Winking and whistling. Acceptable and non acceptable.

[LadyEmeraude]

Males towards female, females to males or any combination in between.

Let's talk and enjoy chatting about it. Open topic.

Your opinions and thoughts. Say it here

 

[LadyEmeraude]

Over my years I have been both winked and whistled at.
It can be lighthearted, flirtatious or many other things.
Also, it can be just a friendly innocent gesture.

Some winking and whistling I don't prefer, just depends
on when and where often times, and whom.

 

[Sunkist]

Not ok- regardless of the specifics.

 

[George1959]

Females to males rather uncommon, males towards females some decades ago widely accepted, now not anymore.

My own opinion? I never did it, because I was too shy and not a good whistler

 

[C50]

I've always considered whistling at a woman rude, but admit to tossing out a few sly winks in my day. I've had women whistle and wink at me and gotten a kick out of it, never felt offended.

 

[Messy]

I have whistled and made kiss sounds. Mmmmwm psss psss psss psss. I did it in former Yugoslavija on a holiday in the 80s and a guy looked so surprised, cause the guys there whistled. Not the girls. I was just making those sounds to a cat though.

I did once send a huge big horribly ugly smiley of a wink to a guy on a dating site. He had in his profile: Please don't send a wink, so I had to.

I still whistle at cats by the way.

 

[PeppermintPatty]

I’ve been whistled and winked at plenty of times and always felt uncomfortable. Especially since I’m in a committed relationship. I’ve never whistled at anyone or winked. It’s not my thing.

 

[LadyEmeraude]

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[Aunt Bea]

Do today’s men still whistle and wink at women?



Sadly, I was never wink or whistle worthy.

 

[LadyEmeraude]

Do today’s men still whistle and wink at women?

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Sadly, I was never wink or whistle worthy.

 

[Murrmurr]

I've never done either. If I wanted a lady's attention, I'd just go talk to her.

I've never worked a job where women had any occasion to walk by unless they worked there, too. They had reason to drive by, when I drove heavy-equipment and the work site was near traffic. Whistling and howling was prohibited, but I wouldn't do it if it wasn't.

I just didn't think it could get a guy anywhere; it could only make him look silly. I wasn't into flirting like that. I took flirting seriously. I had to get an idea of what kind of woman I was flirting with, so there was always a little conversation first. And then, maybe I would or maybe I wouldn't.

 

[Murrmurr]

Do today’s men still whistle and wink at women?

I doubt it.

Sadly, I was never wink or whistle worthy.

Or maybe you were judged too good for it.

Or too sassy.

 

[timoc]

You can whistle at me any time Lauren.

 

[LadyEmeraude]

wink at your pet’s daily. It’s a great exercise

 

[Time Waits 4 No Man]

This subject brings to mind this SNL skit:

3 MINUTE PLAY TIME

 

[Lawrence00]

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[MACKTEXAS]

"To whistle is low class and subordinate, and what does the man expect the woman to do in return? She has about 3 resonable choices: ignore it, smile back, or show disgust. Neither party gains anything longterm, so it's sort of pointless." From -> my post 127, 08/02/25

 

[OldFeller]

"To whistle is low class and subordinate, and what does the man expect the woman to do in return? She has about 3 resonable choices: ignore it, smile back, or show disgust. Neither party gains anything longterm, so it's sort of pointless." From -> my post 127, 08/02/25

#4: Or she could be flattered and so take it in the spirit it was intended. No response needed on her part. Just sayin'. Not everyone has an evil intent. When you think of construction workers who are bored to death on the job, seeing an attractive woman makes their day better.

 

[CallMeKate]

"To whistle is low class and subordinate, and what does the man expect the woman to do in return? She has about 3 resonable choices: ignore it, smile back, or show disgust. Neither party gains anything longterm, so it's sort of pointless." From -> my post 127, 08/02/25

Oh, thank you, Mack!!! (For that link.) I knew I saw this conversation before and that picture, but then I started questioning myself and thought maybe it was a false memory or deja vu.

 

[MACKTEXAS]

When you think of construction workers who are bored to death on the job, seeing an attractive woman makes their day better.

In their minds, maybe so, but that doesn't make it any less low class or subordinate.

 

[Messy]

#4: Or she could be flattered and so take it in the spirit it was intended. No response needed on her part. Just sayin'. Not everyone has an evil intent. When you think of construction workers who are bored to death on the job, seeing an attractive woman makes their day better.

Construction workers whistled sometimes in the 80s, which was fun and totally acceptable, but for the rest nope, not in my country. I was a teen with long blonde hair. Nobody whistled or showed any interest ever. I felt like an ugly monster. Then we went to Yugoslavija on a holiday. Really boosted your confidence. They whistled at anything that was blonde.

 

[Trish]

I think it all comes down to the circumstances.

If you mean in a social environment where people are flirting and someone winks then it's fine, especially if the other person is interested. In the context of a social situation then winking is, I think, an innocent gesture of interest. Whistling though is probably a thing of the past.

If you mean just random people winking and whistling at anyone they find attractive - No! You likely didn't mean that at all - imagine being in the supermarket and there's someone winking and whistling at you, they'd probably be arrested!

As construction workers have been mentioned, I probably have an unpopular view because, I think it was a casual form of sexist harassment. The idea that a woman could not walk past a building site without being subjected to wolf whistles, catcalling and sometimes even sexual comments and, it was okay, a compliment even, is just horrible.

 

[nyctrasit5950]

Where I lived construction workers whistled at women just to heckle them, nothing more. They also had the decency not to whistle at couples. That's the way I saw it leastways.

 

[oscash]

I hated walking past the pub when I was young, the men would whistle or do catcalls. I always walked to the opposite side
of the road to avoid them.

 

[nyctrasit5950]

I hated walking past the pub when I was young, the men would whistle or do catcalls. I always walked to the opposite side
of the road to avoid them.

Smart move.