Good Friends Are Important For A Happy Life

Lewkat said:
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The best way to find out if something is wrong, usually, is to have one or two close friends who know you both. This way, one can check on the loved one or dear friend if something is suddenly off. Other than calling the authorities, which I don't advise, this is a thought I came up with, Babs.
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Unfortunately there are no friends to ask. She has two children but I do not have their information. Thanks for the ideas. I think I will try another email. There are many degrees of forgetfulness.
 

Lewkat said:
Sadly, all my besties have passed away. Of course, I have met many new folks, but this isn't the same as those I've known most of my life. I did have one friend on here who also passed, and I still haven't gotten beyond that. He had many friends here, but we pm'ed almost daily and I sorely miss his sense of humor.

Now, over the years, I've made some fine friends here, and they manage to keep me on my toes. They are from all generations, different corners of the globe and most have a great sense of humor. Plus, I am amazed at how well educated my new friends are.

Forums such as this one are sometimes lifesavers.
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We are getting to the same stage in life loosing friends and ..nearly everytime we go to a dance someone's died or given up dancing … …so it’s getting fewer and fewer attending , interestingly don’t know of anyone that was involved in the social …ballroom dancing we do , that got ~ or developed dementia, I actually said to my long term GP one day , ya know the people who do the social B.D be studied …why so many are living up to 100 years old …and still able to dance well …some of it could be the social side ~ or just getting ready ~ and going out ….as well as the activity of the dancing ….and having to remember the steps of each and every dance 💃
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Jules said:
My phone popped up with a reminder that my friend’s birthday is tomorrow. She died last year. I’m undecided whether I should correct or just keep it as the date I remember her. Probably will retain it.
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That's a very unique and special way to remember and honor your friend. Very thoughtful...❤️
 

MACKTEXAS said:
It was that way with us, too. Now and then, my wife and I went places with other people, but most of the time, we just did things together. Then our daughter came along, and it was the 3 of us until she grew up and left home.

During those years, I felt we should engage more with other couples, and sometimes it bothered me that we didn't. Not until she was gone did I realize that our relationship was much like many others. I wish I had realized that when it mattered.
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My husband and I did almost everything by ourselves which is surprising because he knew a lot of people. When he retired, he didn't stay in touch with most. I was from a different state so most everyone I knew didn't live in our state. Every Thanksgiving he did have a big get together with his friends at the house until he got to where he couldn't eat anymore. I didn't mind not doing things just by ourselves because we enjoyed each other's company. Now that he's passed, I don't have any close friends down here, but I don't want to move back to Indiana. I like it here. I am gradually meeting new people at church and at the museum I work at so that helps a lot.
 
Babs2u said:
Unfortunately there are no friends to ask. She has two children but I do not have their information. Thanks for the ideas. I think I will try another email. There are many degrees of forgetfulness.
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You are so right and what a thoughtful person you are to keep trying❤️
 
Jules said:
My phone popped up with a reminder that my friend’s birthday is tomorrow. She died last year. I’m undecided whether I should correct or just keep it as the date I remember her. Probably will retain it.
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I keep them all in my calendar, even those who passed away over 30 years ago because I still want to think of them on their birthdays.
 
VeggieMan said:
Spending time with good friends is very special to me because unlike other meetings in our lives, this has no other purpose or hidden agenda.
Enjoying each other's company is the purpose.
I have three such friends in my life, two women and a man, unrelated to each other or me.
One from my college days, one from a company we worked for and another from a restaurant I go to frequently.
Even having one good friend is enough.
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The reason the four of us, after almost fifteen years, are still great friends? When we first got together for a dinner I took us out to, I suggested the following before we left . "Let's agree to make this a platonic relationship.Sexual desires are normal, however, it will ruin our friendships which is more important. Let's agree to never cross that line with anything we say or do together'. They all agreed and nothing has ever changed...No clothes have ever come off😂 The women are in their mid forties and I my male buddy is close to my age .
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My husband is in a friend class all his own, and has been for nearly 50 years. My BFF I've known 60 years - we text several times a week and see each other a few times a year (we live 150 miles apart), then I have a small circle of friends of 40 years standing — we try to get together once a month or so. There's another half dozen I've been close with for 25 years, we zoom weekly.

I'm also very close with my daughter, SIL, sons and DILs. Because of their many years of inviting their friends to parties at our home, many of that group have also become good friends to DH & me.

What do I mean by a friend? To me a friend is someone I could call at 3 AM and say, "Please help me - I'm in jam." and they'll say, "I'm glad you called me. Tell me what's going on and what I can do." And vice-versa.

Truth is, I have many more wonderful people in my life than I ever imagined or deserved, especially because I need more space than most when it comes to relationships.

p.s. I also have wonderful neighbors.
 
StarSong said:
My husband is in a friend class all his own, and has been for nearly 50 years. My BFF I've known 60 years - we text several times a week and see each other a few times a year (we live 150 miles apart), then I have a small circle of friends of 40 years standing — we try to get together once a month or so. There's another half dozen I've been close with for 25 years, we zoom weekly.

I'm also very close with my daughter, SIL, sons and DILs. Because of their many years of inviting their friends to parties at our home, many of that group have also become good friends to DH & me.

What do I mean by a friend? To me a friend is someone I could call at 3 AM and say, "Please help me - I'm in jam." and they'll say, "I'm glad you called me. Tell me what's going on and what I can do." And vice-versa.

Truth is, I have many more wonderful people in my life than I ever imagined or deserved, especially because I need more space than most when it comes to relationships.

p.s. I also have wonderful neighbors.
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You have a lot to be happy about. What goes around, comes around..Good things happen to good people.. Well done!
 

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