How do you deal with feelings of loneliness?

officerripley said:
I realize that I was born lonely--disfunctional family, never taught how to be a people person--have lived most of my life lonely and will probably die lonely, in spite of efforts on my part. Realizing that there;s nothing more I can do about it and that I'm a member of a large club has helped a tiny bit.
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I think you are doing something about it by being here and sharing your feelings. People care about you. I know I do.
 
Marcy Sheiner said:
I've lived alone for most of my 79 years on this planet. These days most of my time is spent alone. I don't have it figured out, and the intensity of my loneliness varies. Lately I am very lonely since my daughter is mad at me and hasn't texted in a week (she usually does almost daily.) So, no advice or conclusions, just what everyone else has said. This forum helps some. Nothing resolved, that's for sure.
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I like this answer a lot. Thank you for this
 
Disgustedman said:
See that's for some people like you who are used to social interaction with various people. I realize how hard that can be not having someone, but I would suggest looking at senior citizen centers where you can sit there and chat with others of your age.

I will admit the reason I don't have any problem with loneliness, is because of previous abuse, verbal & physical and bullying. I seem to like myself best when I'm alone.
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That's powerful that you seem to like yourself the best when alone. I wish to be like you one day
 
officerripley said:
I realize that I was born lonely--disfunctional family, never taught how to be a people person--have lived most of my life lonely and will probably die lonely, in spite of efforts on my part. Realizing that there;s nothing more I can do about it and that I'm a member of a large club has helped a tiny bit.
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This is me too. I always thought there was something wrong with me.
 
I guess I use what talents I have discovered to occupy myselfs thoughts.
I'm not caught on TV or Movies. The smart TV is usually on but I seldom
watch much in a given minute.

Keeping a Journal, planning tomorrow tasks, maybe looking back to the past?
I am mostly content with what's happening with me each day. Being married
sure must help and basically being healthy. I don't ask for much. Find blessed
is a great answer. Sleep well, its time to retire now.
 
officerripley said:
I realize that I was born lonely--disfunctional family, never taught how to be a people person--have lived most of my life lonely and will probably die lonely, in spite of efforts on my part. Realizing that there;s nothing more I can do about it and that I'm a member of a large club has helped a tiny bit.
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You have described me to a "t", thanks for this....
 
I remember having one of those situations where something you know (or should know), becomes clearer. I call such things insights. I was driving my car at night down a lonely road in rural Maine, when it dawned on me that being "alone" was not the same as being "lonely." At least for me, there is no connection between those two circumstances. As simple as that is, that insight was a big deal for me.
 
I think that only way to solve the feeling of "lonelyness" is thru experimentation, keep searching and trying different things until you find what works for you.

Do you need more human contact? Maybe a pet? An activity or hobby? Goals to reach for? A pen pal or internet friends?

You may not even know what you seek, but if your life isn't how you like it you're in charge of changing it.
 
C50 said:
I think that only way to solve the feeling of "lonelyness" is thru experimentation, keep searching and trying different things until you find what works for you.

Do you need more human contact? Maybe a pet? An activity or hobby? Goals to reach for? A pen pal or internet friends?

You may not even know what you seek, but if your life isn't how you like it you're in charge of changing it.
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A pet, if possible, is an excellent idea - in my opinion. My cat gives me love every day and I drink it up! ♥️♥️♥️
 
Cornhusker said:
I've found that lonely and alone are 2 different things.
I've experienced crushing loneliness while with people, even people I love.
I've been alone for days and not been lonesome.
I can usually shake it off after I've allowed myself to wallow in it for a while.
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Me too. Not so much now, but I would feel lonely at large parties. I hated it. Camping at a wilderness lake with no one around for a whole weekend, and I would be content.
 
I also have a radio on all the time so I hear people talking. I don't listen to what they talking about but it's people in the background. If I don't have it on a talk radio station, I have music on. Right now while I'm typing this, I have my radio on with people talking. A quiet house is lonely to me.
 
I have lived alone all my life, never even lived with anyone, and yes it does get lonely sometimes. I keep busy, and I am never bored, there's too much to do in this life to be bored!
I do so by working out, playing music, chess, dominoes, going for long walks, I have 2 cats, 2 cars, and having to do everything, I seldom stop to think about it. I use the internet for what it is designed for...communication!
There are sites for dating (I avoid those lol!), friendships, pen pals all over the world (online messages not actually writing a letter lol), sites for everything. I make connections like that, and at my stage of the game of life, it's the only way for me! Even on the gaming sites I have friends there who message and email me.
I send them pics, videos, fun stuff! Joining groups or volunteering my time is not for me.....I have done so much for so many people I have known throughout my life, that the rest of this life is for ME :)! Make some connections, communicate, have fun!
 
Rindee said:
I have lived alone all my life, never even lived with anyone, and yes it does get lonely sometimes. I keep busy, and I am never bored, there's too much to do in this life to be bored!
I do so by working out, playing music, chess, dominoes, going for long walks, I have 2 cats, 2 cars, and having to do everything, I seldom stop to think about it. I use the internet for what it is designed for...communication!
There are sites for dating (I avoid those lol!), friendships, pen pals all over the world (online messages not actually writing a letter lol), sites for everything. I make connections like that, and at my stage of the game of life, it's the only way for me! Even on the gaming sites I have friends there who message and email me.
I send them pics, videos, fun stuff! Joining groups or volunteering my time is not for me.....I have done so much for so many people I have known throughout my life, that the rest of this life is for ME :)! Make some connections, communicate, have fun!
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Wow. Everything you do is free. Good job.
 
CaliS said:
A pet, if possible, is an excellent idea - in my opinion. My cat gives me love every day and I drink it up! ♥️♥️♥️
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Have you heard of the Cat Distribution System (CDS)? It is said that a cat will be delivered to the right person in at the right time. I lost my last kitty more than a year ago and felt I was too old too get another one.

Well a stray appeared a few months ago and had kittens at my house. A neighbor helped get them neutered and returned. I'm not sure if I can get them socialized for adoption but they are happy to call this home and such a joy to be around.
 

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