How do you deal with feelings of loneliness?

officerripley said:
I realize that I was born lonely--disfunctional family, never taught how to be a people person--have lived most of my life lonely and will probably die lonely, in spite of efforts on my part. Realizing that there;s nothing more I can do about it and that I'm a member of a large club has helped a tiny bit.
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I think you are doing something about it by being here and sharing your feelings. People care about you. I know I do.
 
When someone starts a thread, they should have the courtesy to return now and then and check on how it's going; perhaps offer some feedback.
 

MACKTEXAS said:
When someone starts a thread, they should have the courtesy to return now and then and check on how it's going; perhaps offer some feedback.
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Ive seen this happen in other forums. Often its not intentional.
Sometimes they dont remember where they posted.
And If they dont check the box for email notifications they dont get notified .
 
Marcy Sheiner said:
I've lived alone for most of my 79 years on this planet. These days most of my time is spent alone. I don't have it figured out, and the intensity of my loneliness varies. Lately I am very lonely since my daughter is mad at me and hasn't texted in a week (she usually does almost daily.) So, no advice or conclusions, just what everyone else has said. This forum helps some. Nothing resolved, that's for sure.
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I like this answer a lot. Thank you for this
 
Disgustedman said:
See that's for some people like you who are used to social interaction with various people. I realize how hard that can be not having someone, but I would suggest looking at senior citizen centers where you can sit there and chat with others of your age.

I will admit the reason I don't have any problem with loneliness, is because of previous abuse, verbal & physical and bullying. I seem to like myself best when I'm alone.
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That's powerful that you seem to like yourself the best when alone. I wish to be like you one day
 
timoc said:
Hand on heart, I have never felt loneliness, my life has been a very busy one and never enough hours in the day to do all the things I planned.
What would be nice though, is to have one of those Hawaiian girls visit now and again, with a big palm leaf to fan me while she dropped grapes in my mouth. 😊
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haha same here
 
officerripley said:
I realize that I was born lonely--disfunctional family, never taught how to be a people person--have lived most of my life lonely and will probably die lonely, in spite of efforts on my part. Realizing that there;s nothing more I can do about it and that I'm a member of a large club has helped a tiny bit.
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This is me too. I always thought there was something wrong with me.
 
I guess I use what talents I have discovered to occupy myselfs thoughts.
I'm not caught on TV or Movies. The smart TV is usually on but I seldom
watch much in a given minute.

Keeping a Journal, planning tomorrow tasks, maybe looking back to the past?
I am mostly content with what's happening with me each day. Being married
sure must help and basically being healthy. I don't ask for much. Find blessed
is a great answer. Sleep well, its time to retire now.
 
officerripley said:
I realize that I was born lonely--disfunctional family, never taught how to be a people person--have lived most of my life lonely and will probably die lonely, in spite of efforts on my part. Realizing that there;s nothing more I can do about it and that I'm a member of a large club has helped a tiny bit.
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You have described me to a "t", thanks for this....
 
I remember having one of those situations where something you know (or should know), becomes clearer. I call such things insights. I was driving my car at night down a lonely road in rural Maine, when it dawned on me that being "alone" was not the same as being "lonely." At least for me, there is no connection between those two circumstances. As simple as that is, that insight was a big deal for me.
 
I've found that lonely and alone are 2 different things.
I've experienced crushing loneliness while with people, even people I love.
I've been alone for days and not been lonesome.
I can usually shake it off after I've allowed myself to wallow in it for a while.
 

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