Old curmudgeon here. Apparently 20 somethings have somethings to learn including one returns borrowed items. It is not automatically yours. Their sense of entitlement includes assuming anytime they borrow something they don't have to give it back, nor should they like it's law or something. But it's platitude many use to rationalize being unable to collect a debt but a debt never the less.
The neighbors young adult child came over knocking on the door in huff on a rainy day saying they needed to borrow an umbrella, ok in the name of good neighborly relations and past dealings with the parents no problem. She saw me a few days later and asked to keep it. I said no we need it and even gave them a few more days use out of restraint. The look on their face was complete & utter surprise, shock and as in how dare you. They agreed to eventually give it back. Setting aside the sense of entitlement my thing is they have been using the bus and/or bumming rides for years and now she needs a umbrella while waiting on rainy days? She's not the only one. Yeh if you loan money to a junky or bum don't expect it back as the old platitude or saying states. Is everyone a junky or bum? Do they not have pride? There is an unwieldy sense of entitlement for several generations 50 or under. Even worse are adults that never grew up or matured and play those games.
Now I see why but don't condone but see why gangsters collect debts the way they do.
The neighbors young adult child came over knocking on the door in huff on a rainy day saying they needed to borrow an umbrella, ok in the name of good neighborly relations and past dealings with the parents no problem. She saw me a few days later and asked to keep it. I said no we need it and even gave them a few more days use out of restraint. The look on their face was complete & utter surprise, shock and as in how dare you. They agreed to eventually give it back. Setting aside the sense of entitlement my thing is they have been using the bus and/or bumming rides for years and now she needs a umbrella while waiting on rainy days? She's not the only one. Yeh if you loan money to a junky or bum don't expect it back as the old platitude or saying states. Is everyone a junky or bum? Do they not have pride? There is an unwieldy sense of entitlement for several generations 50 or under. Even worse are adults that never grew up or matured and play those games.
Now I see why but don't condone but see why gangsters collect debts the way they do.
I don't think attachment is the issue.
