A major new trend is sweeping the world!

treeguy64

treeguy64

Hari Om, y'all!
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The fastest growing demographic in the world, today, is that of single person residences. People are choosing to go solo in record numbers. The internet allows these people to still feel like they're part of a community, and with some searching, any person online can find a community of like-minded individuals to reinforce that person's convictions that he/she is right about everything he/she holds dear. Heck of a deal, right? The negative side of this is that if the solo dweller desires to meet someone in the flesh, that person is ill-equipped to deal with that reality, since online worlds rarely challenge your beliefs if you're in a like-minded group.

As a newly-single, sixty-five year old guy, I'm finding that the women in my age group who get into online dating are self-satisfied and disgustingly smug about the same. I wonder why they even contact me. These women seem to fit the bill for the solo dwellers I've recently read about, the ones who have their social network composed of mostly online "friends." Additionally, solo dwellers report that they enjoy doing what they want to do, when they want to do it, and never have to worry about compromise. I'm not so sure I won't give in to the trend. Dating costs money, puts me in proximity to women I can't wait to get away from, and makes me drive places I don't want to go to. Yeah, maybe I'll lock my doors, have all my food and other necessities delivered, never venture outside, and spend all of my day online. What could possibly be wrong with that, right?
 

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Decades ago, before massive transit, TV/computers and globalization, most men and women who dated and married were raised in the same area of the country, usually within a few miles of each other and they were usually the same or similar race, ethnicity, culture, religion and mindset. So it's no wonder back in the "good old days" there were less loners and less divorce.
 
Have you tried Meet-Ups in your area for seniors TreeGuy? Probably a better way of meeting ppl with your interests in mind and exchanging email addresses or phone numbers...the groups near me are actually an hour or more away so I dont bother with them.......cant stand driving that far even once a week....I wish you the best....
 
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I am a loner because [unlike most] I don't like the world as it is now, so I prefer to live alone in my own little world.
 
Hey treeguy64,

I've been in the computing world for 30+ years, so cyberspace has been a regular part of my world for a very long time. (was happy to find SF!)

Online really is a way to meet and interact with friends, if the effort of real-life is too much at times (or exhausting for an introvert like me).

I enjoy a few get-out-of-the-house things (some of which require distance driving, but SO worth it), but am also treasuring the real-life solitude at this time in my life.

The next adventure, if there is one, will find me just like all the others have. :rolleyes: If not, sighs of relief and gratitude will continue here!

Take care!
 
treeguy64 said:
You are the same as the majority of women I've met for coffee in the last two weeks. As long as you're happy, that's great.
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I am happy when I am in obedience to God who warns me NOT to participate in this evil end of the age world order.
 
Here is my view. I used to think I would be happy stay in my place alone if my husband should pass on before me. But now, I feel I would be more comfortable and safe in one of those senior apartment complexes. I could still have the solitude I crave within the walls of my apartment, with my books, TV and internet. But there would still be easy access to others should I want to interact with humankind.
 
treeguy64 said:
You are the same as the majority of women I've met for coffee in the last two weeks. As long as you're happy, that's great.
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I don't get it. If these women only want to live in their own little world, then why did they agree to meet you for coffee? Are you maybe pushing too hard too soon and scaring them off?
 
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"As a newly-single, sixty-five year old guy, I'm finding that the women in my age group who get into online dating are self-satisfied and disgustingly smug about the same."
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"Yeah, maybe I'll lock my doors, have all my food and other necessities delivered, never venture outside, and spend all of my day online. What could possibly be wrong with that, right? "


Nothing if satisfying yourself works for you. Just be aware that grey hair on the palms of your hands is a dead giveaway for that food delivery person.
 
Olivia said:
I don't get it. If these women only want to live in their own little world, then why did they agree to meet you for coffee? Are you maybe pushing too hard too soon and scaring them off?
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It would be interesting to know what Treeguy expects from the women he dates.
 
I've met a few women who could fit the description Treeguy gave. I think it's a defense mechanism. I think maybe 'some' single women of a certain age try a bit too hard to present as totally self-sufficient, not needing a man. I belonged to one of those neighbourhood senior's meet up groups for a while and I've met a few women that I could hardly wait to get away from too - and I'm a woman. LOL

I sometimes pity the poor man who innocently turns up to these things, they are inevitably outnumbered.

Come to think of it, we rarely saw them a second time.
 
AprilT said:
Good on you, sounds like you have it figured out, now you can spend the rest of your days in bliss. :fun:
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treeguy64 said:
The fastest growing demographic in the world, today, is that of single person residences. People are choosing to go solo in record numbers. The internet allows these people to still feel like they're part of a community, and with some searching, any person online can find a community of like-minded individuals to reinforce that person's convictions that he/she is right about everything he/she holds dear. Heck of a deal, right? The negative side of this is that if the solo dweller desires to meet someone in the flesh, that person is ill-equipped to deal with that reality, since online worlds rarely challenge your beliefs if you're in a like-minded group. As a newly-single, sixty-five year old guy, I'm finding that the women in my age group who get into online dating are self-satisfied and disgustingly smug about the same. I wonder why they even contact me. These women seem to fit the bill for the solo dwellers I've recently read about, the ones who have their social network composed of mostly online "friends." Additionally, solo dwellers report that they enjoy doing what they want to do, when they want to do it, and never have to worry about compromise. I'm not so sure I won't give in to the trend. Dating costs money, puts me in proximity to women I can't wait to get away from, and makes me drive places I don't want to go to. Yeah, maybe I'll lock my doors, have all my food and other necessities delivered, never venture outside, and spend all of my day online. What could possibly be wrong with that, right?
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Interesting thoughts


Maybe guys and gals are heading in the same direction


If I’m still topside when my lady passes, you’ll find me on the coast

Small bungalow with a bay window

(I may build it myself)

Writing desk not far from that window

Golf clubs won’t gather dust

I’ll frequent a bar where they know my name

I’ll remain alone

Nobody will be able to replace, or come after my lady

Nobody

I may get a cat


If I no longer have the majority of my marbles?

Then it won’t matter

I’ll be that weird ol’ man that shuffles around grabbing CNA’s hind ends


...it's a plan
 
Leonie said:
I've met a few women who could fit the description Treeguy gave. I think it's a defense mechanism. I think maybe 'some' single women of a certain age try a bit too hard to present as totally self-sufficient, not needing a man. I belonged to one of those neighbourhood senior's meet up groups for a while and I've met a few women that I could hardly wait to get away from too - and I'm a woman. LOL

I sometimes pity the poor man who innocently turns up to these things, they are inevitably outnumbered.

Come to think of it, we rarely saw them a second time.
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Interesting, most of the co-ed meetup groups I participated in the women and men got along great I have dozens of pictures of fun times spent at the.events. I guess it depends on what attitude each person brings. I also know of a number of marriages that came out of these groups.

I find it more sad when people project their feelings about singlehood, as I know way too many women and men who like their own company enough to not fret over the absence of a mate. Hard for some to fathom, but, such people exist.

You're not totally wrong, of course not, but, tsome only put negative energy out there and expect positive returns. We often get exactly what we give in social situations.
 
Olivia said:
I don't get it. If these women only want to live in their own little world, then why did they agree to meet you for coffee? Are you maybe pushing too hard too soon and scaring them off?
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Please read my op, again, this time paying attention to what I wrote.
 
Gary O' said:
Interesting thoughts


Maybe guys and gals are heading in the same direction


If I’m still topside when my lady passes, you’ll find me on the coast

Small bungalow with a bay window

(I may build it myself)

Writing desk not far from that window

Golf clubs won’t gather dust

I’ll frequent a bar where they know my name

I’ll remain alone

Nobody will be able to replace, or come after my lady

Nobody

I may get a cat


If I no longer have the majority of my marbles?

Then it won’t matter

I’ll be that weird ol’ man that shuffles around grabbing CNA’s hind ends


...it's a plan
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Maybe we'll be neighbors.
 
gennie said:
I've been married an I've been single. Like single better. I've been living solo for the past 30 years. It suits me.
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Same here, been there done that. Though, I never say never, I just say, very unlikely I'll ever do it again. I almost did it again a couple of times, but, for me I knew I was about to make mistakes.
 

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