I didn't post anything on the funeral home site for either of my parents, my Aunt (she was my god mother), or my childhood best friend.
I did go to my best friend's funeral. Went to my parents 'memorial' service and my Aunt's.
Of course, the only one that died to me was my best friend...saw him laying in the coffin. Cried my heart out.
As far as my Mom, Dad, and Aunt...didn't see them so it's like it didn't happen. Mom must still be out with her good friend out shopping, Dad must be walking up to the 7-Eleven to get his paper, and my Aunt is still in the nursing home.
Not every one is wired the same...I know my folks are gone, but if I don't see it, then never had the closure...it's not real to me, in my heart.
When I got the call about my best friend, I had no issues...made a reservation, flew up...everything's fine. Wasn't until I saw him that it was real.