I have seen a lot of marriages break up over one of the spouses have an extra marital affair. I had a close friend go through this and he wasn't right for several months and only through therapy was he able to function for quite awhile. The hurt, the pain, the embarrassment, the guilt that my friend suffered was really incomprehensible. I felt really bad for him and there wasn't anything that I could do to help him, except be a good listener. To this day, he still isn't the old Joe that I used to know. He never remarried or even dated after that.
I have also seen a lot of destruction come from a spouse who has wondered, including assaults and murder. We even had one case where a fellow committed suicide because he was very heart broken over the fact that his wife would cheat on him. He left behind an eight page handwritten letter on both sides of the paper. It appeared to us at the time that he had cried while writing the letter because of the ink ran in certain areas and looked like the way ink gets when it gets wet.
One fellow followed his wife's lover for two weeks to learn his habits. Then, one morning as the boyfriend was going out to the driveway to get into his car to go to work, BANG!! One shot to the temple through the window. He walked right up to the car and shot through the glass. After that, he called 9-1-1 and turned himself in. His defense was a "Crime of Passion." This is pretty much the norm for this type of crime.
I also had a young man, maybe about 22 years old, kill his wife's lover with a baseball bat and walk out of the courtroom. The jury found him not guilty by reason of temporary insanity. He had a really good lawyer that was able to convince the jury that when this young man came home early from a hunting trip and found his wife in bed with her lover, he just completely lost it. There was a baseball bat in the corner of the bedroom, which he grabbed and then pummeled the other guy.
I have also seen a lot of destruction come from a spouse who has wondered, including assaults and murder. We even had one case where a fellow committed suicide because he was very heart broken over the fact that his wife would cheat on him. He left behind an eight page handwritten letter on both sides of the paper. It appeared to us at the time that he had cried while writing the letter because of the ink ran in certain areas and looked like the way ink gets when it gets wet.
One fellow followed his wife's lover for two weeks to learn his habits. Then, one morning as the boyfriend was going out to the driveway to get into his car to go to work, BANG!! One shot to the temple through the window. He walked right up to the car and shot through the glass. After that, he called 9-1-1 and turned himself in. His defense was a "Crime of Passion." This is pretty much the norm for this type of crime.
I also had a young man, maybe about 22 years old, kill his wife's lover with a baseball bat and walk out of the courtroom. The jury found him not guilty by reason of temporary insanity. He had a really good lawyer that was able to convince the jury that when this young man came home early from a hunting trip and found his wife in bed with her lover, he just completely lost it. There was a baseball bat in the corner of the bedroom, which he grabbed and then pummeled the other guy.
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