No friends do I care????

[MACKTEXAS]

Becoming more reclusive seems common in later years, since for many people (like myself) most family members and close friends have passed on. I'm okay most of the time alone but I still want some social interaction, even if the people in my life these days would best be described as only acquaintances. To get that I attend church and certain group functions, lunches, etc.

Where a person lives - house, apartment - whatever, makes no difference to me, but I recognize those kind of people mentioned earlier in the thread who are snobs. In mmy experience, there are less of them than there are just regular people, who I gravitate toward. I won't allow snobs to steal my joy or make me hide at home alone.

 

[Aunt Bea]

Exactly, I quit opening my door for that reason. The people who only knock when they want something.

I never answer my door or my phone until I know who it is.

 

[IrishEyes]

I have my times when I love being with a friend or family and other times I need to just sit back and do what
I do and enjoy the solitude. I can't say I crave either one over the other. Just take it as it comes.
I do realize if I get to where I dread other people, for myself, I would talk to my doctor because of experiencing
my mother sink into full blown depression. This is not a hint or suggestion to anyone, this is my view of myself.

I have a neighbor that I will speak with occasionally in the yard, she has invited me over to chat a few times but
she loves to gossip. I won't put myself into that because you know how your words get spread around and all it
really accomplishes is that it makes the one doing the talking to feel better than others. Then you begin to hear
things that were said about you. So I guess I go with my gut on who to become friends with.

 

[hollydolly]

I have to add..further to my last post...that I'm totally energised by being around people...I'm like a duracell battery...where people recharge me... so once I've been out and been among lots of people, that reharge can last me for a long time

 

[officerripley]

If I could meet a bunch of women like this, I'd love to at least mingle with them if not be friends:



Unfortunately, around here just about the only women I've met like this are in their teens, 20s, 30s or 40s; most women any older than the 40s around here only want to talk about their grandkids or gossip about the "ungodly" neighbors. The few fun, interesting women in my age group find me dull or nonexistent.

 

[RuralKanuck]

I have very few face to face friends but one or two email friends who some days are my saviors, but for my son flashing through as he heads for work and returns to have supper with me I would be lost!
I had many fairly good friends over the years but moving through two countries and 10 houses spread across many miles did nothing to enhance that number.
Recently lost my closest friend (both in thought and location) at the age of 86 (I am working on it) and that was a tough one for we had been like brothers for around half those years. But I am in touch with my longest running friends over in England who I have know since he n I were electrical apprentice together in 62, at this point I am the oldest one I know. (not counting some of the folks here eh)

I wist I could say I was content sitting here or wandering in the woods alone for much of the time but for me it aint so so I am turning to the keyboard. Over the years I could fix just about anything electrical or mechanical but electronics and keyboarding are pushing my limits but I intend to keep pecking away once in a while here on SF.

 

[TeePee]

I never answer my door or my phone until I know who it is.

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I don't answer it unless I know who it is. It's too dangerous in nowadays society. Having said that, I rarely have anyone show up on my doorstep unless they are visitors. I live in the suburbs, so rarely (almost never) will a friend or acquaintance drop in unannounced.

 

[That Lady in PA]

I won't allow snobs to steal my joy or make me hide at home alone.

Good for you... I feel the same way.

So sad that some here avoid people because of who those people may or may not be!

 

[RambleTamble]

My only friends are my wife and my dog. People sometimes try to talk to me at the park. I'm generally cordial, but all the while I'm thinking that I'd rather not talk to them, so I just put in my time and then say I need to get going. I guess I'm just not getting any oxytocin production out of the encounters. I don't bond with people.

 

[Quackers]

Love Tulips stop knocking yourself, I'm sure you're not crabby at all.

At least you're making the effort to be out and about. If you feel you 'should' be making the effort talking to others - just give 'em a smile or a hello instead and carry on doing what you do in the library or on your walk.
Maybe a quick remark about the weather (being in the UK someone aways mentions the weather LOL).
People will always drop a comment back. You don't have to 'talk' if you don't want but perhaps your little comment might lighten someone's day as well as your own.

It's great you have artistic talents immersing yourself in being creative. Don't they say artists like to be alone?
What happens to your finished works - do you display them at home?

For myself 'Friends' (besties) are true life people, those I grew up with. We can go days/weeks without contact and pick up where we left off. I could never find anyone to replace them.
(We're currently slipping into joking about our demise and the mischief we'll do to the other/s when we come back to haunt them).

The rest are acquaintances and friendships formed in day to day life, some a pain in the ass much like myself.

 

[Coconut]

I have my times when I love being with a friend or family and other times I need to just sit back and do what
I do and enjoy the solitude. I can't say I crave either one over the other. Just take it as it comes.
I do realize if I get to where I dread other people, for myself, I would talk to my doctor because of experiencing
my mother sink into full blown depression. This is not a hint or suggestion to anyone, this is my view of myself.

I have a neighbor that I will speak with occasionally in the yard, she has invited me over to chat a few times but
she loves to gossip. I won't put myself into that because you know how your words get spread around and all it
really accomplishes is that it makes the one doing the talking to feel better than others. Then you begin to hear
things that were said about you. So I guess I go with my gut on who to become friends with.

I used to have a gosspiy neighbor. She moved several years ago.
I just let her talk and nodded my head.
If she is telling you all she thinks she knows about your neighbors, then she is talking to them about you.

 

[IrishEyes]

I used to have a gosspiy neighbor. She moved several years ago.
I just let her talk and nodded my head.
If she is telling you all she thinks she knows about your neighbors, then she is talking to them about you.

She's been in this community for 20 yrs, I have been here 3. Ain't no way I am saying a word about anyone to anyone.
If I say anything at all it is "So far I've not had a problem with anyone".