18 year old looking for solid advice on life

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I hope I don’t get banned from this site. I do realize it’s a seniors-only forum. I’m only asking for some advice. I don’t really wanna talk to my parents about it because it’s awkward. So I come to you kind internet strangers. I’ll try to be not too vulgar.

I’m 18 (a guy) and absolutely lost. I have no idea where I am in life. In practice, I do go to college and have a job but they’re just...there. I feel detached. For the past 2 years I’be come to the harsh realization that I am worthless. I have no actual skills or anything I exceed at. I go to a junior college because my high school grades sucked. I’ve sucked at sports, music, art, video games, everything. I’m just no good.

So I’m at a point in life where I am chasing a wealthy lifestyle. My major is accounting. Research indicates that accountants can very well be making good money after a few years of experience.

I don’t drink, I’ve smoked weed a few times. I don’t party or have wild sex. I’m actually a virgin. Makes me feel even more pathetic.

I guess what I wanna know is, from you older (not old!) people is that..does it get better? How do you have a meaningful life if you ******* suck at everything? Thanks in advance. Hope I don’t get banned. I’m off to work now, on football Sunday no less. Shame.
 

When I was 18 I was running the woods like a freakin' savage. Drunk, high, driving without a license, carrying guns, quite sure I would never see 20.

You need to enjoy your youth, my friend. It is fleeting.

Don't take things too seriously. Learn to enjoy the little, everyday things. Do what makes you happy, within reason and don't worry about what others may or may not think of you.

Protect your health, your driver's license, your credit and don't get a criminal record and you will be fine.

If you need someone to talk to, let me know.

Brent
 
Most people have to 'grow into' their life. Be patient. Each day just do the best you can with whatever life throws at you. Treat mistakes as learning tools and move on. Be your own best friend and for a little practical advice - invest in a good quality electric tooth brush and use it religiously. It will pay for itself in dental costs.
 

You are 18, meaning you have just graduated high school. Accounting is a pretty stable career choice. I think folks will always need accountants, despite ho much can be done online. It is pretty much the norm, at your age to feel a little bit overwhelmed. You are considered an adult, by some standards, but are not quite a grown up. Trust me, there are people OUR age who are looking back to YOUR age, wondering if they have made all the "right" choices. The answer is an absolute "probably not".
Make the choices now that seem right for now, and your immediate future. If you decide your career choice is not right, they look into other options. And remember, you will not be making a lot of money overnight.
Just keep hanging in
 
I am 82. My advice would be don't expect "pat" answers to solve the mysteries. Do the things that make sense for your future and don't find yourself dwelling about today to the point it doesn't allow your tender age to appreciate all the good that surrounds you. You'll see it if you just relax and allow yourself to enjoy life. Be thankful for your youth, it doesn't get better as time rolls by. Good luck young man........RELAX...........
 
Your post reminded me of this line from a song made popular by The Three Degrees: "Is this my beginning or is this the end..."

Maybe you suck at so many things due to a lack of dedication/experience or maybe because you have not found something that you feel passionate about.

Getting an education that will provide you with a solid financial future is a wise move, everybody needs a day job!

It doesn't cost much to be young concentrate on building relationships with people that you care about, stay out of debt, stay in school, save your money, stay out of trouble with the law and make some memories.

If you are lucky you find someone that will put up with you and share your life. Until then use your time to prepare for that good life.

“Luck Is What Happens When Preparation Meets Opportunity" - Seneca
 
I don't know much about accounting, but just keep in mind that just about every type job is being looked at as becoming computerized. So get into technology, if only into your field of interest, but over all is even better. That's the future, and the good thing is you can get into it now, and use your time proactively and preventing yourself from getting yourself into trouble getting into other things. Of course, no hacking--hahaha. All the best.
 
Worthless at 18? No. You have a long life ahead with many opportunities to reinvent yourself whenever your current situation is not working.
You don't drink! Excellent choice. I wish I never had.
Enjoy your life. Find your passion. Don't quit.
Your life can be completely different in 6 months time. Start over tomorrow, forget yesterday.
Carpe diem my friend.
 
Boy, there’s some really good answers here.

A couple thoughts from me;

It’s nice to read some serious thoughts and concerns of a young person.

However, my first thought and advice would be to not take life itself so freaking seriously.
Some, yes, but as to your being lost, hell, you haven’t even started the journey!

And your worth? Kid, you are so ahead of the majority of your generation.

Lighten up a bit (right here yer going WTF?)
….and I’m going (how does he do that, Gary?)

For starters, I suggest going to a mall

Grab a seat in the walkway seating areas

I suggest near a toy store or food court

Watch folks go by

Notice the dad, trying to get his screaming kid past the toys

Notice the new mother, seeking a place to change her sweet little baby with a poop filled pamper.
You don’t have these concerns

Read into the expressions of shoppers

Try to imagine their thoughts

Watch the overweight folks struggle with passing the food court

It’s entertaining

And get’s yer mind off you.

And that’s my advice

Git yer mind off you

Or life around you, will pass you by

I have more thoughts on this, but haven't thought of them yet
 
It looks like Giantsfan hasn’t logged in since posting on 30 September, but I hope he’s read your great replies and I wish I’d met people like you when I was 18....
 
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One type of lifestyle does not fit all. We are all unique individuals who have our own style, live life on our own terms and at our own pace. Never let peer pressure dictate who you are and who you will become. You are young and still growing in every sense of the word. You will find your passion that will motivate you. You will discover your talents and your inner strength that will propel you to where you want to be.
 

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