Recent content by GuardianAngelof4

Mmmm, it's debatable. She originally moved in with my son from her mother's house and they didn't speak for about two years after that. That first Christmas, they had her send the kids' Christmas gifts to my house so she wouldn't even have the address to their house. At this point, other...

Yes, he's tried to mediate in the past - the gist of mediation was "She wants to know if you like her, and why you treat her kids differently from the other kids, and why they don't get all the same privileges" etc. In other words, he has wanted me to change... what? exactly? How I look at...

They are not supposed to be allowed soda even when they are at their mother's house by his rule. Pretty sure that one is not followed because trying to control how the ex handles parenting inside her home? What's crazy about that is, until maybe 6 months ago, he drank Mountain Dew non-stop.

Yep on the iPad. Message services have been removed already, that was pretty much the first thing I did. And I am embarrassed, of course I am. Same as anyone would be if their private thoughts were shared with someone not intended.

All good thoughts, and I agree with you. It's not that I don't accept her kids, I do. It's not that I think they don't deserve my love and attention, they do. My son spends more time with them than he does his own kids (shared custody of his own). And when I said I can't treat them the same...

According to the GF, his ex felt the same way, that we, his sisters and I, acted superior to her. Again, not besties with the ex but we do keep in contact (she's the mother of my grandchildren, after all) and she's never said anything like that to me. Also, yes, they are acting like we are...

That's what I'm afraid of. To keep the kids from me, because I didn't "love GF's kids the same" is punishing the kids more than me.

That might have worked before she violated my privacy. But she so anti-extended family - at least on my side - right now. We are all against her and anything I say or do will come across as "fake" or "forced". One of the things my son said to me is that he was sorry he couldn't be around all...

I doubt that will happen, at least not at this point. They seem to make each other happy and from here it looks like her kids really love him, and in a lot of ways she is good for him. It's just this stumbling block with them that we - his sisters and I - cannot meet the expectations they have...

While he and his ex-wife are still in an acrimonious relationship, she and I still communicate. We aren't besties or anything, but she shares events and messages from the kids and loves that they come to see me once a week or so. I don't think he will be able to prevent them from seeing me...

I really thought we were making progress. The kids have been joining us for weekly get-togethers, just me and grandchildren and step-ish grands, and I have been trying to interact with them and learn their likes and dislikes. There are 4 in the same age group 9.5, 10, 10, 10.5 and for the most...

Mother of 4, grandmother of 10 (or 6 depending how you count). Here to research and for the advice.

I don't know if this will help or if anyone has any advice. I'm kind of at my wit's end. My son has three children - two are officially, legally, biologically his. One he acted as daddy since she was 4 months old when he married her mother. There was a bitter divorce when kids were 11, 9...