I Will Not be Posting for a While

hearlady said:
Dear Friends, I have been reading your posts and am so touched by the love and support.
I don't believe I have processed this yet.
My children have stepped right in and are taking care of things step by step. Thank God for them.
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HL.. you will not understand this for quite a time yet... you think you're reading this forum and taking it all in what's written, but in truth you will find.. that 6 months or a year down the line, you will re-read, and feel you're reading for the first time.
That is so understandable and normal.

You won't process that your husband is no longer with you, for quite a time yet, often it's about the time people think you've ''got over it''... .. the process is brutal.. but the comfort for you are your 3 children who have also lost their dear father... and you will also be their comfort too...
Grief is an abuser....
Feel free to talk, as much as you want.. don't feel you're a bore or a burden to any of us 🤗
 
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Last night was the first night alone in the house. I needed it. I was at the beach for a week, then "this", then my children taking turns staying over, then staying at my daughter's on New Years eve.
I slept deeply.

The funeral Is a week from tomorrow, Friday. Because of the holiday, logistics, and his death being out of state, we were in limbo until we decided to make it the 9th to be sure. That way we can get an obit out so people can plan. Once I had a date I could relax a bit. I have plenty to keep me busy for quite a while.

I see why funerals usually happen quickly. It's that need to lay him to rest, to know he's safe, and know he's in his final place.
2026 will be the year my life changed. A season that many wives know.
 
hearlady said:
Last night was the first night alone in the house. I needed it. I was at the beach for a week, then "this", then my children taking turns staying over, then staying at my daughter's on New Years eve.
I slept deeply.

The funeral Is a week from tomorrow, Friday. Because of the holiday, logistics, and his death being out of state, we were in limbo until we decided to make it the 9th to be sure. That way we can get an obit out so people can plan. Once I had a date I could relax a bit. I have plenty to keep me busy for quite a while.

I see why funerals usually happen quickly. It's that need to lay him to rest, to know he's safe, and know he's in his final place.
2026 will be the year my life changed. A season that many wives know.
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HR... your husband is being buried on my wedding anniversary 🤗
 
I am in favor of putting funerals/memorial services/ celebrations of life off for a little while, especially when the death is "sudden".

It allows family/friends to make arrangements to be there. Everyone is a little less "raw". People can talk and remember and comfort each other.

When my husband died unexpectedly and instantly, we held his memorial service three weeks later. It was at his favorite fish camp. We cried, we talked about what he meant to us, we laughed at funny stories people told about him and we went out in a flotilla of boats to scatter his ashes at his favorite fishing spot.
 
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