I'm concerned about Pepper.

Teacher Terry said:
Obviously, you’ve never had family members or friends in a subpar rehab/nursing home facility. I have lived that experience and I can tell you that sometimes there are ulterior motives for keeping people even by the doctors of such facilities. My friend was much better off once I got him out of there. A similar situation happened with my mother.

My mother-in-law went into recover after having a major surgery and she kept telling them she didn’t feel well and by the time they finally took her blood and sent it out to be tested they found out she had a raging infection. She was only 67 and they were going to transfer her to the hospital immediately except she was dead. She never should have died.

If they would’ve listened to her right away when she said she didn’t feel well, but both us and her had to keep telling them repeatedly. After that experience, it made me much more proactive when advocating for family or friends in such facilities.
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Just stating an alternative viewpoint to this complex situation - I think it's also called 'democracy'?
 
I'll tell you a nursing home story:

My brother-in-law's mother was in one and she was getting pain patches. The old one was to removed when the new one was applied.

She was found unresponsive and rushed to the hospital. At the hospital, it was found that she had more than a dozen patches on her back.

Yep, they weren't removing the old ones and the old patches were still leaching pain meds into her. She had essentially getting several times the prescribed dose. Of course, she was unresponsive.

She improved rapidly and was to be transferred back to the nursing home, but the nursing home said she couldn't come back unless my B-I-L paid for a 24-hour-a-day attendant.

A call to an Elder Abuse attorney ended that quickly. They took her back and gave her excellent care for the rest of her stay.

You might ask why he sent her back to that home? Well, it was the best in town and now they were on alert to provide pristine care at the risk of being sued.

Sometimes you have to make some hard choices.
 
Medusa said:
Oh, dear, Pepper what a terrible mess. :( I'm so sorry about your situation. It sounds like you're unhappy with the decisions you made thus far and they certainly haven't turned out well, at all. Is there no one you've feel you can trust completely to make sound decisions on your behalf going forward?
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I am a new member here and read of what ails you. In some small way I hope this brings you some form of relief.

 
Tomorrow will not be the vascular surgery but it will be a procedure to clean up the wound from prior surgery that was being treated with a vacuum suction. So yet again another delay. This procedure will be performed under general anesthesia.

This whole hospital routine began October 18. Five months. A month or more before this drama began I got what turned out to be toe gangrene
 
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smiley said:
with all due respect folks I do think me may all be playing "guessing games"? - I have not read one response from any other directly associated care provider be they doctor/nurse/physio etc etc - it is a rather one side story undoubtely with genuine sympathy but we are not seeing a balanced picture to what appears to be a complex care/legal scenario??
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What’s the mystery? I had a nervous breakdown in a nursing home setting.

So there’s no issue to debate. Been sick a long time. Went nuts. Back to hospital. Rinse and repeat.
 
Medusa said:
You have responded to my post when you meant this for @Pepper. That's okay. I'm just restating it here for clarity. :)
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I am having a time navigating the site. Eventually I will figure it out. Senility is very difficult to overcome.
Medusa said:
You have responded to my post when you meant this for @Pepper. That's okay. I'm just restating it here for clarity. :)
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I apologize. I'm still trying to figure some aspects of posing.
 
@Pepper My Dear Friend, right now I am so angry reading how you've been treated (or mistreated, more accurately)!! I'm further upset by the fact that I can't do anything to help you. :( I'm sending out positive, healing vibes that your procedure will go well, that this situation will be rectified, that you will receive the proper care you deserve and will be treated with kindness and respect.
Peace & much love.

get better soon Gold wpurple balloons.jpg
 
Pepper said:
To ALL of you guys

I’m overwhelmed at your support and friendship.

I love you and thanks so very much
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Pepper, you have been through so much with being hospitalized and in a nursing home for the past five months. Anyone would have a very difficult time coping.

I have always admired your spunk and personality on this forum as well as your opinion and we are all pulling for you to recover and get back home. Sending giant hugs from all of us here😘.
 
@Pepper It looks like all the kind words have been said. I concur! Can you get your DS/DDIL on board to advocate for you? As in, run interference? And is there a patient advocate at the hospital? When you get to a nursing home again, speak up and tell them you feel like nobody is listening to you and that they don't adequately explain things to you, which is why you get so angry and frustrated with them. Tell your DS/DDIL that, too!

Or. I dunno. I wish you well. I join all the others in wanting you well and at home again. 🤗🤗🤗
 
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