Acquaintances who never ask questions

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Marv Malone

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Do you have friends or people you talk with who never ask you a single question? I know a few, neighbors and a manager I am friendly with. Are they just polite and have no interest in you or me? I have known them for years and I like their company maybe because I'm lonely. I don't volunteer much information about myself to others, maybe that's why.
 
Marv Malone said:
Do you have friends or people you talk with who never ask you a single question? I know a few, neighbors and a manager I am friendly with. Are they just polite and have no interest in you or me? I have known them for years and I like their company maybe because I'm lonely. I don't volunteer much information about myself to others, maybe that's why.
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I do... and I always think it's very strange... I don't know whether it's becuse they're just no interested or if they're just too self absorbed... but it's odd that they can be in my compny for sevral hours sometimes and just never ask anything about me...
 
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I'll take the other side of this and be the "acquaintance who doesn't ask questions." So unless someone is real close to me, why would I not ask questions? Basically because so many people now get so stinkin' offended at insignificant things, that you never know what their reaction would be. I could ask a question and hear "stay in your lane and don't be so nosy." (which happened to my cousin.)

Frankly it's just easier (and safer) to let them tell you what they want to without questions that could be considered probing. 'Tisn't like it was 20-30 years ago. šŸ„ŗ
 
CallMeKate said:
I'll take the other side of this and be the "acquaintance who doesn't ask questions." So unless someone is real close to me, why would I not ask questions? Basically because so many people now get so stinkin' offended at insignificant things, that you never know what their reaction would be. I could ask a question and hear "stay in your lane and don't be so nosy." (which happened to my cousin.)

Frankly it's just easier (and safer) to let them tell you what they want to without questions that could be considered probing. 'Tisn't like it was 20-30 years ago. šŸ„ŗ
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for me I'm not talking about strangers asking personal questions...I'm talking about people who are family members....
 
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I seldom ask questions. If you want to say something about yourself you do it and if you don't you don't. I was on a forum. Just immediately started to talk and lol the owner berated us and said that we had to ask questions and be welcoming to new people. There was an Australian guy. He was like nope. Me too. Culture is similar, I have the idea. You don't force someone to ask questions.
 
Marv Malone said:
Do you have friends or people you talk with who never ask you a single question? I know a few, neighbors and a manager I am friendly with. Are they just polite and have no interest in you or me? I have known them for years and I like their company maybe because I'm lonely. I don't volunteer much information about myself to others, maybe that's why.
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If you donā€™t volunteer much time information about yourself then they probably figure that you do not wish to share. Thereā€™s such a thing as keenly interested and then thereā€™s asking too many personal questions. If someone wants you to know information about yourself, you can probe the conversation with subtle questions. If you donā€™t get a friendly or open response , that ā€˜Usuallyā€™ means ā€œMind you own business.ā€
 
Marv Malone said:
Do you have friends or people you talk with who never ask you a single question? I know a few, neighbors and a manager I am friendly with. Are they just polite and have no interest in you or me? I have known them for years and I like their company maybe because I'm lonely. I don't volunteer much information about myself to others, maybe that's why.
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This reminds me of a Poker game, keeping one's cards concealed until the other player(s) make their play.
 
What you donā€™t know canā€™t be used against you in court - Uncle Vinny the Knife.

I had a coworker who talked constantly usually about herself. I finally learned to ask some inocuous question that would get her going for a long time. I then busied my mind with various things I had to plan my day around while she chatted on and on and on about herself. I donā€™t think she ever caught on to my lack of attention to her chatter, or cared anyway.
 
This is the story of my life. I had never thought about as @CallMeKate said, that it's a reluctance to offend people. I think in my case,, though, when people don't ask me questions, they just don't find me interesting enough.

I heard that it's one of the tests that you can do if you're trying to figure out if someone considers you a friend or not, if they never ask you questions, they probably don't consider you a friend.
 
I have two important people in my life that rarely ask questions or volunteer information but when they do itā€™s important to listen carefully and pay attention.

I donā€™t volunteer much information about myself unless I feel that it has some benefit to the person that Iā€™m with.

I tend to clam up when I feel that Iā€™m being pumped for information or Iā€™m with someone that is gossiping about the people in their lives. I always wonder what the gossips say about me when they move on to their next information sharing session. šŸ˜‰šŸ¤­šŸ˜‚
 
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