants to chat this afternoon. A good time to iron.

Mumsy is as proud as can be that size 8 jeans are to big. She is not eating enough and not right. Her daughter gave her some Utube channel to use as gospel. Not a pretty situation and she gets aggressive defensive when I question anything or make suggestions. All the biotin in the world will not do anything if you are in negative calorie intake mode:(

It is SO's Friday!
 

Medusa said:
This is timely, @Twostep. I need this message too, right now.

Hope this get's better for your MIL.
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Thank you Medusa! Mumsy aka my Mother and her daughter are terrified of not being skinny. They see everyone who is not modell skinny as mentally challenged. Fat shaming is their favorite past time. Mumsy visited last Spring. She pulled my plate away and told me that I had enough. Thigh gap is not pretty on an 87 year old. I hope that the hip replacement from last October will not be impacted. Unfortunately there is not much I can do. She seems to eat the Mini-Pannetones from Amazon.

Please eat right. Counting calories is not everything. Food prep can make a big difference as can our attitude towards food. I peeked out of a rabbit hole last June and decided to make changes. I like the retro me!
 
StarSong said:
I never heard of a Springing power of attorney before. Seems like a better plan that a durable power of attorney, no?
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It really depends on your personal situation. PoA is a big responsibility. People can get overly involved in who/what/when especially when their minds start fading or outside influence works its way in. Would I want PoA for Mumsy or MIL? No, they live in their old worlds. Will I accept PoA because it is a spur of the moment decision and can be revoked? No! We went through a similar scenario last summer and there will be no rerun of it.
 
Pepper said:
I've lost weight as I get older @Twostep. I have that thigh gap. Less than lovely I agree. Don't need any calorie counting anymore. Don't need gym to keep weight off either. Drat! Who needs to be old and gorgeous, right?
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Mumsy is not thin but anorexic. Her fainting spells caused a broken hip, one broken vertebra and one cracked vertebra in the last two years.

What is wrong with old and put together?
 
hollydolly said:
Well..I'm pretty peed off tbh. The guy turned up with the drawers.. 45 minutes after he said he would be here..wife and kids in the car.. and the drawers were not anywhere near new. The legs were all chipped at the bottom.. and I said , Oh no I'm sorry this isn't what you advertised, you posted pictures of new.. and stated they were in mint condition .. I don't want these. Not paying £200 for these... and he got really abusive...:eek:

I just shut the door
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don't mess with Holly!😄
 
Twostep said:
It really depends on your personal situation. PoA is a big responsibility. People can get overly involved in who/what/when especially when their minds start fading or outside influence works its way in. Would I want PoA for Mumsy or MIL? No, they live in their old worlds. Will I accept PoA because it is a spur of the moment decision and can be revoked? No! We went through a similar scenario last summer and there will be no rerun of it.
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I had medical and legal durable POA for my mother and my FIL. No issues whatsoever. Didn't exercise it until they were quite near the end and could no longer make decisions for themselves.
 
Twostep said:
Thank you Medusa! Mumsy aka my Mother and her daughter are terrified of not being skinny. They see everyone who is not modell skinny as mentally challenged. Fat shaming is their favorite past time. Mumsy visited last Spring. She pulled my plate away and told me that I had enough. Thigh gap is not pretty on an 87 year old. I hope that the hip replacement from last October will not be impacted. Unfortunately there is not much I can do. She seems to eat the Mini-Pannetones from Amazon.

Please eat right. Counting calories is not everything. Food prep can make a big difference as can our attitude towards food. I peeked out of a rabbit hole last June and decided to make changes. I like the retro me!
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I was just talking to husband and son about this yesterday. This tends to get a hold and run away with me. I get in a mindset of very restricted calories and spending too many of them on non-nutritious foods.

Was talking to my peeps about switching to a more healthful, nutrition-focused way of eating, which can be hard for me because I'm afraid of gaining weight. But my focus needs to be overall health.

I'm switching to low carb, low fat, high protein, fruits, veggies, etc. I'm afraid I'll gain weight with the switch and the hard truth is that I probably will. That happens when coming off a very restrictive diet. But it will settle and my health and weight will start to improve.

I'm 60 years old; my focus should be health.

Your message was another note from the universe for me. (Not that I meant make it about me. LOL!)

It must be difficult for you, watching your mom go through this and not being able to do much about it. -Or having your mom try to take your freaking plate away.
 
Twostep said:
Mumsy is not thin but anorexic. Her fainting spells caused a broken hip, one broken vertebra and one cracked vertebra in the last two years.

What is wrong with old and put together?
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My mantra is DO NOT FALL. I'm real cautious and want to stay put together. Mumsy has mental difficulties about aging. I am embracing aging. I'm learning more about myself that I ever knew. It's just...
Seems so silly that I wasn't naturally thin when I could have enjoyed it more years ago!
 
Your mother (Mumsy) doesn't also refer to you as her daughter, but uses a title instead (Miss Two or Miss Step)? And you don't refer to your sister as, um, your sister, but rather as your mother's daughter?
 
StarSong said:
I had medical and legal durable POA for my mother and my FIL. No issues whatsoever. Didn't exercise it until they were quite near the end and could no longer make decisions for themselves.
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I am glad all went well! Mumsy and MIL already played too many cards in this game. We actually discussed it last night.

MIL is in a posh home and completely out of it.

Mumsy is still working every angle. If things come to an either or decision SO is willing to get an Uber, a ticket to Oklahoma and have her stuff packed/delivered by a moving company.

Last year everything was organized to surgery, studio at an ALF within walking distance, ... . She had to discuss things with her daughter as I pressured her - the night before the moving van was scheduled. Six hours later - I changed my mind. Next day - I am on my way to talk to them if you do not hear from me in an hour call the police. I am so glad we did did not put money down on a home with in-law suite we serioiusly considered. Every night we get the "poor me report".
 
StarSong said:
Your mother (Mumsy) doesn't also refer to you as her daughter, but uses a title instead (Miss Two or Miss Step)? And you don't refer to your sister as, um, your sister, but rather as your mother's daughter?
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StarSong - I have not spoken with my sister in about 15 years. She occasionally calls and hangs up and does not return calls. As does her husband. A text with Mumsy's flight information. We rearranged our lives for four weeks. Should I have sent her back? I am following Mumsy's lead by calling her "your daughter".
 
Pepper said:
My mantra is DO NOT FALL. I'm real cautious and want to stay put together. Mumsy has mental difficulties about aging. I am embracing aging. I'm learning more about myself that I ever knew. It's just...
Seems so silly that I wasn't naturally thin when I could have enjoyed it more years ago!
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Mumsy has no mental issues. She is stubborn. She is bored. She is isolated.

During her stays with us over the last three years she ate everything we put in front of her, enjoyed a glass of wine for happy hour, was actually pleasant and witty when friends visited. A pita after week two - demanding, disregarding our privacy, treating us like children. Talking trash about friends who we asked to help her from attorney to PTA to beautician who came to the house.
 

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