Were you popular in high school?

Not in the school I went to with kids who were classmates from first grade. When I changed senior year to the school across the state line, we were all popular. There were only 99 of us, and I guess I was accepted and included because my family was "prominent" and extended family very large and all living in the same town. The two towns in different states were only separated by a river so family was as well-known in the first town as in the second. Go figure.

However...after we came back Stateside, my parents bought a house in a neighborhood that wasn't high up on the social scale. None of the kids I'd gone to school with first through eighth grades were "popular," either. Add to that that my parents were divorced, a definite no-no. Oh, the horror! At the school I transferred to, nobody seemed to care.

First town after the war? Maternal grandfather was the fire chief and grandmother head nurse in the hospital.

Second town? Paternal grandfather was the fire chief and a business owner.

Popularity pretty much depended on whether you were from a "good" family and lived in the "right" neighborhood.
this was very true in Scotland as well. WE lived in a very upmarket area.. people still aspire to live there.... so that kind of made it worse for me, and my siblings, because our family were all fur coat and no knickers..almost literally..

So we were too posh for the other kids who lived in rougher areas and had nothing... and too raggedy for the rich kids who lived in our neighbourhood... My father was bus driver /joiner carpenter... my mother was a sometimes nurse...

...but the address was everything for my mother, she came from nothing she desperately wanted to be someone.. and having that address was being someone... to her !
 

I forgot. I was in the Prom Queen's court at second school. Not because I was popular but because my date was in her court. And it wasn't even when I went to that school. I was a junior that year at the first school! LOL

Also forgot that I was military ball queen in my freshman year at first school, only because my date was the highest-ranking officer in ROTC. More LOL

Whenever I was noticed, it was only because I was riding on somebody else's coattails.
You're just being modest, GG. You wouldn't have been dating the top guy if you hadn't been very pretty.

You did remind me that I was once Y-Teen Queen -- and that was just about as big a deal as it sounds. :rolleyes: At least I didn't live in farm country like I do now. This town actually has a Pork Queen.
 
I grew up in a small town, but we moved to a big city the summer before I started high school. So, I suddenly found myself in a very large school with very few people I knew. Popularity was the least of my concerns. Fortunately, I was a football player and wrestler, so I joined those teams as the seasons started. In that way I fairly quickly got to know a lot of guys my age and older. That solved the problem of meeting people and the new friends I developed introduced me to girls. So, it all went fine. I cannot say I was popular, but I had a lot of friends and acquaintances...
 

A person can be popular for the wrong things. We had a group of guys in school that were very popular, but only because they were bullies that came from the city. Anytime you would would see one around, there was always at least one or two others hanging close by. Alone, they were punks. That’s why they stuck together like Velcro.
 
A person can be popular for the wrong things. We had a group of guys in school that were very popular, but only because they were bullies that came from the city. Anytime you would would see one around, there was always at least one or two others hanging close by. Alone, they were punks. That’s why they stuck together like Velcro.
same everywhere, a gang of bullies will have the most followers because many people are cowards they'd rather befirend a bully than protect a victim... and as a child or a teenager they'll follow because they don't want o be the target of the bullies.. not necessarily be a bully themselves but be a bully's joey to protect their own interests

This was my biggest problem at school, I would never back down to the bullies... never... and certainly never be on their side, so I was always involved in a fight...

To this day nothing hs changed in that way
 
@hollydolly I have a mental picture of you engaged in fisticuffs🥊🥊 on the playground, going home with dirty and torn clothes and telling your mother "You should have seen the other guy.";)
I laugh now.. but it was a reality in our house if we went home and said we'd been hit or bullied.. my father always threatened us with a hiding if we didn't beat the other person.... so we learned quickly...
 
same everywhere, a gang of bullies will have the most followers because many people are cowards they'd rather befirend a bully than protect a victim... and as a child or a teenager they'll follow because they don't want o be the target of the bullies.. not necessarily be a bully themselves but be a bully's joey to protect their own interests

This was my biggest problem at school, I would never back down to the bullies... never... and certainly never be on their side, so I was always involved in a fight...

To this day nothing hs changed in that way
They stayed clear of me. I didn’t put up with any of their shenanigans.
 
I played on school sports teams but was never a jock which was the main method for males to achieve popularity in my school. I was first chair solo trumpet in the HS band and did a solo at every concert but that didn't seem to do much for my popularity. I was never one of the "ins" but in general got along with everyone. I never really worried about popularity.
 
I was neither popular nor unpopular. I had a nice circle of friends in school, including one of my BFFs (at the time) that I met because her brother was my first love. I found out decades later that some of the boys thought I was cute (I never did), but I was Larry's girl so they didn't try to "talk to me", as we used to put it.
 
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I wasn't popular in high school because I had to work most nights and weekends. I didn't have much time to partake in extra curricular activities. On the other hand, I got along well with most everyone, or I was at least tolerated. I very much enjoyed high school, but it was hard to stay awake when you are working to after midnight most every night. My graduating class had 222 students.
 
I think a bully would have been run out of town. Some were more popular than others but we seemed to get along. That was Long Island in the fifties. By joining groups we got to go the the Metropolitan Opera and the United Nations or even a play or French restaurant.
 
I graduated in a class of 55 students. I would have never been popular as in individual. I had low self-esteem and hung out with the "marginal" kids rather than the popular ones. I was a skinny 135 lb. wimp. However, I was fortunate enough to meet my girlfriend at 16 y/o, who became very popular. We were together for 3 years. It didn't hurt that she was cute.

As a result, we were popular as a COUPLE and she opened doors for me. We went to the fair with the quarterback and his cheerleader girlfriend. I became Senior Class President and we were voted Most Likely to Succeed. It was a weird place to be because the popular kids still didn't hang out with me without her. All was fine on the surface, but I still hated high school.

When I went to my 20 year reunion it was the quarterbacks who were fat and bald and the cheerleaders who had gotten divorced. I was successful in my career. I spoke at the reunion and was very confident in myself and what I had achieved. My high school girlfriend was my "date".

She and I split up during our senior year but we are still in touch. She's on her second husband and I'm gay so who ever knows how things are going to turn out!

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I was. When I left Catholic School in the 7th grade, I fell into a group of girls who were really nice and very popular. I became popular just by being in that group of cool girls.
We stayed friends all through school and afterwards.
Having thst group of friends made school fun. We were involved in lots of groups and activities. I loved it.
 
Has anyone here watched the Netflix series "Derry Girls" about a Catholic school in Ireland? A lot of bullying going on there. It was a good series, I thought.
yes Ive seen it..I know those girls if you see what I mean.. and of course they're geographically our next door neighbours so there's plenty here in the UK just like them as well as in Northern Ireland
 
I was. When I left Catholic School in the 7th grade, I fell into a group of girls who were really nice and very popular. I became popular just by being in that group of cool girls.
We stayed friends all through school and afterwards.
Having thst group of friends made school fun. We were involved in lots of groups and activities. I loved it.
I can tell by the pic in your avatar that you were one of the "cool girls".(y)
 


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