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LadyEmeraude

LadyEmeraude

Senior Member
Within the Senior Age group there are likely some who might
be experiencing dementia episodes, and probably amongst
forum members. So to be gentle with one another, unless we
know a member to be a pain in the ____ who might be looking
to rock the boat etc. Well I think you all know what I am trying
to say?

That's all, any input welcomed 🤗

I know that on some other Senior forums members have shared
having challenging dementia/memory episodes while they are
trying to post on the topics and threads..


To clarify this is no intended focus regarding members on SF.
 

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LadyEmeraude said:
Within the Senior Age group there are likely some who might
be experiencing dementia episodes, and probably amongst
forum members. So to be gentle with one another, unless we
know a member to be a pain in the ____ who might be looking
to rock the boat etc. Well I think you all know what I am trying
to say?

That's all, any input welcomed 🤗

I know that on some other Senior forums members have shared
having challenging dementia/memory episodes while they are
trying to post on the topics and threads..


To clarify this is no intended focus regarding members on SF.
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Thank you @LadyEmeraude .

I would expand in this thought. During my six years on this site I've discovered that, among those I thought I knew, there are those who are in physical pain, are grieving, are terribly lonely, or are fighting other serious personal battles of which I was not aware. I hope we will all try to make allowances and treat each other with compassion , , , we may not know what they're going through.
 
Tommy said:
Thank you @LadyEmeraude .

I would expand in this thought. During my six years on this site I've discovered that, among those I thought I knew, there are those who are in physical pain, are grieving, are terribly lonely, or are fighting other serious personal battles of which I was not aware. I hope we will all try to make allowances and treat each other with compassion , , , we may not know what they're going through.
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I think it might be better to be polite and discerning all the time rather than categorizing members into various emotional, physical and mental boxes. .When I turn 80 I would hate to think that members are responding to an old demented (although I might be) woman rather than the person I've been known to have been, for better or worse.
 

Personally, I think it's best not to get involved at all if someone looks like they're having an issue.

My experience on forums has been that there's some leeway to create a hassle, potentially by a forum member who might be having a problem, particularly if they've been stable before for a long time, but it's up to the forum owner to decide how much leeway they give. Forum members don't decide that.

Getting in the middle of that just makes more of a mess.
 
The great thing about forums is the variety of opinions generated by members. Some we may not agree with, others we will wholeheartedly agree with . Our job is to treat everyone’s opinion with respect – there is no need to humiliate or denigrate when responding to posts. It may seem like the poster is giving a direct hit to us but it really is better to stay kind rather than fire back to satisfy ourselves that we got the last word in. We all didn’t come this far (age-wise) to resort back to children fighting without word skills. Treat each other kindly.
 
esii said:
However, if we see harassment, rudeness, haughtiness, etc., and we don't intervene what does it say about us?

BTW, I don't claim to know the answer but I'd like very much to hear other seniors' thoughts about "when to speak and when to keep silent".
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When it feels like baiting, move away and don't look back. If you find that you're compelled to stay use the ignore feature as an escape hatch. Don't get reeled in.
 
esii said:
However, if we see harassment, rudeness, haughtiness, etc., and we don't intervene what does it say about us?
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If you see something against the rules of the forum, then I'd report it.

If it's not against the rules of the forum, then it's allowed and no need to intervene or say anything.
 
LadyEmeraude said:
Within the Senior Age group there are likely some who might
be experiencing dementia episodes, and probably amongst
forum members. So to be gentle with one another, unless we
know a member to be a pain in the ____ who might be looking
to rock the boat etc. Well I think you all know what I am trying
to say?

That's all, any input welcomed 🤗

I know that on some other Senior forums members have shared
having challenging dementia/memory episodes while they are
trying to post on the topics and threads..


To clarify this is no intended focus regarding members on SF.
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Thanks for the reminder Lady Emeraude.

I'd like to think my brain is no flakier than it's always been, but Lately I've noticed that I have some complete blanks around things that happened in the past few years.

Like the other day when I bought a foot stool to fit under this desk, got it home and it didn't fit. Toward the end of the event it came to me that I'd bought the same stool and had the same problem a year or so ago.

I know I've been repeating myself here and other places. I apologize in advance for telling the same boring stories over and over. Please just roll your eyes and move on. I wish we'd get one of those "Oops" messages like we get with the overly long paragraphs, only saying "Oops! You said that already."
 
esii said:
However, if we see harassment, rudeness, haughtiness, etc., and we don't intervene what does it say about us?

BTW, I don't claim to know the answer but I'd like very much to hear other seniors' thoughts about "when to speak and when to keep silent".
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It is a terrible problem for me. I have a hard time meeting cruelty to others with silence --there are fragile people here. On the other hand I do try to avoid the infighting.
 
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