What are you most worried about as you age?

I also don't want to suffer for a long time. My brother went golfing one April day, came home, sat down to watch the news and was gone. I have the same heart problem so hopefully I will go just as quickly and doing what I love most on my last day.
 

My late mother passed away at age 32 or 33 when I was barely 4 years old,
She suffered from Kidney ailment and her body got 'balloon' due to her ailing kidney not able to process it.
So, I'm so careful NOT to get Kidney ailment, as having UTI at my 20's and 30's which successfully got a surgery at my early 30'. I'm UTI free over more than 40 years. I'm SO glad to have it done as being now an elderly and not able to tolerate UTI misery at my age.
Also, one of older brothers passed away from cancer at age 74. I do not think I'm not inheritant to Cancer, but I pray for to not getting Cancer which is practically 'death-sentence.'
 
Small fear...falling down. Veeerryyy careful on steps.

Big fear... having to have someone take care of me. I have never burdened anyone, and that is what I fear most. Being a burden.

Caring for my sister in law, she'll sometimes say she's sorry for being a burden, and I always tell her she's not a burden.

But the truth is, although I would never, ever say it, she is. It's a 24/7 situation, and you never get a day off. I mean, she can't take a day off from having MS, can she?

So, I have a front row seat to the emotions that go along with the constant responsibilities of caring for another human being.

It's like having an infant that's never going to walk, shower, feed themselves, etc.

I never want anyone to feel that way about me.
 
That Lady in PA said:
Worried? ... nothing really.
Worry is a waste of time and doesn't change anything.
I plan for the worst and hope for the best.

Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
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I too have always planned for the worst and hoped for the best.
I agree worry is a waste of time and doesnt change anything.

I live alone. Im an only child with no siblings and Ive outlived all my friends and relatives including the husband.
One thing I do ponder is who would I get to take me if I have to go to the hospital or have a test or something.
I have been looking up options just in case and hoping theres no in case. :D
 
Veronica said:
I too have always planned for the worst and hoped for the best.
I agree worry is a waste of time and doesnt change anything.

I live alone. Im an only child with no siblings and Ive outlived all my friends and relatives including the husband.
One thing I do ponder is who would I get to take me if I have to go to the hospital or have a test or something.
I have been looking up options just in case and hoping theres no in case. :D
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I understand your concern, ... who would take care of you when you're sick or other major health issues.
My acquaintance who rely on 'Home nurse' to take Dr's appointments and other minor house chores. She has an adult son who lives out of state and seems to busy on his own life.
I have no idea how much she's paying for, but if you are not a 'Church people,' it might be a good solution to your concern.
Finding a reliable and truthworthy care-giver/house nurse might be a challenge.
Try to contact AARP or local senior-citizen club and the like might help your concern or direct an appropriate people to help you out.
Also, if you have adult children and live further away from you, they are unable to provide an emergency-situation. Nowadays, they are all busy on their own lives.
 
Amanda76 said:
Also, if you have adult children and live further away from you, they are unable to provide an emergency-situation. Nowadays, they are all busy on their own lives.
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Also, another thing that I sometimes think some people don't realize is the effect that the trend (which has been increasing for several years now) of people having fewer and fewer (and sometimes no) kids has on things. Even just as recently as 50 years ago, if an elderly person needed help, seemed like there were several relatives who might be able to help; in these days of only children or no children, there just aren't that many relatives to go around. And people living longer and longer has an effect too.
 
I concrete terms I think degraded vision is my first worry, closely followed by a loss of agility and reaction time. Not being able to drive any more would mean a huge decline in independence as others have mentioned in many threads here.

So far so good, but there are days where I have awakened and had the thought of not being able to pass the simple testing for an in-person license renewal.

It makes me wonder how many are now out there on the roads only because beginning during the pandemic era license renewals have become more lax. So now I have to worry about the other old fools out there as well as myself.
 
I would hate to lose my independence. I'm doing everything in the here and now that I can think of that would prevent this from ever happening to me. It's not that I am alone or unloved. I just love my me time so much that losing it would make life not worth living.
 
I most worry about any serious long term illness such as spinal or nerve illness or mild stroke that may result in longterm partial/mild paralysis (I would rather have a massive stroke that kills me instantly).
 

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