Weird visit this afternoon

72 eh. My guess is she might be lonely. If she had a career in forensics, that professional experience and training could influence the "care" with which she chooses possible friendships. Sounds to me like she has obviously done some diligent research on you before approaching. Strange that she knew things about you that no one there knows.

The other thought, long shot as it may be ... I know you've shared in general, what career your husband may have been involved with ... and I wonder if someone fed her some info in order to approach you and do a little digging. For what purpose, I have no idea.

Lots of things unanswered and a mystery.
 

dusty said:
Her first name is Brenda. She told me she is now 72 yrs old. She's a small person too, walks with a slight limp.
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Given the information, it is highly likely that your source was mistaken, or that "Brenda" is an informal reference to someone whose name or role is not publicly documented. (From search for Brenda, NY State, NYC, forensics, missing persons, cold cases, retired, past employee.)

Lilac, post #19, has great advice. Please follow it. I think that you should not call the police. Instead go to the police station and ask to speak to a detective. Maybe you should do that first, in case s/he will talk to the apartment management for you. The cops have a greater chance of getting that info. If not, try to get it yourself.
 

dusty said:
I have racked my brain all evening and cannot figure out what she would want from me. She knew things about me no one here knows. I learned to keep my business to myself long ago.
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Since you came from an area 30 miles away, do you think she got this info from someone there who has something against you. I’d really be concerned about her enquires re your son.

@Naturally had a good point about your ex’s history.
 
WheatenLover said:
Given the information, it is highly likely that your source was mistaken, or that "Brenda" is an informal reference to someone whose name or role is not publicly documented. (From search for Brenda, NY State, NYC, forensics, missing persons, cold cases, retired, past employee.)

Lilac, post #19, has great advice. Please follow it. I think that you should not call the police. Instead go to the police station and ask to speak to a detective. Maybe you should do that first, in case s/he will talk to the apartment management for you. The cops have a greater chance of getting that info. If not, try to get it yourself.
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Thanks for looking that up. She does not look lik someone who would be involved in that type of job...doesn't seem educated enough.
 
Jules said:
Since you came from an area 30 miles away, do you think she got this info from someone there who has something against you. I’d really be concerned about her enquires re your son.

@Naturally had a good point about your ex’s history.
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I never was there and I don't know anyone who is or was. I don't think anyone should have a gtude against me...yeah, the questions about my son bothered me too. I actually thought it might have something to do with me exes history too, she was very smooth in the way the conversation went and I caught that right away.

A person cannot be left alone these days no matter how hard we try.
 
Naturally said:
The other thought, long shot as it may be ... I know you've shared in general, what career your husband may have been involved with ... and I wonder if someone fed her some info in order to approach you and do a little digging. For what purpose,
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I don't think it's a long shot at all... it was my first thought, too... and seems more likely than run of the mill identity theft. She knows too much that she shouldn't know.
 
That's odd and sounds dangerous. I would have probably held her at gun point and pistol whipped the truth out of her (just kidding). Maybe she did online research on you for some reason. Are you an open book on social media?
 
The police haven't been very helpful to me. I was told I need security cameras when a neighbor deposited some trash onto my yard. I got the cameras. They talked to him once, after I showed footage. The next time, they told me it was a civil matter since they couldn't see the trash from the street - a bush I have hid it from street view.

Another time, I got a hateful letter (no return address) warning me not to park on the street . I never park on the street. Called the police. They took the letter, said not to worry about it, then never got back to me.

If someone came asking a few questions, they probably wouldn't even come out to talk. But good luck - maybe you have better police where you live.
 
This situation sounds so scary. Somehow she must have found information about you, maybe neighbors? I hope you can avoid her and do some of the advice given to you here.
 
Do you know anyone else where you live? If so, you could ask them if anyone named Brenda has had similiar interactions with her. If they have, then you have an MO and a valid suspiciion, and I'd contact the authorities.
 
dusty said:
I can't google her as I don't know her last name. I am very ucomfortable right now. I had no reason for her to ever knock on my door. I feel creepy .
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Crazy! If/when I ever saw her again, I would avert my gaze and put my hands up in "keep-away-from-me" position! And move away in the opposite direction.
And if there's another incident, I'd call the cops. On the Emergency 911 line. At least it will be on record.

EDIT: I certainly would not approach her as some here have suggested.
And I would tell someone close to me about this just in case!
 
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dusty said:
Thanks for looking that up. She does not look lik someone who would be involved in that type of job...doesn't seem educated enough.
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@dusty I looked up where to find information like Ms. 72 knew about you.

Public records databases: Several paid people-search websites, such as TruthFinder or Instant Checkmate, can provide a list of a person's past addresses. Some offer basic information for free, but a fee is required for detailed reports.

Obituaries legacy.com findagrave.com

Childhood friends
  • Social media: Start with social media platforms like Facebook, where you can search for a person's name and school, and use tools to find old classmates and friends. An old photo can even be uploaded to a reverse image search to find where else it exists online.

  • Yearbook websites: Websites specializing in high school and college yearbooks can be a rich source of names and photos from specific periods and schools. See classmates.com

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  • Online communities and forums: Search for online groups related to the person's interests or hometown. These niche communities can lead to information if mainstream social media proves fruitless.
Childhood addresses

  • Public records databases: Several paid people-search websites, such as TruthFinder or Instant Checkmate, can provide a list of a person's past addresses. Some offer basic information for free, but a fee is required for detailed reports.

  • Historical resources: Census records (available up to 1950 in the U.S.) are a valuable resource for identifying families who lived at a particular address during a specific period. City directories, often found in local historical societies or libraries, can also list residents by address.

  • Property records: County property tax assessor offices or local government offices may hold historical residency or land records.
People known in common

Online Resources:
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    • School websites
 
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