How is your day Today? Chat about your plans and achievements 2026....

Morning all, on early walk at 6:45, temp was 57 cloudy with sun trying to peak thru
Its going to be cooler today,temps in the 60's compared to yesterday's high 76
My plans today, go to monthly meeting at 11, ck out today's lunch/dinner menu. My weekly dinner with the guys in dining room at 5:30,I plan to get there ahead of time. Last week I got sidetracked by doing a crossword puzzle,5 min late,1st time that ever happen
Everybody have a good day
 
Some more photos from my trip yesterday... the Grade 2 listed building sits in 250 acres of gardens

this is what you see as you drive in... the drive from the entrance to the house takes 10 minutes...

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I haven't posted much lately because things haven't been going so well. I'm getting ready to scoot out of town tomorrow because my son (and his girlfriend) will be here for the weekend. He's a groomsman in his best friend's wedding. All of his closest school buddies are in the wedding party. I had those boys over for more sleepovers than I can count. I can't sit around here all weekend; I'll end up drinking. I won't let that happen.

I have a good book and some movies lined up to distract me, and I may do some sightseeing, perhaps visit Theodore Roosevelt National Park, although it looks like rain all weekend, so I may just hole up and read. Reading has always been my go-to escape.

On the positive side, the bride's Instagram account is open (i.e., not set to private), so I'm hoping to find some photos of him posted at some point. 💙

Time for me to get to work! I hope everyone has been well. :)
 
Excuse me while I rant..I'm actually shaking with rage...

Those of you who've been here a long time..know the story of how my husband cheated on me 5 years ago, which i discovered had been going on with someone 40 years his junior at work.. and been going on for months. It destroyed our marriage, and instead of taking responsibility for what he did, he kept turning the screw... and left me to deal with some huge issues of his..and some unpaid debts.. and in the meantime blocked me on his phone and social media so i couldn't even contact him to get these things properly dealt with in the aftermath I on the other hand had to for the first time in my life undergo months of Therapy...

I haven't heard from him in 5 years, he put me through a horrendous divorce case this last July, trying not to pay anything to me..( as if I was the one who did wrong in the marriage)... and I had to deal with it through lawyers costing thousands of £££'s...

Today he's sent me an email.. first contact in all these years not ''how are you.. not sorry for the past... not I hope you're ok''..No.. he wants to know if I;ve sold the Spanish house because he wants to take his sidepiece there... :mad::mad::mad::mad:

I sent him a one line reply... I won't tell you what i said...
 
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hollydolly said:
Excuse me while I rant..I'm actually shaking with rage...

Those of you who've been here a long time..know the story of how my husband cheated on me 5 years ago, which i discovered had been going on which someone 40 years his junior at work.. and been going on for months. It destroyed our marriage, and instead of taking responsibility for what he did, he kept turning the screw... and left me to deal with some huge issues of his..and some unpaid debts.. and in the meantime blocked me on his phone and social media so i couldn't even contact him to get these things properly dealt with in the aftermath I on the other hand had to for the first time in my life undergo months of Therapy...

I haven't heard from him in 5 years, he put me through a horrendous divorce case this last July, trying not to pay anything to me..( as if I was the one who did wrong in the marriage)... and I had to deal with it through lawyers costing thousands of £££'s...

Today he's sent me an email.. first contact in all these years not ''how are you.. not sorry for the past... not I hope you're ok''..No.. he wants to know if I;ve sold the Spanish house because he wants to take his sidepiece there... :mad::mad::mad::mad:

I sent him a one line reply... I won't tell you what i said...
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Geez what a skuzzball! I hope you told him off!!! 😒😡🤬
 
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Geez what a skuzzball! I hope you told him off!!! 😒😡🤬
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let's just say he won't have expected the response he got......

This is why he had the damn nerve to mail me after all these years of silence...and putting me through all that chit, because I never verbally battered him for what he did to me... at the time.. I was brokenhearted but I never told him what other people might have told him in the same situation.. people might have told him where to stuff his GF.. and himself where the sun doesn;t shine...

.... but he was still my husband and despite the way he snarled and spoke to me as if I was the one who had cheated, and not him... I didn't retaliate the same way because for me.. he was still my husband, I was still being ''nice'' to him... .. ..despite him cheating on me and putting me through the hell he did.......... but now... 5 years on.. now when I have my life on an even keel and him in my rear view mirror....

..you know when they say , there's a straw that breaks the camels back ?...... well suffice it to say... he knew that by my reply to his mail..:mad:. he's such a coward i doubt that I'll hear from him again...

what's really annoying me now is that...he's back in my head... after it's taken me months now since my divorce last July to not have nightmares...
 
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hollydolly said:
Excuse me while I rant..I'm actually shaking with rage...

Those of you who've been here a long time..know the story of how my husband cheated on me 5 years ago, which i discovered had been going on which someone 40 years his junior at work.. and been going on for months. It destroyed our marriage, and instead of taking responsibility for what he did, he kept turning the screw... and left me to deal with some huge issues of his..and some unpaid debts.. and in the meantime blocked me on his phone and social media so i couldn't even contact him to get these things properly dealt with in the aftermath I on the other hand had to for the first time in my life undergo months of Therapy...

I haven't heard from him in 5 years, he put me through a horrendous divorce case this last July, trying not to pay anything to me..( as if I was the one who did wrong in the marriage)... and I had to deal with it through lawyers costing thousands of £££'s...

Today he's sent me an email.. first contact in all these years not ''how are you.. not sorry for the past... not I hope you're ok''..No.. he wants to know if I;ve sold the Spanish house because he wants to take his sidepiece there... :mad::mad::mad::mad:

I sent him a one line reply... I won't tell you what i said...
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So sorry @hollydolly
And he never will take responsibility for what he has done!
That is the way people like him are.
You have every reason to be upset...but just remember...
The best revenge is to do good for yourself!
🤗
 
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KSav said:
I haven't posted much lately because things haven't been going so well. I'm getting ready to scoot out of town tomorrow because my son (and his girlfriend) will be here for the weekend. He's a groomsman in his best friend's wedding. All of his closest school buddies are in the wedding party. I had those boys over for more sleepovers than I can count. I can't sit around here all weekend; I'll end up drinking. I won't let that happen.

I have a good book and some movies lined up to distract me, and I may do some sightseeing, perhaps visit Theodore Roosevelt National Park, although it looks like rain all weekend, so I may just hole up and read. Reading has always been my go-to escape.

On the positive side, the bride's Instagram account is open (i.e., not set to private), so I'm hoping to find some photos of him posted at some point. 💙

Time for me to get to work! I hope everyone has been well. :)
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Are you afraid you'll run into them? Otherwise why not face them being in town, stay home, and be proud of how you're dealing with it sober.
Every time you face something without drinking you will become stronger.
 
Good morning, it is cloudy with rain for this afternoon, again.

I am so sorry to hear all the problems that everyone on here is having at this time. I send my best wishes to all of you.

I went to my doctor visit yesterday and some of my tests were not very good but I am to repeat them in a month.

Stay as well as you can, everyone and have a good day. :)
 
hearlady said:
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Are you afraid you'll run into them? Otherwise why not face them being in town, stay home, and be proud of how you're dealing with it sober.
Every time you face something without drinking you will become stronger.
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Yes, I am afraid of that, @hearlady, but you make an excellent point. I am starting to realize that I need to stop obsessing over the past, and beating myself up all the time, and focus on the progress I have made. I just really, really wish he would forgive me. We were always very close. I miss him so much.
 
Light rain for next few hours, so am home. Later today will get poked for a 4 month blood test. Otherwise, should complete HTML coding for uploading a couple web pages.

Surveyed upcoming local music through mid June. Should really enjoy tomorrow Friday May 29, as an AC/DC tribute band is playing late afternoon locally for free outdoors. This coming end of month weekend not much. Then the following weekend is the annual huge Union Street Festival up in San Francisco followed by another with multiple street band setups, the North Beach Festival 2 weeks later.

For mid June, have been monitoring conditions in order to do something up in the eastern Sierra Nevada.
 
KSav said:
I'm getting ready to scoot out of town tomorrow because my son (and his girlfriend) will be here for the weekend. He's a groomsman in his best friend's wedding. All of his closest school buddies are in the wedding party.
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Ha ha, I had to come back and share my rather silly fantasy of sweeping into the church, dressed all in black—picture Maleficent in Sleeping Beauty—and just glaring balefully around at everyone. :ROFLMAO: :ROFLMAO: :ROFLMAO:

I'd never do that, of course. I genuinely like the groom and all of my son's friends. But a little fantasizing can be fun.

All right, back to work for me!
 
KSav said:
I haven't posted much lately because things haven't been going so well. I'm getting ready to scoot out of town tomorrow because my son (and his girlfriend) will be here for the weekend. He's a groomsman in his best friend's wedding. All of his closest school buddies are in the wedding party. I had those boys over for more sleepovers than I can count. I can't sit around here all weekend; I'll end up drinking. I won't let that happen.

I have a good book and some movies lined up to distract me, and I may do some sightseeing, perhaps visit Theodore Roosevelt National Park, although it looks like rain all weekend, so I may just hole up and read. Reading has always been my go-to escape.

On the positive side, the bride's Instagram account is open (i.e., not set to private), so I'm hoping to find some photos of him posted at some point. 💙

Time for me to get to work! I hope everyone has been well. :)
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Ksav how do you know your son is going to be a groomsman ?.. who told you ? if you're reading instagram or facebook ...you're just keeping the wound open hun..... it's best you just don't know what's going on , and you can move on with your sobriety and peace...
 
hollydolly said:
Ksav how do you know your son is going to be a groomsman ?.. who told you ? if you're reading instagram or facebook ...you're just keeping the wound open hun..... it's best you just don't know what's going on , and you can move on with your sobriety and peace...
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This (my cyberstalking) is embarrassing to admit. I saw the engagement news on his friend's Instagram more than a year ago and found their website on The Knot.

And you, too, are right: Keeping tabs online is NOT helping. I've pretty much stopped. (Really!) It just amounts to rubbing salt in the wound.

I know that I won't be able to resist checking in a few weeks to see if any photos are posted. But I know I need to stop all this.
 
KSav said:
This (my cyberstalking) is embarrassing to admit. I saw the engagement news on his friend's Instagram more than a year ago and found their website on The Knot.

And you, too, are right: Keeping tabs online is NOT helping. I've pretty much stopped. (Really!) It just amounts to rubbing salt in the wound.

I know that I won't be able to resist checking in a few weeks to see if any photos are posted. But I know I need to stop all this.
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oh bless you..I know how much it's hurting you... but you know as you just admitted, you're keeping that wound open by looking at info about him... for your own sanity you've got to stop...you can't move on if you don't.

It's very hard for you, but you have to tell yuorself.. if he wants to he will contact you... hurting yourself won't make it happen quicker..🤗
 
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