Recent content by babs75

New to this forum... I started BACK to the gym 11 years ago. I was overweight, out of shape, cholesterol off the chart. I had not been on a regular workout schedule for a long time. A month after I started back to gym, I got laid off my job during the recession. I was laid off for 1-1/2...

I have had to learn to pick and choose my battles over the years to keep the peace. But it doesn't mean that I don't hold a lot of stuff inside. It seems to be worse now that he's here all the time. I used to take vacation days during the week to get a day to myself but I can't even do that...

Oh, absolutely not. I don't like to be dominated at all. I'm extremely independent and I think that's part of the problem. He wants a wife to take care of him, make him feel important, etc. I've never been that way and I'm not going to change now. I hate being fussed over.

He gets upset because his grown sons don't like to do anything with him either. I suggested once that possibly he should take a look at why no one wants to hang out with him. He has a pretty short fuse and they joke when he's trying to work on a project and doesn't lose his temper like he...

He does not feel I pay enough attention to HIM. That's the dad problem. "Everything is always about your dad." "Your dad is calling AGAIN." And on it goes. The guardianship/conservatorship takes a fair amount of time. I have a full life. A full time job, trips to the gym 4 times a week, dad...

He did it behind my back. We were supposed to meet with our tax guy first and he didn't do it. He was going to look over our situation when my husband retired to tell us the best way to go taxwise. He went straight to our financial planner and took it without my knowledge. This is the same...

He took the $20,000 out in stocks to put a well in up on our property so we don't have to haul water anymore up to our property 2 hours north of here. So far, it has come out less than that (they didn't have to drill down as far as they thought but $20,000 was the number we were originally...

Yes, after this many years of my counseling, she merely listens but has taught me three things about my dad: 1) It's OK to say 'no'; 2) I have to set boundaries; and 3) that the needs of myself and my family come first. I've been back in dad's life for 4-1/2 years. Prior to that, he was...

You know what? I'm not going to blow 8 years of sobriety over this. I drank all those years for a reason. And if there's anyone here in the program, they know what I mean. Constantly told I'm not as much fun as I was when I drank. Too much good stuff going on.

I would guess that other women would not have put up with this as long as I have but I never wanted to start over so I've stayed around all these years. Not worth the financial impact or what it would have done to my kids. I've spent all these years just trying to keep the peace, doing...

We have several other TV's but then I have to pick up my laptop, knitting, water, etc and move to the next room. Sometimes I just fire up my laptop (we have streaming TV), put in my earbuds, and watch in my lap. Of course, then I get many comments about how much time I'm on the computer too...

My favorite line when he starts getting too controlling and bossy with me is "you need to quit worrying about me so much." That usually quiets him down. I am very self sufficient and hate being fussed over. I actually suggested separate vacations the other day. He didn't like that so much...

Yeah, that "in the house" thing. I don't understand it. Like I said, the sewing and crafting have gone by the wayside pretty much unless it's knitting in front of the TV (and I have a one year old granddaughter who I starting sewing for a year ago!) because that room is upstairs as is my work...

Too many years of walking on pins and needles here. I gave up long ago. He is as stubborn as they come and my son and his wife had NO idea what he was like until they moved in with us a couple years ago for a few months when they were shopping for a house. I do what ever I do to keep his...

Once or twice a week for maybe an hour. They are only 5 houses down the street but both work and I need to give them their own space.