“You scared me!” – accusatory? normal?

AZ Jim said:
Under the circumstances of the OP, I see it as a non-issue. The person could have limited peripheral vision and whether she was "scared" or more likely "startled" by anothers approach seems to me to just of no major concern. Does it impact someone somehow? I don't get it.
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Well, it seems the co-workers were a bit put-out by her behavior, and threatening to go to the supervisors.

That she wastes the time of her co-workers by talking about it might be another squeeze-point ...

And last, that she just doesn't seem to fit-in to the office culture causes disruption.
 

Discussion threads don't always have to impact (whoever). Sometimes people post things just to talk about something or get feedback. We all could click on a couple dozen threads that we "don't get" and pick them apart or try to stir something up, so to speak, - if that's how we wanted to spend our time.

That aside, when someone is so confused and doesn’t understand the point of a thread or they don’t “get it”, common sense says to simply move on. :wink:
 
jujube said:
I startle easily, especially if I'm off in a world of my own. It drives the Spousal Equivalent crazy....he's always saying, "Well, who the hell did you THINK was it going to be?"
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Lol Jujube! :) I sometimes get startled by my husband at home and tell him "you scared me!!" Sometimes I'm just in my own little world and he's done nothing out of the ordinary except appear out of nowhere. But a lot of times he will do things to 'scare' me in a playful way. If I'm out in the yard for example, standing near the house, he may quietly open a window and give a loud 'psssst', just enough to make me jump a little and react 'angrily'. :love_heart:

Luckily, in the workplace it was a different story, many people could approach at any given time in any area and I wouldn't be startled. I imagine if there was someone at the job who did get scared easily, but then blew up every encounter that scared her to other employees, it would get a bit tiresome if it happened too often. I guess I'd feel sorry for her more if she didn't get overly dramatic about it afterwards when gossiping to coworkers.
 

I was doing radar on the PA Turnpike some years back and a car tripped the gun at 88 mph in a 50 zone because of construction not being worked at the time, but pylons were up. We were issuing citations above 76 that day. Normally, I would even allow a few more, but 38 over the limit cannot be over-looked. So, I chased the car and followed it for three miles waiting for the driver to pull over while I was flashing my headlights. After the three miles, I gave the siren a quick 'toot' and then flipped on the rooftop lights. Finally, the driver pulled over. When I got up to the car's driver side window, I learned that the driver was a young lady. I asked her why she didn't pull over sooner. She told me that I scared her.
 
On the scale of things that would annoy me this would be pretty low on the list. Maybe her co workers dislike her for other reasons and are focusing on this. Sometimes you meet people and they grate on you but you're not sure why.
 
She sounds odd and I agree with hollydolly's post.

I wonder if she is hard of hearing a bit? Doesn't hear others approaching?

Or she's just a bit of a freak show. Sounds like she is good at blabbing her mouth though.
 
Kitties said:
She sounds odd and I agree with hollydolly's post.

I wonder if she is hard of hearing a bit? Doesn't hear others approaching?

Or she's just a bit of a freak show. Sounds like she is good at blabbing her mouth though.
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Nah, like I said before I asked and friend said her hearing is excellent. Seems she can hear a conversation going on that's quite a distance from her - i.e. she's an eavesdropper. Butts into and repeats other people's conversations.
 

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