The price of (me) being nice :( NO more Missy Nice Girl! :)

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Rindee

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Having lived alone all my life, I became an easy target for people who think just because I am alone, I have nothing better to do than listen to their baloney! Neighbors across the road, when I finally gave in and decided to be a bit sociable, they took it a mile further! Now every time I walk out, there they are, hollering at me, talking to me, waving at me, inviting me over, omg!
I even tried to help them out by giving yard work to one of their cousins...now every time he sees me, he's waving, trying to get me to look at some work he did always seeking praise. Then when a family member was to be married, they volunteered me to drive him to the weeding (it was far out of town), they even had gotten rooms at a hotel, and one for me and him, together!!!
NO way, I declined and drove home.....alone :). Then a guy at the store, he helped me out once when my car battery died, he gave me a jump, saving me, and my groceries! To show my appreciation, I gave him a gift card, dinner for him and family! Now every time I go to the store, he follows me around, and when I go to the self-check area, he walks up and stands there talking to me as if we are on a date!
Follows me to my car, etc. This seems to happen to me time and again, when I decide to be, uncharacteristically, nice. Which brings us back to the subject of living alone, and reminds of why I always have, and always will! :) From now on its....no more Missy Nice Girl! I was much happier this way :)
 

Rindee said:
Having lived alone all my life, I became an easy target for people who think just because I am alone, I have nothing better to do than listen to their baloney! Neighbors across the road, when I finally gave in and decided to be a bit sociable, they took it a mile further! Now every time I walk out, there they are, hollering at me, talking to me, waving at me, inviting me over, omg!
I even tried to help them out by giving yard work to one of their cousins...now every time he sees me, he's waving, trying to get me to look at some work he did always seeking praise. Then when a family member was to be married, they volunteered me to drive him to the weeding (it was far out of town), they even had gotten rooms at a hotel, and one for me and him, together!!!
NO way, I declined and drove home.....alone :). Then a guy at the store, he helped me out once when my car battery died, he gave me a jump, saving me, and my groceries! To show my appreciation, I gave him a gift card, dinner for him and family! Now every time I go to the store, he follows me around, and when I go to the self-check area, he walks up and stands there talking to me as if we are on a date!
Follows me to my car, etc. This seems to happen to me time and again, when I decide to be, uncharacteristically, nice. Which brings us back to the subject of living alone, and reminds of why I always have, and always will! :) From now on its....no more Missy Nice Girl! I was much happier this way :)
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I enjoyed your rant. Sorry it wasn't much fun for you. Maybe you should start a venting blog. You are gifted in relating the mundane. Thanks!
 

Rindee said:
Having lived alone all my life, I became an easy target for people who think just because I am alone, I have nothing better to do than listen to their baloney! Neighbors across the road, when I finally gave in and decided to be a bit sociable, they took it a mile further! Now every time I walk out, there they are, hollering at me, talking to me, waving at me, inviting me over, omg!
I even tried to help them out by giving yard work to one of their cousins...now every time he sees me, he's waving, trying to get me to look at some work he did always seeking praise. Then when a family member was to be married, they volunteered me to drive him to the weeding (it was far out of town), they even had gotten rooms at a hotel, and one for me and him, together!!!
NO way, I declined and drove home.....alone :). Then a guy at the store, he helped me out once when my car battery died, he gave me a jump, saving me, and my groceries! To show my appreciation, I gave him a gift card, dinner for him and family! Now every time I go to the store, he follows me around, and when I go to the self-check area, he walks up and stands there talking to me as if we are on a date!
Follows me to my car, etc. This seems to happen to me time and again, when I decide to be, uncharacteristically, nice. Which brings us back to the subject of living alone, and reminds of why I always have, and always will! :) From now on its....no more Missy Nice Girl! I was much happier this way :)
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''Then a guy at the store, he helped me out once when my car battery died, he gave me a jump, saving me, and my groceries! To show my appreciation, I gave him a gift card, dinner for him and family!''
You did the correct thing , sadly did not work out but it was the way to go.
I was in ICU for few days last month due to a tumor removal but no big deal now , either way the staff could not be nicer , I went back last week with 4 Dozen Dunkin Donuts and two boxes of these like tiny donuts they also had .
Plenty for the nurses and cleaning crew to even take home . I made sure it was bunch I interacted with when there as you know staff changes .
Do the right thing in life and I suspect these experiences not great for you but most others when you do the right thing have paid off .
''Then when a family member was to be married, they volunteered me to drive him to the weeding (it was far out of town)''
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Well now you're just being a punk , lol but all my nonsense aside be nice but that does not mean you allow what is others crossing the line .
 
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NotCompSavvy said:
''Then a guy at the store, he helped me out once when my car battery died, he gave me a jump, saving me, and my groceries! To show my appreciation, I gave him a gift card, dinner for him and family!''
You did the correct thing , sadly did not work out but it was the way to go.
I was in ICU for few days last month due to a tumor removal but no big deal now , either way the staff could not be nicer , I went back last week with 4 Dozen Dunkin Donuts and two boxes of these like tiny donuts they also had .
Plenty for the nurses and cleaning crew to even take home . I made sure it was bunch I interacted with when there as you know staff changes .
Do the right thing in life and I suspect these experiences not great for you but most others when you do the right thing have paid off .


Well now you're just being a punk , lol but all my nonsense aside be nice but that does not mean you allow what is others crossing the l
Marcy Sheiner said:
I too enjoyed your rant, @Rindee--and recognized my own experiences and feelings more than a little.
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Thank you!
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NotCompSavvy said:
''Then a guy at the store, he helped me out once when my car battery died, he gave me a jump, saving me, and my groceries! To show my appreciation, I gave him a gift card, dinner for him and family!''
You did the correct thing , sadly did not work out but it was the way to go.
I was in ICU for few days last month due to a tumor removal but no big deal now , either way the staff could not be nicer , I went back last week with 4 Dozen Dunkin Donuts and two boxes of these like tiny donuts they also had .
Plenty for the nurses and cleaning crew to even take home . I made sure it was bunch I interacted with when there as you know staff changes .
Do the right thing in life and I suspect these experiences not great for you but most others when you do the right thing have paid off .


Well now you're just being a punk , lol but all my nonsense aside be nice but that does not mean you allow what is others crossing the line .
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My story tells why I can't be nice :(. Because when I am, it is always taken the wrong way.
 
NotCompSavvy said:
I know you like squats but as you well aware of more and more now getting quad implants .

There is a woman in my area who does personal training and has all type implants .
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I am truly against pro "bodybuilding" and many of the personal trainers who are not what they seem to be! The massive use of steroids, growth hormones, and synthol, and yes, implants, is quite misleading, and doesn't qualify them to be giving out training and nutrition advice to anyone, as their results are not all from hard work and nutrition, but, from chemical or artificial means. I built my legs the right way! :)
 
That's why I don't get chummy with neighbors. I've lived in my current house 3 years and barely know most of the neighbors. One next-door neighbor has done handyman work for me and I delivered meals to another (he recently passed away).
 
People can be trying. I have been finding the best thing to do is give them direct feedback when possible and when appropriate (hard to judge that one). I have spent much of my life hiding my true feelings if I think they may be hurtful to others..
 
Rindee said:
Having lived alone all my life, I became an easy target for people who think just because I am alone, I have nothing better to do than listen to their baloney! Neighbors across the road, when I finally gave in and decided to be a bit sociable, they took it a mile further! Now every time I walk out, there they are, hollering at me, talking to me, waving at me, inviting me over, omg!
I even tried to help them out by giving yard work to one of their cousins...now every time he sees me, he's waving, trying to get me to look at some work he did always seeking praise. Then when a family member was to be married, they volunteered me to drive him to the weeding (it was far out of town), they even had gotten rooms at a hotel, and one for me and him, together!!!
NO way, I declined and drove home.....alone :). Then a guy at the store, he helped me out once when my car battery died, he gave me a jump, saving me, and my groceries! To show my appreciation, I gave him a gift card, dinner for him and family! Now every time I go to the store, he follows me around, and when I go to the self-check area, he walks up and stands there talking to me as if we are on a date!
Follows me to my car, etc. This seems to happen to me time and again, when I decide to be, uncharacteristically, nice. Which brings us back to the subject of living alone, and reminds of why I always have, and always will! :) From now on its....no more Missy Nice Girl! I was much happier this way :)
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Rindee,

I also enjoyed your rant and, furthermore, 100% agreed with your sentiment. I am 75, a widower and, for the most part, just want to be left alone. Obviously, as an old man, I don't have flirty woman coming up to me. I sometimes wonder if I would like that, but when you are friendly or you offer a friendly reaction, you open the door for so much more than you care to deal with.

I gave a small job to a handyman driving around looking for work. No problem, except, now that the project is complete, he now keeps texting me seeking more work (or to be more precise, more money.) So a one day project has created a situation that won't go away. I still try to be socially nice, but I have learned to stay inside and just live my quiet life of no hassle.

Understandably,

-David-
 

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