How did you meet your partner?

Met my ex hb at work when he introducd himself. We went out for several weeks and both decided it could work. We were married 30 yrs, no kids as he had had a vasectomy before he met me. His presence in my ife enabled me to do what I wanted with my life, making me able to rescue dogs and cats, earn my Paramedic license and run rescue, and other volunteer things.

Only later did I discover by bits and pieces that he was an agent and I enabled him to remain one. They wanted him to marry and settle down and so he did. Symbiotic relationship totally. If you want to know more you'll have to read the book.
 

Back in 1966, before personal computers and dating aps, I used ibm punch cards to join Operation Match which was a computer program run by U C Berkeley students for free with the objective oh matching up people for dates. It found me my first wife! I wonder if that was the first such program and if the founder went on to be a millionaire.
 
OregonGuy said:
Back in 1966, before personal computers and dating aps, I used ibm punch cards to join Operation Match which was a computer program run by U C Berkeley students for free with the objective oh matching up people for dates. It found me my first wife! I wonder if that was the first such program and if the founder went on to be a millionaire.
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Very cool !!!!
 
StarSong said:
In my experience, there in fact is no such thing as unconditional love. Even a vow made in earnest holds little sway when one or both partners become miserable.

Other than my children, I love nobody unconditionally. And even with them, if the relationship became toxic I would distance myself from them.
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Toxic. I feel the same because that's how it became with my only child. Part of me still cares for what used to be or could have been, but I'm not sure it's love. She did the distancing herself by moving 1500 miles away. My wife I went to see her once some years ago. It did not go well, and I knew when we left I would never go back. Unconditional love? No, I wouldn't even feel safe going to sleep in the same house with her.
 
MACKTEXAS said:
Toxic. I feel the same because that's how it became with my only child. Part of me still cares for what used to be or could have been, but I'm not sure it's love. She did the distancing herself by moving 1500 miles away. My wife I went to see her once some years ago. It did not go well, and I knew when we left I would never go back. Unconditional love? No, I wouldn't even feel safe going to sleep in the same house with her.
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Sending you a PM on how I released myself from this kind of pain. If anyone else is interested, you can PM me.
 
Fall of 1969. We went to the same college in Oklahoma. We both were from Colorado, but I did not know that when I first met her.

I first saw her when she walked into our biology class our freshman year. I knew then that I wanted to meet her and hopefully, later to get a date with her. Later that week I saw her in the library studying. I asked her what she was studying, and she said Biology. I asked her if she wanted to study together, she said OK... I guess you could say we hit it off pretty well. Been together since then, have three great Kids, six Grandkids, and three Great- Grandkids...so far. Life is good...
 
Husband and brother were stationed in Adak, Alaska back in the 70’s. My brother asked me to write to his buddy because he wasn’t getting any mail from home. I was 16 and we wrote for about 2 years. Then he started calling me when I was over 18 and flew out to see me for the weekend. He went overseas on a westpac tour and came back 6-7 months later. I flew to see him for the weekend in California.

When I got home I packed up and flew out with a wedding dress in my suitcase. We were married 3 days later at a little chapel in California. I was 19 and he was 24. We made it 48 years. That’s how I found my Filipino sailor.
 
I was sationed at Roosevelt Roads Naval air station in Puerto Rico. In Dec. of 1961 I was on liberty with a couple of buddies. We stopped at a bar that had music blaring. The bar had a lower level & an upper level where the music was coming from. We went upstairs to check it out.

Locals were enjoying dancing & drinking. We found a table to sit and drink & listen to music we hadn't heard before. Salsa, merengue & slow music. While sitting there the most beautiful blond came over to ask me if I wanted to dance. I said OK if it was the slow music.

We spent some time talking or at least trying to her english wasn't to good but we understood each other. So good in fact that I asked her to marry me. We married in March of 1962, 63 years and hoping for as many more as we can have together.
 
OregonGuy said:
Back in 1966, before personal computers and dating aps, I used ibm punch cards to join Operation Match which was a computer program run by U C Berkeley students for free with the objective oh matching up people for dates. It found me my first wife! I wonder if that was the first such program and if the founder went on to be a millionaire.
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I did exactly the same thing. It was 1966 at college in Billings, Montana. Yep IBM punch cards were used, but I think we just filled out a paper form, and some tech guy probably transferred that to cards. Everyone lined up in correct order. Men behind the stage on one side, and Women on the other side. A gate keeper guy would tell us when to go out so you and your date entered the stage and met for the first time in front of a dance floor filled with students, probably the ones that came out before us. Students were talking about the big dance for weeks before and days after.

My date was very nice, and of course we talked about about the information we filled out on the forms, and on paper we did match big time, but that was my last year, hers too, and we were both on our ways to start careers.

I played the guitar back then and sang in front of very large groups a few times, and she was a musician and singer also. During the spring we had a big outdoor hootenanny thing, and I was asked to do a couple of numbers. This was the last time I saw her. She was in one of those big musical groups like the Mommas and the Poppas, maybe 10 members in all that were fashionable back in the 60s, and they sounded to me as good as any group that became ultra popular and recorded back then near the end of the folk era. I believe they called themselves The Honeywind Singers. Me? I was JustDave.

Her group came out right before me, and were still hanging out at the back of the stage as I played, and I heard her cheering and shouting at me to play another. Never saw her again after that. I guess it wasn't meant to be. I didn't find my real match until 10 years later.
 
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My husband was a client of the animal hospital where I worked as a vet assistant. He had 2 beagles.
He kept bugging me to have lunch with him. I told him that we ate our lunch in the employee lounge. How about dinner then?
I really was off men at that time and didn’t want to date anyone. I thought he seemed conceited.
My co-worker talked me into going to dinner with him. I’ve never forgiven her!
 
I lived in Tampa. I used to see this cute Filipino guy out at the club with his friends but I was with someone. I moved to Miami, was single and out at a club and there he was. He'd moved there to go to college. The first thing I thought was "he hasn't aged a bit since the Tampa days". We caught each others' eye. He was always the designated driver with his friends because he didn't drink, but that night he'd had a few beers so he was more uninhibited. We talked for a while until the bar closed and I was completely taken with how handsome and intelligent he was.

It was the Friday of Labor Day weekend. I invited him to a movie the next night. He came over to my condo and we talked until we missed the movie. He went home on Monday. We continued dating and moved in together a month later in October 1991. We were married in 2015 and have been together for 34 years. And yes, we still have interesting talks!
 
I met the husband at a friends house. I came to watch chiller theater, and he came to pick up her roommate for a date.
Roommate stood him up and we felt sorry for him and said he could chill and watch tv with us.

Later I met him again. My friends and I liked to go to the local campus bar for dancing. That night no one asked me to dance.
I found out later that he was giving the stink eye to anybody who approached me. He was a large person and one of the bouncers so there was no dancing. He did try to pick me up that night. I told him I dont make a habit of leaving with guys I meet in bars.
You need to make a date. We dated for two weeks. He asked me to marry him. We were together for 51 when he passed in 2022.
 
Today ~ is 39 years since we met , on Sept 19th 1986 ….got married 26th Sept 1987 ( second time round for both )

Met through acquaintances who worked with hubs …… but didn’t get to meet him till we’d chatted on the phone for 5 weeks ( I had to wait till it was school holidays for my kids ) so I could go meet him at a central location in the city ….i lived 300 km east of the city and he lived 400 km north of the city
 

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